Do parents realize they are rotting their own and their children’s minds with screens?

[Anonymous]

You do you OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see so many children seemingly addicted to phones/ipads. They can’t watch their sibling’s basketball game… they can’t look out the window for a 20 min train ride or interact with their parents or siblings… I guess they get “bored” and can’t bear to be alone with their thoughts so they need a phone or iPad stuffed in front of them.

No wonder when you look at their parents are no better. Always a phone in their face, scrolling, scrolling. Stuff a phone in front of junior so senior can get his fill of TikTok for the day.

You can flame me, you can call me a hypocrite for being on DCUM. But being on my phone for 30 min at night after a full day is very different from having it in my face all day.

Our society is going to ruin with these smartphones.

When I grew up, people said the same thing about TV.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I see so many children seemingly addicted to phones/ipads. They can’t watch their sibling’s basketball game… they can’t look out the window for a 20 min train ride or interact with their parents or siblings… I guess they get “bored” and can’t bear to be alone with their thoughts so they need a phone or iPad stuffed in front of them.

No wonder when you look at their parents are no better. Always a phone in their face, scrolling, scrolling. Stuff a phone in front of junior so senior can get his fill of TikTok for the day.

You can flame me, you can call me a hypocrite for being on DCUM. But being on my phone for 30 min at night after a full day is very different from having it in my face all day.

Our society is going to ruin with these smartphones.

When I grew up, people said the same thing about TV.

There is a clear line - before 2012 and after 2012. Kids and adults have rotted their brains and it started then. Sure, adults have complained about rock n roll, TV, even GTA and COD. Before that, they complained about novels, and probably something else even before that.

But now we have evidence of what actually rots the brain. More and more evidence - and it started in 2012.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I see so many children seemingly addicted to phones/ipads. They can’t watch their sibling’s basketball game… they can’t look out the window for a 20 min train ride or interact with their parents or siblings… I guess they get “bored” and can’t bear to be alone with their thoughts so they need a phone or iPad stuffed in front of them.

No wonder when you look at their parents are no better. Always a phone in their face, scrolling, scrolling. Stuff a phone in front of junior so senior can get his fill of TikTok for the day.

You can flame me, you can call me a hypocrite for being on DCUM. But being on my phone for 30 min at night after a full day is very different from having it in my face all day.

Our society is going to ruin with these smartphones.

When I grew up, people said the same thing about TV.

I was just going to write that I grew up watching MTV. I’m not sure watching Alicia Silverstone getting her belly button pierced was all that much better. Manu of my friends got tons of piercings when I was a teen. I think teens these days do less drugs and have uber so less drink and driving. I believe that is at least the case in our UMC neighborhood and my kids.

[Anonymous]

Does this rotting of the minds apply to forums like this one?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The defensiveness of so many PPs speaks volumes. I work at a public school and can assure you that our society is INDEED circling the drain based on what I see day in and day out. Kids have NO attention span and scores keep dropping — yet multiple teachers have taught the content in multiple modalities, key concepts are posted on the wall, and in some cases the tests are open notebook! Their school laptops absolutely need to go, too! What a problem we have on our hands. I realize correlation does not prove causation, but I’m sure it’s an “all of the above” situation, where both parents AND kids are on screens while brains are developing and none of what kids actually need is happening.

Even if you feel you or your kids overuse screens, you can start somewhere. Enforce time limits by age as recommended by experts. Read to your children daily. Do screen free activities or days together…increase these over time. Designate screen-free spaces like the dinner table. Delay phone ownership for kids as long as possible. Limit social media use. No screens in kids’ bedrooms. How I wish everyone realized the education landscape. It’s bad!

And some experts are finding symptoms of ADHD in some kids can lessen/disappear if ALL screens are removed. Wow. Definitely worthy of so much more research. Rather than getting defensive, we could all benefit from greater self-reflection on this front.

Our kid's teachers use massive screens in the classroom, and have the kids play computer games during the school day. In kindergarten. It sounds like you are more interested in judging than in self reflection. Be the change you want to see!

PP here. I do try to be that change — in how I work with your kids and with my own kids. That is my entire point. Another defensive post trying to blame someone else. There are some bad teachers, but most really care and work tirelessly. They certainly know the curriculum and they try to reduce screentime as much as possible. But tech use is encouraged in our district. We need to rethink who we elect to the school board and their priorities. But it can’t all happen at school. Building an attention span starts at home. I’m not judging; I’m pointing out my perspective based on my job. Computer games are blocked (other than educational things like quizlet and kahoot), so if your kid is playing them, they are getting links and codes from other students to get around the wall.

Of course most teachers really care. Most are still using screens a lot in the classroom. And asking kids to use screens to complete and turn in assignments. Maybe focus on that instead of sh&t posting about parents. I don't know why teachers insist on bashing parents online. I don't think it makes you more effective - on the contrary, I think it serves as an excuse.

Let's all focus on working on ourselves instead of attacking each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does this rotting of the minds apply to forums like this one?

No, of course not. OP and her buddies are allowed to bash parents online, that doesn't count

[Anonymous]

FYI, posting online about how parents are rotting their kids' brains with screens is hilarious. Get off the computer you judgmental dumbasses

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I see so many children seemingly addicted to phones/ipads. They can’t watch their sibling’s basketball game… they can’t look out the window for a 20 min train ride or interact with their parents or siblings… I guess they get “bored” and can’t bear to be alone with their thoughts so they need a phone or iPad stuffed in front of them.

No wonder when you look at their parents are no better. Always a phone in their face, scrolling, scrolling. Stuff a phone in front of junior so senior can get his fill of TikTok for the day.

You can flame me, you can call me a hypocrite for being on DCUM. But being on my phone for 30 min at night after a full day is very different from having it in my face all day.

Our society is going to ruin with these smartphones.

I can see you occupy all that wonderful screen free time staring and strangers and then speculating about their lives and judging them. Then posting your deep thoughts about them on the internet.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does this rotting of the minds apply to forums like this one?

No, of course not. OP and her buddies are allowed to bash parents online, that doesn't count

DP. OP specifically said that adults are also rotting their brains (which is definitely true of myself and most of the adults I know). Y'all couldn't be bothered to read the entire OP.

SMH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FYI, posting online about how parents are rotting their kids' brains with screens is hilarious. Get off the computer you judgmental dumbasses

Reading is fundamental.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does this rotting of the minds apply to forums like this one?

No, of course not. OP and her buddies are allowed to bash parents online, that doesn't count

DP. OP specifically said that adults are also rotting their brains (which is definitely true of myself and most of the adults I know). Y'all couldn't be bothered to read the entire OP.

SMH

Naw, OP insinuated she is only on her phone for 30 minutes at night and that her screen use is okay. GMAFB.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does this rotting of the minds apply to forums like this one?

No, of course not. OP and her buddies are allowed to bash parents online, that doesn't count

DP. OP specifically said that adults are also rotting their brains (which is definitely true of myself and most of the adults I know). Y'all couldn't be bothered to read the entire OP.

SMH

Naw, OP insinuated she is only on her phone for 30 minutes at night and that her screen use is okay. GMAFB.

Read the thread title.

I realize I am rotting my brain. I have taken some steps to reduce screen use, and I am trying to get DH on board but he's like you. He can't be bothered because it's hard.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does this rotting of the minds apply to forums like this one?

No, of course not. OP and her buddies are allowed to bash parents online, that doesn't count

DP. OP specifically said that adults are also rotting their brains (which is definitely true of myself and most of the adults I know). Y'all couldn't be bothered to read the entire OP.

SMH

Naw, OP insinuated she is only on her phone for 30 minutes at night and that her screen use is okay. GMAFB.

Read the thread title.

I realize I am rotting my brain. I have taken some steps to reduce screen use, and I am trying to get DH on board but he's like you. He can't be bothered because it's hard.

And yet here you are, sh$t posting on DCUM. Probably because you are too focused on other people's screen time instead of your own. No wonder your DH hides in his phone. His home life probably stinks.

[Anonymous]

You know what would be a not insanely stupid thread? "I am working to decrease my screen time and my kids' screen time. This is what has helped!"