Soon-to-be college-aged DD is just too childish

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD (17) is a high school senior who's going to college next year. The problem is, she doesn't exactly act the part. She keeps a mind-blowing amount of trinkets on her nightstand, bedazzles everything, and even wears those old Jojo Sia bows from time to time. I think she's way too old to frankly dress and decorate like she's still in the third grade. I've made some polite suggestions to her about picking a more mature aesthetic, but she just won't listen. What do I do?

Don't worry about it.
She will probably come home first semester from college with goth hair and makeup and wearing zinc studs, or else short Karen-esque blue hair and nose rings and body hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know who else is really into bedazzling?

https://www.wmagazine.com/fashion/dolly-parton-best-fashion-style-photos

Seems to have worked out well for her.

Dolly is a WONDERFUL person who is overflowing with talent.

+1 not a fan of her songs when she sings it, but she has written soo many amazing songs, and she seems like a lovely person. She comes from a very poor background.

I also love that she is short, like me. We're like the same height.

[Anonymous]

I think that Gen Z has had a very very hard time. No generation alive today can compare really. Covid, active shooter drills, the decline of democracy -- who can blame your kiddo for trying relive her?

[Anonymous]

She will find her happiness at the High School Reunion!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, I’m so happy for her to get out of your house and not have to listen to her mom suggest better aesthetics, lol.

+1 and no mention by OP of how DD is doing socially, academically, executive functioning etc in HS. You know, stuff that really matters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD (17) is a high school senior who's going to college next year. The problem is, she doesn't exactly act the part. She keeps a mind-blowing amount of trinkets on her nightstand, bedazzles everything, and even wears those old Jojo Sia bows from time to time. I think she's way too old to frankly dress and decorate like she's still in the third grade. I've made some polite suggestions to her about picking a more mature aesthetic, but she just won't listen. What do I do?

What would be the appropriate amount of trinkets a 17 year old should have? I’m 47 and need to go count mine to make sure the trinket police don’t show up. Come on, why does this matter? She sounds fun.

Way more delightful than that horror of a mother. OP, have you thought that it may be because you're so critical of your child that she's a little immature and young for her age? Being constantly judged makes a child very unsure of themselves. It will be good for your daughter to separate from you and grow into her own person in college without constantly having to justify herself to you.

My teen DD is also a magpie and has a ton of trinkets. Her room is a mess. She has a peculiar sense of style, which I embrace. She's also a witty and sharp-minded individual who will do great wherever she goes. Why on earth would I have doubts about her fitness to go to college just because of these idiosyncrasies????

I'm going to say it. You sound very narrow-minded and stupid.

Is your DD autistic?

[Anonymous]

What would make her feel mature to you, OP?

Being promiscuous? Getting terrible grades? Making her own rules? How about drugs?

Sounds to me like you are asking for trouble. Go make drama in your own life and leave your kid alone. Despite you she seems to be doing fine.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like my DS, also going to college this fall. Maybe they will meet each other

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my DS, also going to college this fall. Maybe they will meet each other

Seems as if many many teens in this generation trend immature and emotionally stunted.

Hope these trends don’t affect anyone’s futures.

[Anonymous]

I know someone like this, and she’s still immature but absolutely killing it academically. She starts her PhD in the fall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my DS, also going to college this fall. Maybe they will meet each other

Seems as if many many teens in this generation trend immature and emotionally stunted.

Hope these trends don’t affect anyone’s futures.

Why does personal style indicate kids being "immature and emotionally stunted"?

She'll go to college and keep on doing her own thing. You can drink do drugs and everything else, even if you wear something bedazzled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What would make her feel mature to you, OP?

Being promiscuous? Getting terrible grades? Making her own rules? How about drugs?

Sounds to me like you are asking for trouble. Go make drama in your own life and leave your kid alone. Despite you she seems to be doing fine.

+1 NP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that Gen Z has had a very very hard time. No generation alive today can compare really. Covid, active shooter drills, the decline of democracy -- who can blame your kiddo for trying relive her?

Wow if that's what you think kids focus on, you are way out of touch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my DS, also going to college this fall. Maybe they will meet each other

Seems as if many many teens in this generation trend immature and emotionally stunted.

Hope these trends don’t affect anyone’s futures.

A result of helicopter parenting and not allowing them to grow up in their childhood and teens and gain independence on their own.

Also all the participation trophy parenting trying to live vicariously for lost or misspent youth of their own.

[Anonymous]

Let her be her. I have found my kid tends to regress in maturity right before a big change - and then he takes a huge step in maturity.