Is it normal to be depressed about being tall

[Anonymous]

OP, try going to Iceland! The men are all so tall there.

[Anonymous]

I've never seen so many over 6' women in my life than I did in Denmark!

I'm short so can't relate to your height feelings but I am a major outlier in a noticeable physical way so I empathize your feelings of being such an outlier.

[Anonymous]

I hope you can reframe the way you think about it, bc it is an immutable characteristic. Ruminating on it will not change it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tall girls are the beauty standard . Most girls dream of growing tall . A tall woman being insecure is like a skinny blonde girl being insecure . It’s a mental illness that’s has no basis in real life . Tall woman have superior genes and most men want their wife to be tall .

Wut?

No man wants a 6 ft 3 woman. No man wants a woman taller than about 5 ft 9, tbh.

Yeah, I think 5'7"- 5'9" is the sweet spot. Most clothes look good on you and heels will make you really tall in a fun way. However, you can't change your height. I'd just embrace it and try to move on. I have a daughter who is 5'0" and she is really bummed about that too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Have you considered medication? It sounds a bit like OCD that you are ruminating on your height so much and can’t move past it.

I am 6-0. I have females in my family taller than me. I understand what you are saying and am not at all negating there are parts of it that can be hard. But also you can move past this and have a great life.

I would also recommend dating apps where you can make your height clear and date guys who know your height and everyone’s interests and intentions are more clear. I don’t think 6-3 women are going to have a random meet cute with a guy. But you’ll meet someone great if you are a bit more intentional.

I do not have OCD or BDD . I don’t want to be constantly reminded about my height however people do it all the time . I understand woman my height are rare , but as a person who feels uncomfortable in my body being reminded of it all the time makes me feel horrible .

As a fellow tall woman please be more empathetic . I’m not saying I’m oppressed or anything like that , I am being human . Once you’re taller than 99 percent of the population it takes a mental toll on you .

If I was your height I wouldn’t even be insecure in my height nor would I type this up . There’s a world of a difference between 6’0 and 6’3.5 .

You need to go to therapy to figure out how to accept your height, and to accept that people are going to be stupid about your height. DBT would help a LOT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tall girls are the beauty standard . Most girls dream of growing tall . A tall woman being insecure is like a skinny blonde girl being insecure . It’s a mental illness that’s has no basis in real life . Tall woman have superior genes and most men want their wife to be tall .

Wut?

No man wants a 6 ft 3 woman. No man wants a woman taller than about 5 ft 9, tbh.

This is absolute nonsense. SOME guys don't want a 6'3 woman or a 6'0 woman or a 5'10 woman. SOME guys are really into tall women, even really tall women. You just have to find the dating partners who are into what you have. Nobody is attractive to everybody, even the perfect body/perfect height/super hot young things.

I'm 6'0 in my socks and 6'1 in shoes. I've never lacked for male attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tall girls are the beauty standard . Most girls dream of growing tall . A tall woman being insecure is like a skinny blonde girl being insecure . It’s a mental illness that’s has no basis in real life . Tall woman have superior genes and most men want their wife to be tall .

Not necessarily. Many women with Marfan's are tall and lanky but that comes with a price in terms of health, like heart issues.

I really don't think they are comparable. There are millions of skinny blond girls, but very few women who are nearly my brother's height of 6'4. In fact, there aren't hordes of men that tall either.

Tallness is a beauty standard period . Most celebrities trophy wives are all tall and skinny . Most rich men look for tall and skinny woman . So I never understood why tall woman complain about feeling masculine when there’s a whole model industry that promotes their beauty .

Short woman attract low quality men similar to woman who are too curvy or have huge boobs .

Short women attract low quality men? This post is absolutely by one of those tall women who cry about how short girls should leave the tall men for them. Get over it!

[Anonymous]

If you weren't 6'3, you would be insecure and depressed about something else, OP.

[Anonymous]

Even at 5'10" I had similar issues with dating men, although not as severe. The smaller the guy the more they are attracted to me!

It's hard OP, and I can imagine being 6'3" is difficult, I see smaller women being fetishized and desired more and more in our culture than they were even 20 years ago.

On the plus side, your presence is commanding and you may do very well in your career.

[Anonymous]

Check out Michelle Obama's podcast with Conan O'Brien, they discuss feeling out for height "Telling Myself That I Was Enough". They also talk about meeting someone and knowing who is right for you.
It was a great episode for relationships.
Really, all her podcasts are good because she'll touch on those feelings in many episodes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Check out Michelle Obama's podcast with Conan O'Brien, they discuss feeling out for height "Telling Myself That I Was Enough". They also talk about meeting someone and knowing who is right for you.
It was a great episode for relationships.
Really, all her podcasts are good because she'll touch on those feelings in many episodes

What is “feeling out for height”?