I think autistic DS is about to be fired

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Different people are good at different jobs.

The issue is that many jobs don’t pay a living wage. Below a living wage, a person could work 40 hours a week 51 weeks a year and still be unable to support themselves. It’s not just solvable with “get a roommate” for many reasons.

OP, you need to set up an ABLE account for your son if you haven’t already.

[Anonymous]

Holy catasrophizing Batman. If he loses this job, that doesn’t mean he will never be employed. I’m sure it taps into all your old fears from when he was little, and that’s hard. But please realize that your anxiety is making you spiral here and that’s not reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holy catasrophizing Batman. If he loses this job, that doesn’t mean he will never be employed. I’m sure it taps into all your old fears from when he was little, and that’s hard. But please realize that your anxiety is making you spiral here and that’s not reality.

You clearly haven’t read the whole thread. He WAS fired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ASD 23 year old college graduate would never be able to do that job. Too fluid and too many people with different needs (and he is good with people and very social). He got a job working for Amazon Logistics and although the beginning was stressful and he needed some support to learn all the rules (and I think everyone does), it is now perfect for him as it is extremely data driven and he knows exactly what to expect at all times and he is a hard worker. And he loves it. Just some perspective here as I was worried about his job prospects earlier but am a lot less worried now.

I’m so glad to read this and that your DS is doing so well. What does he do for Amazon? Is he a delivery driver?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy catasrophizing Batman. If he loses this job, that doesn’t mean he will never be employed. I’m sure it taps into all your old fears from when he was little, and that’s hard. But please realize that your anxiety is making you spiral here and that’s not reality.

You clearly haven’t read the whole thread. He WAS fired.

+1

There’s a maniac who wants to put our kids on a registry because he thinks they can’t be productive members of society.

That’s not anxiety, it’s grappling with ableism and authoritarianism.

[Anonymous]

I'm proud of your son for trying something he was destined to fail at. That takes courage. Take a lesson from it and look for a "back office" job that suits his abilities and communication skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy catasrophizing Batman. If he loses this job, that doesn’t mean he will never be employed. I’m sure it taps into all your old fears from when he was little, and that’s hard. But please realize that your anxiety is making you spiral here and that’s not reality.

You clearly haven’t read the whole thread. He WAS fired.

That's nonresponsive to PP's comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My autistic DD is working her first summer job right now. It's a job that fits her strengths, but we did discuss the possibility that she may be fired. Not every job fits every person. But getting out there and getting experience is good, even if it ends in firing, he'll still have learned.

Congratulations!

What sort of work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ASD 23 year old college graduate would never be able to do that job. Too fluid and too many people with different needs (and he is good with people and very social). He got a job working for Amazon Logistics and although the beginning was stressful and he needed some support to learn all the rules (and I think everyone does), it is now perfect for him as it is extremely data driven and he knows exactly what to expect at all times and he is a hard worker. And he loves it. Just some perspective here as I was worried about his job prospects earlier but am a lot less worried now.

What what kind of work is that? I assume you don't mean delivery driver. Fulfillment center sorting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ASD 23 year old college graduate would never be able to do that job. Too fluid and too many people with different needs (and he is good with people and very social). He got a job working for Amazon Logistics and although the beginning was stressful and he needed some support to learn all the rules (and I think everyone does), it is now perfect for him as it is extremely data driven and he knows exactly what to expect at all times and he is a hard worker. And he loves it. Just some perspective here as I was worried about his job prospects earlier but am a lot less worried now.

I was just going to say the same thing about my 26yo ASD Level 1 son. He words remotely doing data analytics work. He interacts well with people, but customer service would not be his strong suit. 95% of his work is done quietly on his own. They love him and he's been promoted a few times. He is on the technical promotion track, not managerial, and that works for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here again. He got fired. They told him it wasn’t a good fit and that they like him very much as a person but that he created confusion among guests because he sometimes didn’t know where to direct them or how to answer their questions and that he should have caught on after a day or two. He is devastated. I think it’s useful information.

I'm so sorry, OP! I'm sure he'd have done much better if his supervisor had had the wherewithal to coach him on these details. But that's the nature of employment - some supervisors want people to figure it all out by themselves, and those will not be good fits. It can be hard to tell in advance which post will offer which structure.

My autistic son would have had the same difficulties, BTW.

[Anonymous]

We are missing context to help. WHY is he about to be fired? HOW do you know?

[Anonymous]

I would think a job at a pool would be challenging for someone with ASD. Heck, it would be challenging for me and I am just introverted and hate noise.