Soon-to-be college-aged DD is just too childish

[Anonymous]

I don’t think liking gems or color and trinkets is really childish. There are plenty of adults that collect those Sonny angels or Labubus or Hello Kitty, etc. Some adults decorate their whole house in what they’re calling “dopamine decor”. If she is immature in other ways that you don’t think she’ll function in college then I might worry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think liking gems or color and trinkets is really childish. There are plenty of adults that collect those Sonny angels or Labubus or Hello Kitty, etc. Some adults decorate their whole house in what they’re calling “dopamine decor”. If she is immature in other ways that you don’t think she’ll function in college then I might worry.

I went to the DMV last week and there was a row of huge Hello Kitty stuffed animals behind the desks. I asked the clerk, because you don't often see that in a government office, and she said one of her coworkers loves Hello Kitty and it makes people happy when they see it. It worked for me!

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she is being herself.
Trinkets?
Bedazzling?
The occasional bow!
The Horrors.

Maybe she won't get into the hot popular blonde girl sorority OP, but she will be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she is being herself.
Trinkets?
Bedazzling?
The occasional bow!
The Horrors.

Maybe she won't get into the hot popular blonde girl sorority OP, but she will be fine.

Would you rather her be drinking and sucking d$&ks every weekend? Because that's what many of the popular, mature 17 yos are doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she is being herself.
Trinkets?
Bedazzling?
The occasional bow!
The Horrors.

Maybe she won't get into the hot popular blonde girl sorority OP, but she will be fine.

Would you rather her be drinking and sucking d$&ks every weekend? Because that's what many of the popular, mature 17 yos are doing.

+1 ppl in this area freak out when kids about 12+ want to still act like kids. I don't get it at all.

[Anonymous]

If that is your biggest concern, then you should Thank God for your good fortune. Many parents are dealing with much more serious problems.

[Anonymous]

OP,

You sound incredibly socially anxious and insecure, and that makes you prone to policing your child and disapproving of any sort of self-expression that isn't part of your extremely narrow and uninformed worldview.

This is damaging to your relationship with your child and it's also very unfair on your part. Your child, as you describe her, seems perfectly sane and normal.

Go to therapy to address your anxiety.

[Anonymous]

Is it bad that this momma is scared her daughter might get bullied

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD (17) is a high school senior who's going to college next year. The problem is, she doesn't exactly act the part. She keeps a mind-blowing amount of trinkets on her nightstand, bedazzles everything, and even wears those old Jojo Sia bows from time to time. I think she's way too old to frankly dress and decorate like she's still in the third grade. I've made some polite suggestions to her about picking a more mature aesthetic, but she just won't listen. What do I do?

In college she will find her people and be happy. It’s easier with the internet to find niche groups. Let her be, mama, and stress if she doesn’t know how to dress business casual when she enters a law firm.

Also, I am a HS teacher, but she sounds like she dresses like some of my ES teacher colleagues. Even if she never changes, there is full time employment available somewhere in any aesthetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it bad that this momma is scared her daughter might get bullied

In College?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it bad that this momma is scared her daughter might get bullied

lmao. It is obvious that you are just the OP exploiting DCUM's anonymous format to pretend like your "concerns" are justified. GTFO "momma".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she is being herself.
Trinkets?
Bedazzling?
The occasional bow!
The Horrors.

Maybe she won't get into the hot popular blonde girl sorority OP, but she will be fine.

Ok but ... Jojo Sia bows? Even Jojo Siwa's outgrown those

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she is being herself.
Trinkets?
Bedazzling?
The occasional bow!
The Horrors.

Maybe she won't get into the hot popular blonde girl sorority OP, but she will be fine.

Ok but ... Jojo Sia bows? Even Jojo Siwa's outgrown those

When I visit my son's college, I see a variety of clothing on the young women. Most are sloppily dressed. Some are professionally dressed (maybe they have internships and jobs). Some have the grunge look. And some have the kawaii esthetic, with large bows in their hair, or anime characters on their bags, or squishies dangling from them, or cute stickers on their laptops. There are a ton of stuffed animals in the campus bookstore.

This isn't the last generation's college experience. Anything goes, which is a great thing. Whatever her style, she will find her people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think liking gems or color and trinkets is really childish. There are plenty of adults that collect those Sonny angels or Labubus or Hello Kitty, etc. Some adults decorate their whole house in what they’re calling “dopamine decor”. If she is immature in other ways that you don’t think she’ll function in college then I might worry.

I agree. She’ll find her people. It’s kind of cool that she has interests beyond electronics. Some kids/people have a very difficult time with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she is being herself.
Trinkets?
Bedazzling?
The occasional bow!
The Horrors.

Maybe she won't get into the hot popular blonde girl sorority OP, but she will be fine.

Ok but ... Jojo Sia bows? Even Jojo Siwa's outgrown those

JoJo Siwa today is all about announcing she is the very first bisexual celebrity, ever!