Kid sports and RTO

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:The same way parents did it before WFH...

Which was…

(Why do people feel compelled to respond with this nonsense, by the way?)

Because we all did it and we're tired of the whiny millennials who can't figure it out.

Given the age of Millennials these days, isn't it time to start ragging on Gen Z now?

Oldest GenZ is only 27…it’s squarely millennials right now.

[Anonymous]

Carpooling can be difficult if you are talking about older kids and club sports. It’s why we said no to some teams, which you also can do.

I think it depends on how common the sport is. We didn't have any issues finding carpools for travel soccer, but there are tons of clubs and levels, and we had to make a decision on a team based on how likely it was we could pool transportation. It wound up not mattering, longer term, because by sophomore year, DS wanted to do track/XC instead to be with school friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP,

Lots of people never had that work flexibility. I used to work in a research lab, and my doctor husband worked in a hospital. Plenty of children do not participate in extra-curriculars when their parents can't drive them.

Cool story. Irrelevant to OP’s question.

OP: “I just lost my sight, this will completely change the way that I have set up my life, what am I going to do?”

You: “Lots of people never had sight.”

Because those of us who haven’t been able to telework don’t have much sympathy for those who have. RTO has been a nice equalizer.

Equalizer? As in, you're glad things are harder in this regard now for other people too? I never get people wishing hardships on others.

[Anonymous]

We ended up having to bail on MSI this spring because the practice time was too early. They always announce it so late and in the past it has worked out but with the commute 5pm is impossible right now. We weren't the only family affected, one of the coaches even had to drop out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Lots of people never had that work flexibility. I used to work in a research lab, and my doctor husband worked in a hospital. Plenty of children do not participate in extra-curriculars when their parents can't drive them.

Cool story. Irrelevant to OP’s question.

OP: “I just lost my sight, this will completely change the way that I have set up my life, what am I going to do?”

You: “Lots of people never had sight.”

Because those of us who haven’t been able to telework don’t have much sympathy for those who have. RTO has been a nice equalizer.

My DH has never been able to telework but his commute is taking even longer now- he typically does afternoon pickup and takes the kids to activities but pretty much has to leave a half hour earlier now to assure he gets them in time. That's great if you aren't affected by the increased traffic I guess.

Similar to the PP above, some parents who were able to coach due to flexible schedules/telework cannot run practices anymore.

[Anonymous]

Everyone wants to blame club sports but I think local publics make it much harder for working parents. They schedule practice and games in the middle of a work day and don't always provide transpo. At least club sports schedule practices after 6pm (in our experience).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Lots of people never had that work flexibility. I used to work in a research lab, and my doctor husband worked in a hospital. Plenty of children do not participate in extra-curriculars when their parents can't drive them.

Cool story. Irrelevant to OP’s question.

OP: “I just lost my sight, this will completely change the way that I have set up my life, what am I going to do?”

You: “Lots of people never had sight.”

Because those of us who haven’t been able to telework don’t have much sympathy for those who have. RTO has been a nice equalizer.

My DH has never been able to telework but his commute is taking even longer now- he typically does afternoon pickup and takes the kids to activities but pretty much has to leave a half hour earlier now to assure he gets them in time. That's great if you aren't affected by the increased traffic I guess.

Similar to the PP above, some parents who were able to coach due to flexible schedules/telework cannot run practices anymore.

Yes, this. I have a flexible, part time job for the purpose of handling family life. The extra traffic is literally cutting into my hours/salary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone wants to blame club sports but I think local publics make it much harder for working parents. They schedule practice and games in the middle of a work day and don't always provide transpo. At least club sports schedule practices after 6pm (in our experience).

This is a strange statement...other than a small number of public schools and say a random sport like crew, like 98% have practice directly after school at the school.

Also, usually only non-league away games don't have transport...but it's the school team...hard to understand how carpool is not an option in this situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are prioritizing activities and sports teams that happen at school itself. Also, skipping some weekday practices and just doing weekend games. We don’t do travel sports just rec, so it’s not that big a deal to miss practices.

Good luck getting on sports teams in high school. They are all cut and if you don’t do travel since toddler stage it’s unlikely.

Meh. In my kids' sport at our high school the JV coach told me she took a handful of girls who had never played before this year.

Oh its different for girls vs boys, any girl can sit on the jv bench for a year or two before being cut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone wants to blame club sports but I think local publics make it much harder for working parents. They schedule practice and games in the middle of a work day and don't always provide transpo. At least club sports schedule practices after 6pm (in our experience).

This is a strange statement...other than a small number of public schools and say a random sport like crew, like 98% have practice directly after school at the school.

Also, usually only non-league away games don't have transport...but it's the school team...hard to understand how carpool is not an option in this situation.

This isnt true at all. At our large fcps, the teams all can't practice after school. 2/3rda go home and then have to be driven back at 5 or 7 for
their practice time slot.
And then picked up
At 7 or 9.

Maybe small privates have all the kids practicing after school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get the older kid a used car, yes, and also work with other parents on the team to set up a carpool so that your family is only dealing with it 1/3 of the time.

But keep in mind that if you set up a carpool some families may, rightfully so, have concerns with sending their kids with your new, young driver.

[Anonymous]

This thread highlights once again the liberties that people were doing with the workday. Not all employees were putting in a full day’s work. Now our shortened workdays are over. People ruined it over time. We did get the 5 years of it at least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread highlights once again the liberties that people were doing with the workday. Not all employees were putting in a full day’s work. Now our shortened workdays are over. People ruined it over time. We did get the 5 years of it at least.

If you cannot understand the differnce between ending your workday at 5pm and leaving your home office to take your DC to practice vs. starting your 1 hr commute home from the downtown office, I don't know what to tell you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Lots of people never had that work flexibility. I used to work in a research lab, and my doctor husband worked in a hospital. Plenty of children do not participate in extra-curriculars when their parents can't drive them.

Cool story. Irrelevant to OP’s question.

OP: “I just lost my sight, this will completely change the way that I have set up my life, what am I going to do?”

You: “Lots of people never had sight.”

Because those of us who haven’t been able to telework don’t have much sympathy for those who have. RTO has been a nice equalizer.

Equalizer? As in, you're glad things are harder in this regard now for other people too? I never get people wishing hardships on others.

This thread highlights that sports will be now be available to those who either can afford to have a parent stay home or work part time or those who can afford to buy an extra car or pay a nanny. So yes, it’s clear the only thing that’s being equalized in this poster’s eyes is misery. If you spend your whole life comparing what you think everyone else is getting that you’re not, you’ll never be happy in your life. Ever. So enjoy that. I’ll be over here not caring what other people do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are prioritizing activities and sports teams that happen at school itself. Also, skipping some weekday practices and just doing weekend games. We don’t do travel sports just rec, so it’s not that big a deal to miss practices.

Good luck getting on sports teams in high school. They are all cut and if you don’t do travel since toddler stage it’s unlikely.

Meh. In my kids' sport at our high school the JV coach told me she took a handful of girls who had never played before this year.

Oh its different for girls vs boys, any girl can sit on the jv bench for a year or two before being cut.

+1

This is pretty much true at my kids’ large high school. With the exception of volleyball.