Grocery Store Discipline

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I agree that kids need to learn how to do boring things like going on errands. I think you and your DH need to do parent training together. Also, this book could help.

I Just Don't Like the Sound of NO: Story for kids ages 4-6 about Accepting NO for an Answer, by Julia Cook

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/11141182-i-just-don-t-like-the-sound-of-no-my-story-about-accepting-no-for-an-an

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does the entire family need to grocery shop?
I don’t want to hear your kid having a tantrum, take them outside.

I disagree and think it’s fine to ignore the tantrum and carry on shopping. Taking them out of the store isn’t really a punishment- they probably don’t want to be there anyway. Strangers can ignore. I know when someone’s kid is throwing a fit in a store- I don’t care at all. It’s irrelevant to me and carry on with my own business.

So one kid’s tantrum can disrupt others? Taking them out isn’t about punishment, it’s about changing their scenery to stop the tantrum AND to be kind to fellow shoppers. Your kid’s fit shouldn’t be my problem.

You’re right, it isn’t your problem. Bag up your cucumbers and keep walking. This isn’t affecting you

+1. There's zero reason for another shopper to be disrupted by a kid having a tantrum. It's just a thing that happens sometimes when you're in public.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just got to the store alone. There’s no need to make it a family activity.

This. You set up your kid for failure. A boring activity, was it after work / school so you / kid were tired? Or over the weekend taking time from fun activities?

And then asking a question about what the kid wants, you asked him if he wants X, he took it as an open ended question, and answered he doesn’t want x, he wants Y. Why didn’t you get him Y? Why ask in the first place then? Also, asking in a grocery store a child who may already be a bit hungry and surrounded by all the tempting stuff is also not a great idea. If you have to take your kid grocery shopping, make a list at home and ask the questions at home. It’s just easier to control things than in a grocery store.

Unless you’re a single mom, or dh is traveling or otherwise unavailable, just leave the kid with DH and do the shopping, or give the list to Dh and spend quality time with your kid.

Grocery shopping and “habituating” them to a grocery store is not quality time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just got to the store alone. There’s no need to make it a family activity.

This. You set up your kid for failure. A boring activity, was it after work / school so you / kid were tired? Or over the weekend taking time from fun activities?

And then asking a question about what the kid wants, you asked him if he wants X, he took it as an open ended question, and answered he doesn’t want x, he wants Y. Why didn’t you get him Y? Why ask in the first place then? Also, asking in a grocery store a child who may already be a bit hungry and surrounded by all the tempting stuff is also not a great idea. If you have to take your kid grocery shopping, make a list at home and ask the questions at home. It’s just easier to control things than in a grocery store.

Unless you’re a single mom, or dh is traveling or otherwise unavailable, just leave the kid with DH and do the shopping, or give the list to Dh and spend quality time with your kid.

Grocery shopping and “habituating” them to a grocery store is not quality time.

We were there on the weekend. I’d gone grocery shopping on Friday during school, but the produce was bad, so we needed to go again.