family member implied im fat

[Anonymous]

I don’t disagree with them. It’s very annoying to have someone constantly fishing for compliments, and then especially getting MAD when you don’t get them!

Talk to your dr about weight loss options. There are lots out there that help with the food noise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This board, like society at large, is incredibly fat phobic. I would definitely not bring up weight ever because people always have something to say about it. It makes them gleeful to make someone feel bad about being fat. Ultimately it’s immature and mean-spirited and they would feel ashamed to do this to someone with any other struggle.

The relative said she wasn't fat. But OP didn't like the way they said it and called them out it.

YOU CAN'T WIN WITH PEOPLE LIKE OP. Fat is not her most pressing problem. She has a personality disorder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Treat your underlying anxiety that causes you to eat.

That's all well and good, but you wouldn't say the same thing to an alcoholic. You attack it from both fronts. Dry out AND treat the underlying anxiety. So clean up your diet, start a group exercise program at a local gym, AND work on the anxiety. It's all hands on deck time, not time to spend 4 years in therapy before you put down the potato chips.

As an alcoholic I assure you people say far worse. Then they are like “ you aren’t really an alcoholic” and “you were more fun when you drank.” It’s no bed of roses either.

[Anonymous]

I have a fat friend, who I like very much. If she were to make a comment about being fat, I would sound idiotic saying "you're not fat!" She's fat. So what?

[Anonymous]

How old was the child that told you this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just get a prescription for GLP-1. It's amazing.

I have 40 lbs to lose. I know I can do it by just shutting my damn mouth. I dont judge others for doing it. But I know it’s not for me because that would be putting a bandaid on the actual root cause. Which for me is intense anxiety causing me to overeat

That's a considerable amount of weight, and you clearly can't just lose it. Get a therapist and get a prescription.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just get a prescription for GLP-1. It's amazing.

I have 40 lbs to lose. I know I can do it by just shutting my damn mouth. I dont judge others for doing it. But I know it’s not for me because that would be putting a bandaid on the actual root cause. Which for me is intense anxiety causing me to overeat

That's a considerable amount of weight, and you clearly can't just lose it. Get a therapist and get a prescription.

NP. +1 OP, would you tell someone with diabetes to just change their eating habits and not bother with taking insulin? No? Then how is your situation any different. In fact, skip the therapist and just get the prescription. The medication SILENCES all the food noise. It's not a bandaid, it's an antibiotic. It does everything you need, to get what you want. I seriously don't know how people remain fat nowadays with all these cures.

[Anonymous]

(I meant antibiotic figuratively, not literally.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im the OP.

A quick question to all of you. How do I slap myself so hard that it’ll force me to do a 180? I need someone to just put a rocket in my behind

NP and I’m going through these conversations with my mother a lot lately. I could have been that other person and it’s because I’m frustrated. I’ll tell you why. I’ve struggled with my weight and am heavier than her. She has gained some in recent years but has survived a serious illness and for some reason is only focusing on the pounds. Not the medication causing her to gain the weight or the fact that she’s alive. We’ve lost others in the family to cancer, heart attacks, etc. and she’s still talking about being fat.

So now I tell her to buy bigger clothes, accept who she is and be comfortable. She gets mad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
a family member was talking and I joked that I myself am fat. When they didn’t say no you’re not, I asked why they’re not denying it.
He just said ”If you don’t like that about yourself, do something about it”

This is classic toxic masculinity

100%

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop fishing for compliments and it wouldn’t be an issue.

Are you fat?

I am fat. Don’t really know what I’m looking for with this. Just wanted to vent.

Because I’m so sick of myself not being able to say no to candy and cookies and cake. And white bread. I’m just so done with feeling this way and being weak

You're not weak, OP. Just get on Wegovy like the rest of DC. You'll be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop fishing for compliments and it wouldn’t be an issue.

Are you fat?

I am fat. Don’t really know what I’m looking for with this. Just wanted to vent.

Because I’m so sick of myself not being able to say no to candy and cookies and cake. And white bread. I’m just so done with feeling this way and being weak

You're not weak, OP. Just get on Wegovy like the rest of DC. You'll be fine.

+1. If your dr/insurance makes you jump hoops to get it (lookin' at you Kaiser), check out Lavendar Sky Health.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t expect the family member to lie & say that I am not fat if I clearly am.

No offense but you really put yourself out there by stating that you are fat.
You also asked why your family member did not deny it…

That put him in an awkward place imo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This board, like society at large, is incredibly fat phobic. I would definitely not bring up weight ever because people always have something to say about it. It makes them gleeful to make someone feel bad about being fat. Ultimately it’s immature and mean-spirited and they would feel ashamed to do this to someone with any other struggle.

Do you lick your fingers when you finish the bag of Cheetos?

[Anonymous]

This thread reeks of sizeism, which is just as dangerous and harmful as racism. It is literally oppression.