Which all-girls school does NOT have a mean girl problem?

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Anonymous wrote:This definitely depends on the grade at each school. I have two girls at Holton in two different grades. Neither has had a “mean girl” experience and both are definitely not the culprit.

Quite often I see girls from their grades at NCS and think how fortunate it is that my kids picked Holton over NCS (accepted at both schools at the application year). I say that because the NCS girls seem so much less aware of others, self absorbed and cliquey. To be fair I do know one very kind, smart, and polite NCS girl.

I also see lots of SR and Holy Child girls. In those schools it’s more dependent on the grade, less of a dominant school culture. Both great girls and lemons mixed in.

Wow. Good job, Holton mom. You sound like a mean girl yourself. Makes me want to side-eye Holton, knowing it's associated with moms like you. Talk about lacking awareness... lol.

+1

I had the same reaction to that post. I think the pendulum swings on these schools with time, and I am wondering if Holton in the prime of their post-popularity surge/ mean mom/ country club/ social scene phase.

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I don’t have a daughter at any of these schools.

Current Holton parent here and I agree with the assessment of the school as in "the prime of their post-popularity surge/ mean mom/ country club/ social scene phase." It's pretty evident at every social gathering and hopefully families who don't want this vibe can suss it out at the admissions events

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Anonymous wrote:I have two girls in upper school at NCS and neither has encountered mean girls at any point.

I think if your daughter fits the mold there and has all the right socioeconomic clout to go with it, perhaps she won’t encounter any of the “mean girl” stuff. If there are any quirks, home issues or learning concerns, there could be some bumps in the road for her at NCS. Just my two cents

My DD's friend fit the mold at NCS to a T (pretty, rich, legacy, family members at several clubs) and still didn't like the atmosphere there so she left. I don't think it was any meanness towards her, just the overall vibe.

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I didn’t fit the mold at NCS. Hated it. Literally barely survived, came out of it with anxiety, depression, and suicidal tendencies. Had like 2 real friends. And I still didn’t come across “mean girl” issues. Girls I didn’t click with and had nothing in common with, sure. A little stuck up, sure. But they weren’t mean or bullying or excluding me or anything else - we just had nothing in common. That and the extreme pressure cooker environment and my own temperament made the school a terrible fit.

I’m not saying there are no mean girls at NCS. There are mean girls everywhere, but it’s not pervasive at NCS or probably any other school, and is likely only in pockets in certain grades or cohorts.

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Holton! Really kind supportive collaborative environment. School works hard to keep it that way. Super nice diverse parent community.

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What are the 8th grade cohorts like at these schools? That may be telling

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Anonymous wrote:No problems at St Andrews

Curious what 8th grade class mix is?

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Holy Child - the girls are super cute and nice!

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Anonymous wrote:Any view of the current 8th grade cohort at NCS? We got accepted into 9th and are deciding…thanks!!!

They are a really good cohort of girls! Overall, a great group and they feel overall cohesive. Everyone of course aren’t besties, but it’s a good mix.