Tiktok says men dont belong in Pilates class

[Anonymous]

I have had several different men in Pilates class (small studio with 3-4 people per group) and they’ve all been great. I don’t mind it at all. It’s also kind of fun as a 50-something woman to watch a dude struggle with the same exercises.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in a Pilates class as the only dude. I felt out of place so I asked the instructor if it was inappropriate for me to be there. She said no way, as did a couple of other class participants who overheard. That was some years ago when people were way less uppity though. That aside, Pilates is amazingly effective, although it’s hard not to feel like a dumbass when you’re doing it.

Women are socialized to be people pleasers. Of course theyre not going to tell you your presence is unwelcome- especially not the instructor, where it may literally be against the rules if she says anything. But how women feel is very different, as this Tiktok trend proves

It proves that women aren't "people pleasers".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ha- the article is actually admonishing those women who complain about men in their classes. I’m not sure anyone here bashing all men in these classes really want to be lumped in with the “Pilates Princesses”

Excerpt:

“On TikTok, becoming a ‘Pilates Princess’ is the lifestyle du jour of a certain self-care, soft-life set, who drinks matcha and wears baby pink on the reformer. ‘There was a man in my Pilates class today.’ one self-professed ‘Pilates Princess’ says in a TikTok from last summer….
‘Not to be dramatic or anything, but if a man is in my Pilates class, my day is automatically ruined; it’s over, canceled,’ another TikToker said recently.”

If you actually got the subtext of the article, they were mocking men who complained and basically saying theyre thin skinned children. Hence why all the comments are on the Tiktok girls' side

The article is mocking the pilates princesses by the commenters are pilates princess, because non pilates princesses don't care about articles about pilates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in a Pilates class as the only dude. I felt out of place so I asked the instructor if it was inappropriate for me to be there. She said no way, as did a couple of other class participants who overheard. That was some years ago when people were way less uppity though. That aside, Pilates is amazingly effective, although it’s hard not to feel like a dumbass when you’re doing it.

Don’t worry, asking if it was okay to be there was a very female space behavior and in my mind it would have earned you an instant probational pass! I’m sure you converted to permanent access with flying colors. For the record, my passes are internal and I would never try to block someone from a class they are entitled to attend. It’s just whether I would be happy to see you or try to avoid you.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. They make noises and fart. I’d prefer them not there, but if they are I try not to be next to them

[Anonymous]

In my perfect world, we get to keep the upsides of having spaces with male energy and the spaces with female energy, without barring anyone from entry. That world is the world I mostly live in. Lots of women can “hang with the boys” and lots of men can go to Pilates without trying to “meet” anyone or make anyone feel weird.

Some people suck but most people are fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in a Pilates class as the only dude. I felt out of place so I asked the instructor if it was inappropriate for me to be there. She said no way, as did a couple of other class participants who overheard. That was some years ago when people were way less uppity though. That aside, Pilates is amazingly effective, although it’s hard not to feel like a dumbass when you’re doing it.

Women are socialized to be people pleasers. Of course theyre not going to tell you your presence is unwelcome- especially not the instructor, where it may literally be against the rules if she says anything. But how women feel is very different, as this Tiktok trend proves

It proves that women aren't "people pleasers".

Gen Z and younger millennial women arent. Theyve seen their moms toiling away and they realize that the reward at the end of female subservience is being used and abused by men as a bangmaid. That's exactly why theyre making 4b go viral and listening to songs like "Peggy" by Ceechynaa. They are not tolerating it any more.

[Anonymous]

I do 90 minute hot yoga - what used to be called bikram. Probably a quarter of a typical class is men. But they are clearly there for the workout. Occasionally, but not very often, some bros may show up - more back when Groupon was a thing. But they never come back. If you're not used to bikram, that first class can be a shock. I think the more intense workout yoga classes as well as the really meditative classes only attract men who are serious about their workout or their practice. I've never seen any questionable behavior. I don't know anything about pilates. My friend calls it her middle aged woman exercise class, so I guess there's a type, and I can see it being weird if men show up to something that is so overwhelmingly female. But difficult yoga and meditative yoga seem totally fine to me and welcoming of everyone who takes it seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ha- the article is actually admonishing those women who complain about men in their classes. I’m not sure anyone here bashing all men in these classes really want to be lumped in with the “Pilates Princesses”

Excerpt:

“On TikTok, becoming a ‘Pilates Princess’ is the lifestyle du jour of a certain self-care, soft-life set, who drinks matcha and wears baby pink on the reformer. ‘There was a man in my Pilates class today.’ one self-professed ‘Pilates Princess’ says in a TikTok from last summer….
‘Not to be dramatic or anything, but if a man is in my Pilates class, my day is automatically ruined; it’s over, canceled,’ another TikToker said recently.”

If you actually got the subtext of the article, they were mocking men who complained and basically saying theyre thin skinned children. Hence why all the comments are on the Tiktok girls' side

The article is mocking the pilates princesses by the commenters are pilates princess, because non pilates princesses don't care about articles about pilates.

No, the commentators on the Cut are mostly Xers and elder millennials, the ones who used to read Gawker and various blogs back in the day. But anyone with half a brain or functioning social intelligence can see the subtle mockery going on in the writers prose, and that's why the commentators double down on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do 90 minute hot yoga - what used to be called bikram. Probably a quarter of a typical class is men. But they are clearly there for the workout. Occasionally, but not very often, some bros may show up - more back when Groupon was a thing. But they never come back. If you're not used to bikram, that first class can be a shock. I think the more intense workout yoga classes as well as the really meditative classes only attract men who are serious about their workout or their practice. I've never seen any questionable behavior. I don't know anything about pilates. My friend calls it her middle aged woman exercise class, so I guess there's a type, and I can see it being weird if men show up to something that is so overwhelmingly female. But difficult yoga and meditative yoga seem totally fine to me and welcoming of everyone who takes it seriously.

Hot yoga next to a man is the worst.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I took the day off together tomorrow for a day date and we were scheduled for a 10am Pilates class together at the gym. I just logged into his account and removed him from the class. Solidarity ladies!!

From a Pilates girl thank you! You are doing the Lord's work!

I’m the PP who took my DH out of class. I would like your advice as a Pilates girl. My DH has a genetic condition that affects his connective tissues. By 55 he’ll most likely be unable to walk. He cannot lift weights or do anything beyond body weight. He’d been doing yoga and Pilates in a gym class setting as his work out. Should he instead just do online classes at home? He’s obviously not macho due to his disability but a woman’s comfort/ peace of mind is more important to me.

Health is most important. Physical therapy may be more appropriate, but if his doctor recommends taking a class, he should look for one with the best and most experienced instructor .

But then, if there's multiple classes with that instructor, it would be totally cool if he would ask if there's a certain time when other men attend or any classes that tend to be unofficially all women, and try to find a class where he's least disruptive.

If he does end up being in an all female class, it would help if you went together so it's clear he's not there to pick up women, and if you coached him a bit on avoiding offensive behaviors, sounds, and smells, and ask the instructor to find a spot for him that would be least annoying. I would think in front, so that women don't feel like he's staring and so the instructor can help him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I took the day off together tomorrow for a day date and we were scheduled for a 10am Pilates class together at the gym. I just logged into his account and removed him from the class. Solidarity ladies!!

From a Pilates girl thank you! You are doing the Lord's work!

I’m the PP who took my DH out of class. I would like your advice as a Pilates girl. My DH has a genetic condition that affects his connective tissues. By 55 he’ll most likely be unable to walk. He cannot lift weights or do anything beyond body weight. He’d been doing yoga and Pilates in a gym class setting as his work out. Should he instead just do online classes at home? He’s obviously not macho due to his disability but a woman’s comfort/ peace of mind is more important to me.

Wow. I'm another who doesn't like men in yoga with me, but like them in bootcamp. Just different energy, and frequently the men coming in straight out of bed and don't smell great.

That said, you should care MORE about helping with your DH's disability than solidarity to a bunch of women you probably don't even know. If your DH can gain benefit from a yoga class, he should be there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I took the day off together tomorrow for a day date and we were scheduled for a 10am Pilates class together at the gym. I just logged into his account and removed him from the class. Solidarity ladies!!

From a Pilates girl thank you! You are doing the Lord's work!

I’m the PP who took my DH out of class. I would like your advice as a Pilates girl. My DH has a genetic condition that affects his connective tissues. By 55 he’ll most likely be unable to walk. He cannot lift weights or do anything beyond body weight. He’d been doing yoga and Pilates in a gym class setting as his work out. Should he instead just do online classes at home? He’s obviously not macho due to his disability but a woman’s comfort/ peace of mind is more important to me.

Wow. I'm another who doesn't like men in yoga with me, but like them in bootcamp. Just different energy, and frequently the men coming in straight out of bed and don't smell great.

That said, you should care MORE about helping with your DH's disability than solidarity to a bunch of women you probably don't even know. If your DH can gain benefit from a yoga class, he should be there.

A man's ability to walk isn't more important than a yoga class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do 90 minute hot yoga - what used to be called bikram. Probably a quarter of a typical class is men. But they are clearly there for the workout. Occasionally, but not very often, some bros may show up - more back when Groupon was a thing. But they never come back. If you're not used to bikram, that first class can be a shock. I think the more intense workout yoga classes as well as the really meditative classes only attract men who are serious about their workout or their practice. I've never seen any questionable behavior. I don't know anything about pilates. My friend calls it her middle aged woman exercise class, so I guess there's a type, and I can see it being weird if men show up to something that is so overwhelmingly female. But difficult yoga and meditative yoga seem totally fine to me and welcoming of everyone who takes it seriously.

Hot yoga next to a man is the worst.

The little pools of sweat they leave everywhere 😫

[Anonymous]

Women sweat too. Heavy women sweat more. Give me a break. People should learn to live in a society, if it displeases you to be around other humans, stay home.