Kid sports and RTO

[Anonymous]

OP,

Lots of people never had that work flexibility. I used to work in a research lab, and my doctor husband worked in a hospital. Plenty of children do not participate in extra-curriculars when their parents can't drive them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Lots of people never had that work flexibility. I used to work in a research lab, and my doctor husband worked in a hospital. Plenty of children do not participate in extra-curriculars when their parents can't drive them.

Cool story. Irrelevant to OP’s question.

OP: “I just lost my sight, this will completely change the way that I have set up my life, what am I going to do?”

You: “Lots of people never had sight.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The same way parents did it before WFH...

Which was…

(Why do people feel compelled to respond with this nonsense, by the way?)

[Anonymous]

get a carpool, hire a nanny/driver, have your kid take Uber (sounds like they're old enough), have your kid take a bus...

let your kid have the car and you take public transportation...or buy a second car; what I wouldn't do is make your kid quit his sport unless you've exhausted all other options

[Anonymous]

My kid had to take a bus at 10 or 11 to get to his sports practice...was a great thing for him to do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a part time “nanny” whose job is to drive kids around after school and do their laundry.

How much do you pay her and what are her hours like?

$35/hour and 25 hours guaranteed. 2-7, but 2-3 is doing light housework or errands. First pickup is 3. We’ve always had a nanny then transitioned to this arrangement.

[Anonymous]

We have always carpooled with 3-4 other families…in office and WFH.

Usually means you drive one practice every two weeks on average…games are weekends.

Why is it so few people arrange carpools?

[Anonymous]

If you can afford it, easiest solution is just to get a 3rd car for the older one. He can drive himself and the younger one when there isn’t a conflict - cheaper than hiring help, most likely. Also the locations are likely easy and familiar so fewer safety concerns (which I say having been through 2 teen drivers- always a worry).

And then carpool for younger kid when older sib isn’t available, doing your share of course.

Not a bad place to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Lots of people never had that work flexibility. I used to work in a research lab, and my doctor husband worked in a hospital. Plenty of children do not participate in extra-curriculars when their parents can't drive them.

Given you are comfortable this is selfish and you hire help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have always carpooled with 3-4 other families…in office and WFH.

Usually means you drive one practice every two weeks on average…games are weekends.

Why is it so few people arrange carpools?

Because many people think a carpool is the other family doing all the driving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have always carpooled with 3-4 other families…in office and WFH.

Usually means you drive one practice every two weeks on average…games are weekends.

Why is it so few people arrange carpools?

Because many people think a carpool is the other family doing all the driving.

This. Managing the carpool is sometimes more work than doing it yourself. Also, this year DC is on a team without any other kids from our zip code. Only 2 years left until they can drive, and I’ll be getting them a car for 16th bday as a present to me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have always carpooled with 3-4 other families…in office and WFH.

Usually means you drive one practice every two weeks on average…games are weekends.

Why is it so few people arrange carpools?

Not OP but for DD’s current team, practices are 30 min away and the closest player lives 20 minutes from us in the opposite direction. There are not any kids on the team who attend the same school. Carpooling can be difficult if you are talking about older kids and club sports. It’s why we said no to some teams, which you also can do. There is the balance between letting your kids participate in things and your sanity if you don’t want to buy your oldest a car, which we did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have always carpooled with 3-4 other families…in office and WFH.

Usually means you drive one practice every two weeks on average…games are weekends.

Why is it so few people arrange carpools?

Not OP but for DD’s current team, practices are 30 min away and the closest player lives 20 minutes from us in the opposite direction. There are not any kids on the team who attend the same school. Carpooling can be difficult if you are talking about older kids and club sports. It’s why we said no to some teams, which you also can do. There is the balance between letting your kids participate in things and your sanity if you don’t want to buy your oldest a car, which we did.

Unless your kid is truly playing on some elite team, why pick this club team?

Pick a club team where everyone generally lives near each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have always carpooled with 3-4 other families…in office and WFH.

Usually means you drive one practice every two weeks on average…games are weekends.

Why is it so few people arrange carpools?

Because many people think a carpool is the other family doing all the driving.

I don’t understand the comment.

In our arrangement we arrange an online signup and every family has to pick an equal number of shifts.

If one family for some reason doesn’t select any, then they are out. That never happens because that family would go from driving one shift every two weeks to four shifts every two weeks…doesn’t make a ton of sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The same way parents did it before WFH...

Which was…

(Why do people feel compelled to respond with this nonsense, by the way?)

Because we all did it and we're tired of the whiny millennials who can't figure it out.