Kid sports and RTO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Lots of people never had that work flexibility. I used to work in a research lab, and my doctor husband worked in a hospital. Plenty of children do not participate in extra-curriculars when their parents can't drive them.

Cool story. Irrelevant to OP’s question.

OP: “I just lost my sight, this will completely change the way that I have set up my life, what am I going to do?”

You: “Lots of people never had sight.”

Because those of us who haven’t been able to telework don’t have much sympathy for those who have. RTO has been a nice equalizer.

[Anonymous]

One year when my kid’s practice started at 5 (!), I took an hour of leave to drive them. Not how I wanted to spend my leave, but best option. Now we just rush (practice starts later) but are sometimes a little late, as are others. People get it - nbd. For a game, I would take leave.

We carpool and are happy to drive others in a pinch, but on a weeknight, it’s often not feasible. In Nova, everyone is spread out, and it would be a lucky scenario to be on a team with someone who lived less than 15 minutes from us. This is for an older kid.

[Anonymous]

We carpool some days and pay a college student to drive DD the others.
We’ve always worked out of the home though so have been doing this for years.
I don’t understand those of you making your kids give up sports because of RTO. You can’t find carpools or pay someone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We carpool some days and pay a college student to drive DD the others.
We’ve always worked out of the home though so have been doing this for years.
I don’t understand those of you making your kids give up sports because of RTO. You can’t find carpools or pay someone?

I'm not making my kid give up sports just yet but my kid's teammates live in 3 different counties. There's no carpooling. Like you, I've worked from home for years. Fully worked from home. Now back in the office full time with a long commute (office moved last year further from me) and a complete lack of flexibility. My office has not returned to pre-pandemic posture by any means but have regressed so far back, I'd have to go back to the 2001-ish range.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Lots of people never had that work flexibility. I used to work in a research lab, and my doctor husband worked in a hospital. Plenty of children do not participate in extra-curriculars when their parents can't drive them.

Cool story. Irrelevant to OP’s question.

OP: “I just lost my sight, this will completely change the way that I have set up my life, what am I going to do?”

You: “Lots of people never had sight.”

Because those of us who haven’t been able to telework don’t have much sympathy for those who have. RTO has been a nice equalizer.

OP didn’t ask for your sympathy, loser.

You know, lots of people in the world start working in sweatshops before they’re 10. Shall we implement that system here, too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leave earlier, hire help, carpool, get kid a car.

Yep. The same as we did before
Covid. It’s easy at the HS level because practices are after school at the school so you only have one way to deal with. And there are lots of kids who drive so pretty easy to get a ride.

Our high schoolers at a large public had practices at 530 pm or 730 pm as well as sometimes right after school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have always carpooled with 3-4 other families…in office and WFH.

Usually means you drive one practice every two weeks on average…games are weekends.

Why is it so few people arrange carpools?

Not OP but for DD’s current team, practices are 30 min away and the closest player lives 20 minutes from us in the opposite direction. There are not any kids on the team who attend the same school. Carpooling can be difficult if you are talking about older kids and club sports. It’s why we said no to some teams, which you also can do. There is the balance between letting your kids participate in things and your sanity if you don’t want to buy your oldest a car, which we did.

Unless your kid is truly playing on some elite team, why pick this club team?

Pick a club team where everyone generally lives near each other.

You realize that club teams aren’t like shopping on Amazon, don’t you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The same way parents did it before WFH...

Which was…

(Why do people feel compelled to respond with this nonsense, by the way?)

Because we all did it and we're tired of the whiny millennials who can't figure it out.

If you’re so tired, why would you open this thread, read the OP, and then post a dumb non-response?

Why don’t you just go back to stuffing your face with Cheetos while you watch Fox News and bloviate about how Biden ruined America or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I leave work early to take kid to practice.

As a fed, we are denied from doing this. I was told I need to have a fixed schedule and it can't vary one day a week like that.

Go in early every day.

You are not understanding. The latest version of torturing Feds is to make them work 9-5 with no flexibility to come in early or leave later. Haven’t you noticed traffic is significantly worse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have always carpooled with 3-4 other families…in office and WFH.

Usually means you drive one practice every two weeks on average…games are weekends.

Why is it so few people arrange carpools?

Not OP but for DD’s current team, practices are 30 min away and the closest player lives 20 minutes from us in the opposite direction. There are not any kids on the team who attend the same school. Carpooling can be difficult if you are talking about older kids and club sports. It’s why we said no to some teams, which you also can do. There is the balance between letting your kids participate in things and your sanity if you don’t want to buy your oldest a car, which we did.

Unless your kid is truly playing on some elite team, why pick this club team?

Pick a club team where everyone generally lives near each other.

You realize that club teams aren’t like shopping on Amazon, don’t you?

Only if your kid is good enough for college recruitment…if not, then it is like shopping on Amazon.

BTW, my kid is playing in college and they played on their local, nothing special club team down the street until summer after HS Soph…and even then the team they joined that has kids from all over the East Coast, still had two others that were fairly local. The team never practiced, but we were able to carpool to tournaments…we even figured out arrangements to tournaments 1,000 miles away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know some fed leave home at 5am to go into office, so they can't get home early.

This is being prohibited at fed offices. Ours took away AWS and is now wanting us to all work the same hours now too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Lots of people never had that work flexibility. I used to work in a research lab, and my doctor husband worked in a hospital. Plenty of children do not participate in extra-curriculars when their parents can't drive them.

Cool story. Irrelevant to OP’s question.

OP: “I just lost my sight, this will completely change the way that I have set up my life, what am I going to do?”

You: “Lots of people never had sight.”

Because those of us who haven’t been able to telework don’t have much sympathy for those who have. RTO has been a nice equalizer.

So weird because most of us are married to spouses who cannot telework. Don't most families have one spouse with a flexible job and another without flexibility? Why the f would you both choose jobs with zero flexibility?

My spouse's work has now had to crack down on flexibility because so many people were taking nonstop leave and leaving early to make up for the lack of fed flexibility that their spouses lost.

[Anonymous]

We changed jobs. One of us needed to be able to be home by 4 to feed kids, pack sports bags, and go.

I get that now is a terrible time to job hunt in DC, but that's what we opted for at the time. It's worked out well.

I don't think it's realistic to have both parents in inflexible jobs without a 3rd support adult like a nanny or involved local grandparent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are prioritizing activities and sports teams that happen at school itself. Also, skipping some weekday practices and just doing weekend games. We don’t do travel sports just rec, so it’s not that big a deal to miss practices.

Good luck getting on sports teams in high school. They are all cut and if you don’t do travel since toddler stage it’s unlikely.

Meh. In my kids' sport at our high school the JV coach told me she took a handful of girls who had never played before this year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The same way parents did it before WFH...

Which was…

(Why do people feel compelled to respond with this nonsense, by the way?)

Because we all did it and we're tired of the whiny millennials who can't figure it out.

Given the age of Millennials these days, isn't it time to start ragging on Gen Z now?