Is it normal to be depressed about being tall

[Anonymous]

So many PPs are suggesting that OP "go to the Netherlands." Did you not even read her post??

She literally writes in her OP:

Being tall also makes me feel very lonely because no woman look like me . I went to the Netherlands /Croatia and I towered over those woman .I'm even way bigger than other tall woman .

All of the empathy you're trying to display is meaningless when you can't even retain what OP has told you.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm very, very short. My whole life I have been teased for how short I am. I practically have to starve myself so I'm not obese. I wear uncomfortable heels so that my pants look semi ok.

These are the cards that we have been dealt. I urge you to practice some hard self love. Just know that women like me look at you and think you're amazing.

dp.. I'm probably 4'11, though I say I'm 5'


I don't know who has it worse -- the super short woman or super tall woman. I *hate* being this short. Absolutely loathe it.

When I was younger (up till 33 before I pregnant), I was super skinny size 00 (before they had a 00). I also look very young. When I was in college, people thought I was in MS. Guys probably thought I was in MS so wouldn't approach me though the ones who knew I was in college did. When I started working, people never took me seriously because they thought I was a kid.

Grass is always greener, I guess.

Even though short woman are teased and made fun off . Being a short woman is more acceptable in society than being a tall woman because woman are naturally shorter . Many feminine traits unfortunately are infantilized I think a similar thing happens to woman with high pitched voices .

However most short woman I’ve come across never think about their height or even enjoy it . They usually get themselves a tall guy , and have a happy ever after .

Most women 5'1 under hate their height. I know several of them -- my sisters, friends, etc..

But, yea, I married a 6'3" man. LOL I wasn't looking for someone that tall. I would've preferred 5'10". But, bonus, my kids are on the taller side - almost 6' DS and 5'6" DD.

Yeah short woman are often treated like children but tall woman swear we have a privilege lol . Is being seen as a child a privilege ? Is attracting low quality misogynistic men a privilege ?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm very, very short. My whole life I have been teased for how short I am. I practically have to starve myself so I'm not obese. I wear uncomfortable heels so that my pants look semi ok.

These are the cards that we have been dealt. I urge you to practice some hard self love. Just know that women like me look at you and think you're amazing.

dp.. I'm probably 4'11, though I say I'm 5'


I don't know who has it worse -- the super short woman or super tall woman. I *hate* being this short. Absolutely loathe it.

When I was younger (up till 33 before I pregnant), I was super skinny size 00 (before they had a 00). I also look very young. When I was in college, people thought I was in MS. Guys probably thought I was in MS so wouldn't approach me though the ones who knew I was in college did. When I started working, people never took me seriously because they thought I was a kid.

Grass is always greener, I guess.

Even though short woman are teased and made fun off . Being a short woman is more acceptable in society than being a tall woman because woman are naturally shorter . Many feminine traits unfortunately are infantilized I think a similar thing happens to woman with high pitched voices .

However most short woman I’ve come across never think about their height or even enjoy it . They usually get themselves a tall guy , and have a happy ever after .

Most women 5'1 under hate their height. I know several of them -- my sisters, friends, etc..

But, yea, I married a 6'3" man. LOL I wasn't looking for someone that tall. I would've preferred 5'10". But, bonus, my kids are on the taller side - almost 6' DS and 5'6" DD.

Yeah short woman are often treated like children but tall woman swear we have a privilege lol . Is being seen as a child a privilege ? Is attracting low quality misogynistic men a privilege ?

I am 6’3 , so a short woman that’s comparable to me is like 4’4 since I’m a foot above the average female height .

5’1 is a normal height it’s only 2-3 inches below average . Plus a short woman can wear heels and become average height . Tall woman don’t have that option to take away height .

I’m going on a journey to practice being body neutral . I don’t like toxic positivity but you guys are right that being insecure and sulking in a corner does more harm than good .

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Anonymous wrote:Tall girls are the beauty standard . Most girls dream of growing tall . A tall woman being insecure is like a skinny blonde girl being insecure . It’s a mental illness that’s has no basis in real life . Tall woman have superior genes and most men want their wife to be tall .

Not necessarily. Many women with Marfan's are tall and lanky but that comes with a price in terms of health, like heart issues.

I really don't think they are comparable. There are millions of skinny blond girls, but very few women who are nearly my brother's height of 6'4. In fact, there aren't hordes of men that tall either.

Thank you !!

Being my height is more about vanity , my height causes me so much health issues . I have endometriosis as well as many polyps have shown up in my body . It’s very well known that cancer risk scales with body size . The only humans resistant to cancer are small in height .

Also the world isn’t made for people my size so everything is uncomfortable from public transport, chairs , cars , and finding clothing in my style is impossible . I have wide hips so men clothing doesn’t fit me well .

[Anonymous]

Date a short guy they will understand your studies .

[Anonymous]

Tall woman chase after tall men that don’t want them

Short men love tall woman and that’s their dream girl

[Anonymous]

Dislike being tall = normal.

Feeling blue at times because you're still single = normal

Depressed about height, about something you can't change = not normal.

I have a birth defect. It can be embarassing and I don't like it. It is quite limiting. But I would never say I am depressed over it.

Hold your head high! No pun intended. But seriously, your confidence and smile will attract the right man. He is out there somewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tall girls are the beauty standard . Most girls dream of growing tall . A tall woman being insecure is like a skinny blonde girl being insecure . It’s a mental illness that’s has no basis in real life . Tall woman have superior genes and most men want their wife to be tall .

Wut?

No man wants a 6 ft 3 woman. No man wants a woman taller than about 5 ft 9, tbh.

[Anonymous]

Have you been evaluated for Marfans? Google it if not

[Anonymous]

I agree with this poster about pursuing health conditions. Just being tall doesn’t mean you have aches and pains. There are conditions that could, particularly given that you say you are gaunt. As well as these additional suggestions.

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry, OP.

You might want to switch physical therapist. Posture exercices and yoga should help.

If they don't, perhaps you have auto-immune conditions that predispose you to joint and neurological issues. You need to insist with your doctor about extensive testing for that. Also, I imagine your furniture isn't conducive to the best posture. Do you have the right mattress and pillow? I have an autoimmune condition that causes joint inflammation and other problems, and I need an orthopedic pillow and other aids to keep as neutral a posture as possible.

Are you on an SSRI for your depression? Don't hesitate.

Is your therapy targeted on the phobia of being noticed? Maybe you should try that.

I hope you can find peace with your body, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tall girls are the beauty standard . Most girls dream of growing tall . A tall woman being insecure is like a skinny blonde girl being insecure . It’s a mental illness that’s has no basis in real life . Tall woman have superior genes and most men want their wife to be tall .

Wut?

No man wants a 6 ft 3 woman. No man wants a woman taller than about 5 ft 9, tbh.

Says who? You don’t speak for me. I am a 6’ man who would have no problem dating a woman who is 6’3’’.

[Anonymous]

Op where are you being constantly reminded of your tallness? Work? If so tell them to cut it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many PPs are suggesting that OP "go to the Netherlands." Did you not even read her post??

She literally writes in her OP:

Being tall also makes me feel very lonely because no woman look like me . I went to the Netherlands /Croatia and I towered over those woman .I'm even way bigger than other tall woman .

All of the empathy you're trying to display is meaningless when you can't even retain what OP has told you.

BS. At 6'3" you do not tower over the Scandinavian and Dutch women. You were spending your time with other tourists, not natives

[Anonymous]

I’m a tall, happy person who has been married for a long time to someone with depression.

What I’ve learned from that is that whatever you think you’re depressed “about,” it’s probably not the real thing.

If I made you 5’6” tomorrow, you might be happy about it for a bit, but then you would find something else to fixate on.

So what you need is not to move to a taller country, it’s to find a good therapist and possibly meds and work on being happy where you find yourself right now.

[Anonymous]

OP I can understand where you are coming from. Though I do not have height issues, I think all women are familiar with the feeling of something physical they hate about themselves. For most of us it's not as obvious as towering height and we can hide it or put makeup on or cosmetic surgery, etc. I get that for you, it's something obvious and permanent.

My only thought is that as I have gotten older, i've realized that so much of attractiveness lies in confidence. I have seen women with physical characteristics I have loathed in myself in my teens (and worse than mine), but they carry it with so much confidence that it can sometimes actually turn that characteristic into a positive. Most related to your concern, I've known two very tall women in my life (I would say 6'2 or 6'3). They both carried themselves with so much confidence and comfort that it was attractive or at least a non issue. I never thought they looked awkward or out of place, though of course the height difference was there and very noticeable if I stood next to them. I have also met shorter tall women who are clearly uncomfortable with their height, is hunched over, and they look way more awkward than the taller ones with confidence. I guess what i'm trying to say here is, you are not helpless here and can change how others perceive you. Fake it until you make it! Best of luck to you.