PSA: My house is too cold

[Anonymous]

It’s not wrong or bad to keep your house 68 degrees.

It is not wrong or bad to be cold.

The fact that you think her being cold is some kind of attack on you speaks to where the real conflict here is. Do you often feel inadequate or insecure?

Does your daughter have high quality slippers (LL Bean is the classic for a reason) warm and comfortable loungewear, and access to external warmth sources like an electric blanket? Layering only does so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not wrong or bad to keep your house 68 degrees.

It is not wrong or bad to be cold.

The fact that you think her being cold is some kind of attack on you speaks to where the real conflict here is. Do you often feel inadequate or insecure?

Does your daughter have high quality slippers (LL Bean is the classic for a reason) warm and comfortable loungewear, and access to external warmth sources like an electric blanket? Layering only does so much.

Yes. Unfortunately therapists have told me through the years she has a personality disorder and so everything sounds like an attack. I was venting.

[Anonymous]

It’s too cold even for my cats

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people's bodies are just like that. I'm at my mom's house with a silk undershirt, wool sweater, wool socks, and wool blanket over me on the couch and I'm freezing. Really hate it. My circulation sucks and I know it, but what can I do? Putting on even more layers doesn't change it-- my face is cold and I don't think I should have to wear a balaclava indoors. My body hates this climate and I'm counting the days until I can leave.

This. OP, you are being unnecessarily rigid and discounting your daughter's experience. She is telling you that she is uncomfortable. Are you listening to her? Do you not care that she is cold? It really sucks to be chronically chilly and is actually kind of depressing. Yes, she can put on layers or get under a blanket. But like the PP says, it's not particularly effective and overall just feels like a struggle. Seriously OP, would it kill you to bump up the thermostat a couple of degrees? Even 70 would take the chill off a bit. 71 would be a relief to her. I get that you are irritated by her attitude but put yourself in her shoes- she is freezing and likely miserable. And her parent is telling her to suck it up because...why?

[Anonymous]

Do you have extra turtlenecks and wool sweaters for her to borrow? She probably packed for the ambient temp in her own home.

[Anonymous]

Why aren't you letting the tortoise hibeenate?? That's what serious herpatologists do. My family house them in dry boxes in our garage until they start to move around again in the spring. Some tortoises have been with us over 30 years. Google it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s 22 tell her to get an apartment.

+1 and take the tortoise with her.

[Anonymous]

69 does sound freezing to me, OP.

[Anonymous]

I had a roommate who kept it at 62 at night, and I felt like I was shivering in bed. However, I don't mind 62 at night now that I have hot flashes.

During the day I am fine with 68 to 70 depending on the weather.

[Anonymous]

My apartment is 74 degrees. I would freeze at 69.

[Anonymous]

Oh my goodness! My house is set at 72 and I run a heater in whatever room I am in.

[Anonymous]

Before my wife moved in, I would keep my house at 64 in the day and 55 at night, whereas she would keep her apartment at 74. So we compromised, and now keep the house at 69 during the day and 61 at night. Any higher than that and I can't sleep because I'll drown in my own sweat, and I already sleep with three fans pointed at me.

And yes, I have spoken with multiple doctors about this, and they have yet to find something wrong with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Better that than my in-laws who have their house at 78 for a family gathering of 15+ people. My DH and his siblings no longer scold. They just secretly try to beat the next one to turn it down a notch or 2

Maybe they don't want to be cold in their own house. Older people tend to need more warmth. On the other hand, those who keep their houses on the cold side (or on the warm side in the summer) solely because of cost can probably afford to adjust the temperature for a few days to accommodate guests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the heat lamp isn't enough, depending on the setup, OP. Also watch for their desired humidity range depending on where they're from.

We have an Amazonian parrot, a northern breed dog and fluffy rabbits, and keep our temp at 66F. The parrot has a humidifier and bird-safe heating pads in the winter.

We have had the tortoise for 15 years. He is fine.

Russian Tortoise. Pretty sure it gets below 69 degrees in Siberia.

In the wild they drink vodka to keep warm. Are you making sure it gets vodka?

[Anonymous]

We keep our house at 69 and wear layers