How do you explain this parent behavior

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This seems like an odd way to tell someone who is fairly close to your child that he was in a car accident. What if they hadn’t invited him over that weekend? Were you never going to tell them?
If someone here decided that their relationship with your child wasn’t that close, I think it was you. They were just following your lead.

NP but do you announce news to your entire social circle at once? I mean if it’s urgent or you’re looking for support, sure. But if not, why?

[Anonymous]

OP. Yes, friend’s parents are white and wealthy. I am not a drama or exhausting person at all IRL, as other posters have suggested. My DC missed school for a week. Friend 1 came over to see my DC during that week, and invitation for sleepover happened the following weekend. Relationship with parents is unchanged and friendly. I am not going to discuss the other incident.

I wanted to get a sense for what people think. It seems about half of you think parent behavior was fine.

[Anonymous]

Also. I was not looking for sympathy or support as I didn’t need.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This seems like an odd way to tell someone who is fairly close to your child that he was in a car accident. What if they hadn’t invited him over that weekend? Were you never going to tell them?
If someone here decided that their relationship with your child wasn’t that close, I think it was you. They were just following your lead.

NP but do you announce news to your entire social circle at once? I mean if it’s urgent or you’re looking for support, sure. But if not, why?

I’m not sure what you mean. I didn’t get the impression from the OP that this text exchange happened immediately following the accident.

But I’ve been notified about things like this in a group text or people have told me when I see them casually.
It’s totally normal to tell people that you have been injured or that your child has been in a car accident without waiting for them to reach out to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also. I was not looking for sympathy or support as I didn’t need.

I think it was fine. Doubly so if the other mom already brought her child over to visit.

I would respond like this to my own sister. A couple of weeks ago her 5 year old was sick. We talked about it on the phone two days in a row and she was on the mend.
A few days later, I called my sister to see if we could stop over to visit, and she said she wanted her daughter to rest a little. I just sent a thumbs up emoji.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. Yes, friend’s parents are white and wealthy. I am not a drama or exhausting person at all IRL, as other posters have suggested. My DC missed school for a week. Friend 1 came over to see my DC during that week, and invitation for sleepover happened the following weekend. Relationship with parents is unchanged and friendly. I am not going to discuss the other incident.

I wanted to get a sense for what people think. It seems about half of you think parent behavior was fine.

I thought from your original post that this was the first Friend 1’s mom had heard about the accident. If she has already brought her child over to your house to visit and expressed some kind of concern, then I think her response is fine.

[Anonymous]

Your post contains ALL KINDS of extraneous facts, OP. It could have said, “I’m disappointed that I told the parents of my child’s friend that he got into a car accident and they didn’t express any concern.” It could be that you think you’re communicating clearly but you’re saying a lot of extra words, and things are getting lost. But yes, it’s weird that they didn’t ask how he was, if they understood that he was involved in an accident.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Fair enough. I sort of tried to summarize the situation but I may have made it even more confusing.

Just to clarify, parent of friend 1 never came over, just their child. Their like was in reply to my first mention to them of the accident.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also. I was not looking for sympathy or support as I didn’t need.

I think it was fine. Doubly so if the other mom already brought her child over to visit.

I would respond like this to my own sister. A couple of weeks ago her 5 year old was sick. We talked about it on the phone two days in a row and she was on the mend.
A few days later, I called my sister to see if we could stop over to visit, and she said she wanted her daughter to rest a little. I just sent a thumbs up emoji.

You are an idiot. This level of communication did not happen between OP and her friend.

Jesus, I can’t with you white people who try to justify all sorts of low-EQ behavior.

[Anonymous]

Is this a troll? You're mad that they "liked" your comment instead of what, sending over a get well basket or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could friend #1 have told his parents already about the car accident and told them your son is physically OK? They may not have wanted to make a big deal out of it if they already heard he’s uninjured. I can see them potentially not wanting to be embarrassingly over effusive.

OP here. Parent of friend 1 typically reads and replies to messages (all kids-related) promptly. I doubt they didn’t read. And my child did get injured, although they recovered, and has a scar to this day. Anyway this behavior shows lack of respect and consideration for sure towards me and I think my son too. If somebody they value more had written the some message they would have not replied with a like. They would have probably taken the initiative to ask about my child’s health when they heard about the accident from somebody else, as it happened with other parents.

Anyway I really don’t care about people like this. It’s just makes me sad to raise my kids in this kind of village with such cut-throat people. And I have not told you about the incident related to friend 2, which is even worse.

How long ago was this? Your OP says "recently", this post makes it sound like it was quite a while ago. I'm on team troll here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. Yes, friend’s parents are white and wealthy. I am not a drama or exhausting person at all IRL, as other posters have suggested. My DC missed school for a week. Friend 1 came over to see my DC during that week, and invitation for sleepover happened the following weekend. Relationship with parents is unchanged and friendly. I am not going to discuss the other incident.

I wanted to get a sense for what people think. It seems about half of you think parent behavior was fine.

I didn’t think you would. Not enough people biting on it, eh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. Yes, friend’s parents are white and wealthy. I am not a drama or exhausting person at all IRL, as other posters have suggested. My DC missed school for a week. Friend 1 came over to see my DC during that week, and invitation for sleepover happened the following weekend. Relationship with parents is unchanged and friendly. I am not going to discuss the other incident.

I wanted to get a sense for what people think. It seems about half of you think parent behavior was fine.

So it would seem like parents of F1 already knew, and were trying to do something nice for your child (invite him over, again at their home, since you dont reciprocate), and you got all bent out of shape. You definitely are a drama queen, not sure why you think you arent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also. I was not looking for sympathy or support as I didn’t need.

I think it was fine. Doubly so if the other mom already brought her child over to visit.

I would respond like this to my own sister. A couple of weeks ago her 5 year old was sick. We talked about it on the phone two days in a row and she was on the mend.
A few days later, I called my sister to see if we could stop over to visit, and she said she wanted her daughter to rest a little. I just sent a thumbs up emoji.

You are an idiot. This level of communication did not happen between OP and her friend.

Jesus, I can’t with you white people who try to justify all sorts of low-EQ behavior.

You don’t have the lived experience to comment on this situation.

[Anonymous]

OP is definitely a drama queen. The kids had been with each other since the accident. It wasn’t news.