Bethesda Delco Parents Brawl?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t know, don’t care what Delco has done in the past. As a Bethesda pre-ECNL parent commenting on yesterday’s tape that I saw before it got taken down was overly exuberant soccer dads doing too much. A 16 year old girl had enough of the abuse and popped off on the parents. Mature parents would have stopped then because it’s not the 16year olds job to model decency and restraint. The parents doubled down calling her weak minded for losing focus. The Delco parents were on tape this entire time and reacted rather calmly. Calmer than I would have been if a group of parents circled and verbally berated my teenage daughter.

This is on Bethesda’s girls program. Bunch of privileged parents and golf bro coaches doing little to help girls become women.

I agree, the child, a 16-year-old girl, had enough. At no point did any of the Bethesda parents suggest stopping; they just kept going. The adults behaved like entitled children. Sit in the car. You clowns are going to ruin it for everyone. Remember, colleges recruit the family - your dynamics are on display.

If parents on the sideline say something that causes a 16 year old to have to respond, the parents are at fault 100% of the time. Apologizing and then shutting up is the only acceptable response. But the Bethesda parents immediately went into defensive mode: We didn't say anything wrong! Player needs to be tougher. Really? You are going to justify why it was ok to make a child ask you to stop harassing her in the middle of the game? The Bethesda parents should be embarrassed. Their own kids are surely embarrassed by them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t know, don’t care what Delco has done in the past. As a Bethesda pre-ECNL parent commenting on yesterday’s tape that I saw before it got taken down was overly exuberant soccer dads doing too much. A 16 year old girl had enough of the abuse and popped off on the parents. Mature parents would have stopped then because it’s not the 16year olds job to model decency and restraint. The parents doubled down calling her weak minded for losing focus. The Delco parents were on tape this entire time and reacted rather calmly. Calmer than I would have been if a group of parents circled and verbally berated my teenage daughter.

This is on Bethesda’s girls program. Bunch of privileged parents and golf bro coaches doing little to help girls become women.

I agree, the child, a 16-year-old girl, had enough. At no point did any of the Bethesda parents suggest stopping; they just kept going. The adults behaved like entitled children. Sit in the car. You clowns are going to ruin it for everyone. Remember, colleges recruit the family - your dynamics are on display.

If parents on the sideline say something that causes a 16 year old to have to respond, the parents are at fault 100% of the time. Apologizing and then shutting up is the only acceptable response. But the Bethesda parents immediately went into defensive mode: We didn't say anything wrong! Player needs to be tougher. Really? You are going to justify why it was ok to make a child ask you to stop harassing her in the middle of the game? The Bethesda parents should be embarrassed. Their own kids are surely embarrassed by them.

[Anonymous]

Parents talking to / about a player on the other team? When could that EVER be ok? What did they say?

[Anonymous]

Why does the league tolerate this behavior? All the parents and coaches on both sides should have made it clear to the people behaving badly that it was unacceptable. Why did the player have to defend herself alone?

[Anonymous]

What was Bethesda coach yelling at Delco coach about? Not that it’s ever justification for a parent to yell at a player on the other team (who does that?), but what was happening on the field that prompted the coach and parents to behave so badly?

[Anonymous]

The club should ban the offending dads from the sideline for the rest of the season.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t know, don’t care what Delco has done in the past. As a Bethesda pre-ECNL parent commenting on yesterday’s tape that I saw before it got taken down was overly exuberant soccer dads doing too much. A 16 year old girl had enough of the abuse and popped off on the parents. Mature parents would have stopped then because it’s not the 16year olds job to model decency and restraint. The parents doubled down calling her weak minded for losing focus. The Delco parents were on tape this entire time and reacted rather calmly. Calmer than I would have been if a group of parents circled and verbally berated my teenage daughter.

This is on Bethesda’s girls program. Bunch of privileged parents and golf bro coaches doing little to help girls become women.

Small tangent - Delco pre-ECNL parent here. What the heck was up with the center ref not knowing basic rules!?! We were shocked he was confidently incorrect about the match length/ball used. I loved your coach saying we came all the way from PA to play the full 70

If it goes the full 70 I'm pretty sure you all break that 0-0 tie. OK back to the drama.

[Anonymous]

How does SC still have a job? He came very close to getting reported (or was and it was kept quiet) for his behavior at ECNL St. Louis in September.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]What was Bethesda coach yelling at Delco coach about? Not that it’s ever justification for a parent to yell at a player on the other team (who does that?), but what was happening on the field that prompted the coach and parents to behave so badly?[/quote]


The Bethesda coach walked towards the Delco bench and told an injured player to shut the F up you little B. That is why he was tossed from the game. It’s a good look when a grown adult speaks to a child like that.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What was Bethesda coach yelling at Delco coach about? Not that it’s ever justification for a parent to yell at a player on the other team (who does that?), but what was happening on the field that prompted the coach and parents to behave so badly?[/quote]


The Bethesda coach walked towards the Delco bench and told an injured player to shut the F up you little B. That is why he was tossed from the game. It’s a good look when a grown adult speaks to a child like that. [/quote]

A big IF this is true, something needs to happen. He has been warned multiple times before and multiple complaints. Enough is enough for the sake of the girls he is entrusted with. Again, IF this is true ….

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What was Bethesda coach yelling at Delco coach about? Not that it’s ever justification for a parent to yell at a player on the other team (who does that?), but what was happening on the field that prompted the coach and parents to behave so badly?[/quote]


The Bethesda coach walked towards the Delco bench and told an injured player to shut the F up you little B. That is why he was tossed from the game. It’s a good look when a grown adult speaks to a child like that. [/quote]

A big IF this is true, something needs to happen. He has been warned multiple times before and multiple complaints. Enough is enough for the sake of the girls he is entrusted with. Again, IF this is true ….[/quote]
Why do you think the video was blocked?

[Anonymous]

Is this in addition to the player who was harassed by parents? What is wring with you people?

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What was Bethesda coach yelling at Delco coach about? Not that it’s ever justification for a parent to yell at a player on the other team (who does that?), but what was happening on the field that prompted the coach and parents to behave so badly?[/quote]


The Bethesda coach walked towards the Delco bench and told an injured player to shut the F up you little B. That is why he was tossed from the game. It’s a good look when a grown adult speaks to a child like that. [/quote]

A big IF this is true, something needs to happen. He has been warned multiple times before and multiple complaints. Enough is enough for the sake of the girls he is entrusted with. Again, IF this is true ….[/quote]

I doubt it as well. No way the coach said that and is not checked in at Holy Cross right now.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What was Bethesda coach yelling at Delco coach about? Not that it’s ever justification for a parent to yell at a player on the other team (who does that?), but what was happening on the field that prompted the coach and parents to behave so badly?[/quote]


The Bethesda coach walked towards the Delco bench and told an injured player to shut the F up you little B. That is why he was tossed from the game. It’s a good look when a grown adult speaks to a child like that. [/quote]

That did not happen.

[Anonymous]

I saw the video that (Bethesda coach behavior) 1,000% did not happen. Let’s keep the train on the tracks here.

The coach should do a better job communicating to the parents what’s acceptable, and the parents shouldn’t be talking to the kids. The delco parent told the Bethesda parent to shut up which sparks all of it, but the Bethesda mother who makes a b-line up the sideline to the parents…everyone just needs to be a better example and keep the focus on the kids.

Let’s remember that there’s a coach in the Bethesda program making an effort to bring competitive soccer to underserved areas of PG county and that some of these parents may not be as familiar with what is acceptable at very competitive levels of youth soccer.

Not making excuses, the parents were out of line and should be talked to. It’s a shame that they go out of their way to make the game all about them, and it’s a shame that their kids have to keep watching this happen.