Did I go to far?

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Anonymous wrote:Too far to keep the girl you thought was "the one"? Yeah, bro. You totally did.

She's 100% right to have left you. If you'd taken your advice and picked your battles instead of becoming a condescending jerk, listened to the fact that your "the one" girl was upset and, you know, offered comfort, reassurance or other loving responses, she'd still be around.

Instead, you showed your whole ass and she, correctly, left it where it was hanging out.

Good for her. Learn something from this. Your OP has a lot of clues about where you still need to work on yourself, guy who has been divorced and still managed to blow up a new relationship with some selfishness most adults outgrow in their early 20s. You are immature af, and yet you think you have the high ground. You do not.

I asked her about her jewelry 20 minutes after she left

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Anonymous wrote:Learn to prioritize people over games millionaires who will never know you play on tv.

Doesn’t everyone deserve some me time?

You had all week w/o her.

True. There was only 10 minutes left in the game? We’ve been dating all this time and now it’s an issue?

Troll. And a dumb one, too.
There's never "10 minutes left" in a baseball game.

It’s was 4th quarter with 10 minutes left of the nicks and pacers. I didn’t mean it was actually going to be 10 minutes…

The last 10m of any nba game always take 30+ mins, cmon now. There was time.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you both? You both sound too immature for a serious relationship.

She sounds like the mature one. Not OP.

Hardly. Once she recognized the relationship no longer served her and got confirmation through their most recent fight, she left. That's adulting.

I know. I’m agreeing with you lol.

Op may have read immature instead of mature in your post. But I agree with both of you! Gf tried to communicate her needs, op picked a fight by being condescending and petty, gf realized there is no real future here and peaced out. Queen!

Did she really peace out though? OP kind of forced her hand to breakup with him because he was trying to breakup with her.

She didn’t respond to his nasty petty comments, she didn’t argue or yell. Even as she was leaving OP was still trying to aggravate her into a fight. She was as the only adult in this interaction.

I think telling him she’d go back to her ex and that they want her back definitely qualifies as responding to his nasty comments lol

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Anonymous wrote:Lot of OP troll posts all at once Op.

And the typos, ugh

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you both? You both sound too immature for a serious relationship.

She sounds like the mature one. Not OP.

Hardly. Once she recognized the relationship no longer served her and got confirmation through their most recent fight, she left. That's adulting.

I know. I’m agreeing with you lol.

Op may have read immature instead of mature in your post. But I agree with both of you! Gf tried to communicate her needs, op picked a fight by being condescending and petty, gf realized there is no real future here and peaced out. Queen!

Did she really peace out though? OP kind of forced her hand to breakup with him because he was trying to breakup with her.

She didn’t respond to his nasty petty comments, she didn’t argue or yell. Even as she was leaving OP was still trying to aggravate her into a fight. She was as the only adult in this interaction.

I think telling him she’d go back to her ex and that they want her back definitely qualifies as responding to his nasty comments lol

Nope. If you reread, he called her needy, she said she didn’t have this issue in the past and he got nasty and said they were too p***y to say anything and doubled down on the age/single negging. She defended herself saying she broke up with them, he went nastier with his sarcasm and then told her to go back to them because they must be dying to get back with her. She just agreed with him. Did she respond to his comments? Sure. But she wasn’t nasty or petty or sinking to your level at all.

It sounds like she handled this calmly and classily. Op/you could learn a thing or two from how adults handle conflicts.

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You both sound nuts.

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Anonymous wrote:You both sound nuts.

The gf sounds awesome

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It sounds like you both had your own personal issues w/the status quo of your relationship.
The incident when she returned from her trip is just surface…..far below the surface you both have differences that you two need to address together.

Whether this is through talking to each other or seeing a relationship counselor these issues NEED to be talked through if you both are to continue w/a healthy relationship in your future.

Your GF may have already thrown in the towel though according to your post. 🥺

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You sound like you have an avoidant attachment style which is causing her to have an anxious attachment style (likely she had a secure attachment style in those previous relationships she described). It also doesn’t sound like you learned much from your first marriage and you should seek out therapy to understand how to be a better partner. She deserves someone that makes her feel more secure and that unfortunately doesn’t sound like you. My DH is like you but he’s worked on being less avoidant which helps our relationship.

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It's over. She won't forget OP's cruel comments about her age and marriage (which is super rich coming from a divorced loser).

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Whether or not your argument was valid is totally beside the point. You fought dirty and were intentionally cruel and unkind. Why would you say those things to someone you claimed to love? Talking about how nobody wanted to marry her, etc - that’s verbal abuse. I really hope she doesn’t come back. If it were my daughter with such a man, it would break my heart.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you both? You both sound too immature for a serious relationship.

She sounds like the mature one. Not OP.

Hardly. Once she recognized the relationship no longer served her and got confirmation through their most recent fight, she left. That's adulting.

I know. I’m agreeing with you lol.

Op may have read immature instead of mature in your post. But I agree with both of you! Gf tried to communicate her needs, op picked a fight by being condescending and petty, gf realized there is no real future here and peaced out. Queen!

Did she really peace out though? OP kind of forced her hand to breakup with him because he was trying to breakup with her.

She didn’t respond to his nasty petty comments, she didn’t argue or yell. Even as she was leaving OP was still trying to aggravate her into a fight. She was as the only adult in this interaction.

I think telling him she’d go back to her ex and that they want her back definitely qualifies as responding to his nasty comments lol

She never insulted OP. Do you see the difference?

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Anonymous wrote:Whether or not your argument was valid is totally beside the point. You fought dirty and were intentionally cruel and unkind. Why would you say those things to someone you claimed to love? Talking about how nobody wanted to marry her, etc - that’s verbal abuse. I really hope she doesn’t come back. If it were my daughter with such a man, it would break my heart.

+100.

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She met someone on the trip and was looking for a reason to break up. She will have a new guy in a week.

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You did the right thing. She is very high maintenance. Walk away.