What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?

[Anonymous]

Jokes about disability. “Forget your meds today? Off your lithium? Bipolar much?”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel really sad when I see a tween girl whose family is all dressed nicely and age appropriately but who’s obviously in the wrong size, style and fit of clothes and/or clothes that are nice but obviously chosen by a parent with a vision that leaves the kid out of step with other kids.

I was the girl dressed in corduroy Bermuda shorts and a blazer when other girls my age were in Limited Too and I can spot my fellow victims of overbearing, strange mothers from a hundred yards away.

Hello friend! My mom always made me get what she would have wanted at my age. Or, wear my brother’s handmedowns. And on top of that had weird rules, like shampoo but no conditioner or hair products.

You get it! Conditioner was “for adults”. I also wasn’t allowed to blow dry my hair or shower in the morning because those were adult things, so I had to fall asleep on damp hair every night and hope it would look ok in the morning.

NP. This is funny. I have a teenage DD who has only just recently accepted conditioner in her life (has to be a shampoo/conditioner combo though), refuses to blow dry and goes to sleep with damp hair every night, and hates buying clothes, so happily goes along with whatever I buy her. I hope no one feels sorry for her. It’s the way she wants it!

[Anonymous]

CSA

[Anonymous]

One kid standing by themselves and everyone else standing together in a big group. Unfortunately I was pushed out of a long-term group of friends in 6th grade so I can immediately spot the difference between “oh, she’s just waiting for her friends and it’s all good” and “she just got iced out forever.” I’m not a teacher but work in facilities management so I see a lot of different schools first thing in the morning or at pickup.

I saw it for the first time at DD’s school recently and it was a gut punch.

[Anonymous]

Drunk people, especially drunk driving

[Anonymous]

Domestic violence.

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Anonymous wrote:Domestic violence.

I took my kid to a Broadway play and watched an old woman slam her granddaughter into a wall in front of a huge group of people and NO ONE said a thing. I didn't either. I was afraid of being called a Karen in peak white women need to STFU timeframe.

I hate myself for doing nothing and saying nothing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Listening to people who haven’t experienced infertility or IVF talk about it, usually in a judgmental way.

+100

So many people told us that nature was telling us that we could not produce healthy children and that we should adopt. We had two children through IVF and both have physical issues and some learning disabilities. I have cut ourselves off from our families because they are the "I told you so" types.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Listening to people who haven’t experienced infertility or IVF talk about it, usually in a judgmental way.

+100

So many people told us that nature was telling us that we could not produce healthy children and that we should adopt. We had two children through IVF and both have physical issues and some learning disabilities. I have cut ourselves off from our families because they are the "I told you so" types.

What are you trying to say here? That they were right? Or the disabilities are coincidence?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People joking about having seizures or heart attacks makes me squirm. Can confirm, neither are funny.

For me it is choking. I have a family member who died from choking, and sometimes people say thinks like “It was so funny I almost choked on my whatever” meaning they laughed too hard while eating. I know they are using it as a figure of speech but I sometimes feel a tinge of sadness, then I am glad for them that they did not ever experience the same sadness from a choking incident so it is lighthearted for them.

NP. To be fair, you can choke without dying. Yesterday I was drinking water while watching a video and something funny happened. I choked on my water and was coughing for several minutes.

[Anonymous]

Aspergers spouse
Emotional and verbal abuse
Divorce
Tragic “accidents” due to carelessness

[Anonymous]

Drowning

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Racism
Bullying
Drug and alcohol addictions
Suicide as lost too many to this

[Anonymous]

Pregnant women

[Anonymous]

Pit bulls. Once you see it happen it changes the way you see the teeth/jaw/cheek muscles of any domesticated animal.