Honestly don’t know what to say to my Trumper parents; brother likely losing job

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your parents voted for what they perceived to be the good of the country.

They are now worried it may lead to their son's job loss because he was doing work that paid well, but the taxpayers really do not need it.
Many people / families are in the same boat.
Many of the federal jobs are not really necessary unfortunately.
It's hard for me to dis-respect the people who voted against their own self-interest.

I would try to make contingency plans with them about supporting him financially while he looks for other work or makes plan to move out of the region.

The elimination of federal jobs has not been done with surgical precision, after thorough investigation — jobs have been eliminated indiscriminately. Musk and Trump have thrown out the baby with the bath water because they don’t want the government to be functional. They’re not fixing it; they’re dismantling it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, your parents voted for what they perceived to be the good of the country.

They are now worried it may lead to their son's job loss because he was doing work that paid well, but the taxpayers really do not need it.
Many people / families are in the same boat.
Many of the federal jobs are not really necessary unfortunately.
It's hard for me to dis-respect the people who voted against their own self-interest.

I would try to make contingency plans with them about supporting him financially while he looks for other work or makes plan to move out of the region.

The elimination of federal jobs has not been done with surgical precision, after thorough investigation — jobs have been eliminated indiscriminately. Musk and Trump have thrown out the baby with the bath water because they don’t want the government to be functional. They’re not fixing it; they’re dismantling it.

They literally fired the Bird Flu team, which is just nuts because they were "new hires". Because tackling a disease that's ravaging agriculture and could potentially cause the next pandemic isn't a priority to them.

[Anonymous]

They were duped. However, until they own up to it and make an effort to show that they want to work to unravel the mess they contributed to, I’d cut them off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, your parents voted for what they perceived to be the good of the country.

They are now worried it may lead to their son's job loss because he was doing work that paid well, but the taxpayers really do not need it.
Many people / families are in the same boat.
Many of the federal jobs are not really necessary unfortunately.
It's hard for me to dis-respect the people who voted against their own self-interest.

I would try to make contingency plans with them about supporting him financially while he looks for other work or makes plan to move out of the region.

The elimination of federal jobs has not been done with surgical precision, after thorough investigation — jobs have been eliminated indiscriminately. Musk and Trump have thrown out the baby with the bath water because they don’t want the government to be functional. They’re not fixing it; they’re dismantling it.

They literally fired the Bird Flu team, which is just nuts because they were "new hires". Because tackling a disease that's ravaging agriculture and could potentially cause the next pandemic isn't a priority to them.

They were not all new hires, and apparently it was a mistake and they are trying to get them back. I say too bad. I want the vaccine that was given the green light for poultry to go forward, and reports made for us to be informed, but I can’t honestly ask anyone to work in a hostile environment. Their talents are better appreciated elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They were duped. However, until they own up to it and make an effort to show that they want to work to unravel the mess they contributed to, I’d cut them off.

They weren’t duped. They chose to ignore the things they didn’t want to hear. The republicans were very clear about what would happen if they won. Elections have consequences.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly if you haven’t confronted them about the fact that they voted for this and caused it, you are a better person than me.

OP here. I have confronted them. My dad and I have had two big fights over it. But honestly I don’t want our family to be divided in part because I know that is what Donald Trump and MAGA *want.* I know they want us to stop talking, understanding, caring for and respecting each other. I’ve made the case many times that this is not about Democrat vs. Republican, that this is about Trump/MAGA, which I consider to be a different entity from the Republican Party. But anyway, we’ve fought, and it doesn’t feel good. It doesn’t fix anything. It doesn’t make either of us change our minds.

I don’t want to fight more, especially since my aunt—my Dad’s only sibling—died very recently, and I know that life is very short. But he and my mom know I’m angry and hold them accountable. I just don’t want all this to take over the limited time we have left.

Sounds like you have your answer. OP.

[Anonymous]

Same. Both DH and I are feds. One of our DCs i an SN. Thank you, "loving grandparents" for voting for this POS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They were duped. However, until they own up to it and make an effort to show that they want to work to unravel the mess they contributed to, I’d cut them off.

How exactly would OP’s elderly parents do that, pls give specifics. In similar boat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My dad is going on and on about how worried he is; my brother is a fed and will likely be fired soon. Mom and Dad call and Dad especially goes on and on about how worried he is and how unfair it is and how HE is on pins and needles over this. I want to scream at them to keep their “worries” to themselves since they brought this on themselves. They voted for this! They went into a booth and chose this. And the only reason why they care at all is because it’s their son; they don’t care about the thousands upon thousands of other people who have been or will be unjustly fired. I honestly want nothing to do with them right now. I don’t know where to go from here. I don’t think I can get through one more phone call. I certainly am not inviting them to visit.

Just tell them you are glad Trump is reducing the government! All those lazy Feds and contractors have been stealing from us for all these years. Say you saw on Fox that musk is saving billions!

I like you! Yes. Your father won't know what to say back and will likely shut the eff up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You say, "This is YOUR fault because you voted for Trump." That's what you say. Don't scream. But say that, over and over.

This. Don't bite your tongue, OP. Be honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad is going on and on about how worried he is; my brother is a fed and will likely be fired soon. Mom and Dad call and Dad especially goes on and on about how worried he is and how unfair it is and how HE is on pins and needles over this. I want to scream at them to keep their “worries” to themselves since they brought this on themselves. They voted for this! They went into a booth and chose this. And the only reason why they care at all is because it’s their son; they don’t care about the thousands upon thousands of other people who have been or will be unjustly fired. I honestly want nothing to do with them right now. I don’t know where to go from here. I don’t think I can get through one more phone call. I certainly am not inviting them to visit.

“You voted for this. You voted for this to happen to your own son, to thousands of other people, and to cause immeasurable harm to the nation. You voted for this, and until you are ready to actively do something about it, I don’t ever want to hear a word from you again.”

[Anonymous]

At least your parents seem concerned. My (Fed) coworker’s MAGA parents keep sending him articles about DOGE telling him that Muskrat is doing God’s work. He has blocked them now for his own sanity.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if you could say, I wish you would call your congressperson and tell them you expect more oversight and to stop dismantling the government.

I get not wanting to fight. So maybe trying to channel them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your parents voted for what they perceived to be the good of the country.

They are now worried it may lead to their son's job loss because he was doing work that paid well, but the taxpayers really do not need it.
Many people / families are in the same boat.
Many of the federal jobs are not really necessary unfortunately.
It's hard for me to dis-respect the people who voted against their own self-interest.

I would try to make contingency plans with them about supporting him financially while he looks for other work or makes plan to move out of the region.

Are billions of dollars in contracts for Musk needed? I’d rather have NPS workers maintaining parks and USFS putting out fires than pay for $400m in cybertrucks, just sayin’.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if you could say, I wish you would call your congressperson and tell them you expect more oversight and to stop dismantling the government.

I get not wanting to fight. So maybe trying to channel them?

Newsflash: Congress doesn’t care