“Boy mom”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am technically a boy mom though I don't use that phrase but aren't you reading something into it that's not there?
I think there is an element of wistfulness there. When I pictured being a mother I admit I pictured a little girl a lot like myself. Motherhood has been completely different with boys though of course wonderful! So I think there's a "making your own happiness" component to that.
There is no "mom of both" identity because those people are considered to have the ideal situation.
There is also a whole girl-mom social scene that the moms of boys are completely left out of. My kids have their few best friends and I see those moms but we never get together in big groups the way the girls seem to.

There's also no "girl mom" or "boy dad" identity, it's a thing specific to opposite gender parents, and mostly women not men; self-conscious "girl dads" are way less common than "boy moms." I'm not sure what that says about people that identify this way (I don't and I'm a dad of one girl, so I COULD), but I think it's more than just "one of each is ideal."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone knows this is not a good thing, right? I married the son of a "boy mom". He didn't know how to heat up pizza when I met him.

That's not what "boy mom" means because that happens often in moms of boys and girls.

[Anonymous]

Why all the boy hate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why all the boy hate?

Moms of girls always have a problem with boys... whether it's how they act in school, on the playground, during a playdate.

Boys are loud and physical, and some moms equate that with ill behaved.

[Anonymous]

I have two boys and a girl and I absolutely hate the term. I also hate “girl mom.” People are individuals, not their gender.

[Anonymous]

I think some of yàll are overacting and reading more into than their needs to be. Most folks who would jokingly refer to themselves as a “boy mom”  have only boys and usually multiple. It’s a different experience to have all girls or different genders. And honestly for a long time nothing really acknowledged the role moms play in boys lives or the role dad’s play in girl lives. This is particular true when it comes to sports, hard jobs, or folks who outside things that are really associated with a specific gender now a days (nurse, ES teacher, soldier).

If you’re really annoyed by this I think you need to look inward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone knows this is not a good thing, right? I married the son of a "boy mom". He didn't know how to heat up pizza when I met him.

Mil had both and she was like this. She used to make separate meals for the adults and each child so no one would have to eat something they didn't care for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and a girl and I absolutely hate the term. I also hate “girl mom.” People are individuals, not their gender.

+1. It's so weird to me to act like gender is the defining characteristic of your child. I'm a dad, and my daughter is basically exactly like I was when I was her age. That matters so much more than that she's a girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am technically a boy mom though I don't use that phrase but aren't you reading something into it that's not there?
I think there is an element of wistfulness there. When I pictured being a mother I admit I pictured a little girl a lot like myself. Motherhood has been completely different with boys though of course wonderful! So I think there's a "making your own happiness" component to that.
There is no "mom of both" identity because those people are considered to have the ideal situation.
There is also a whole girl-mom social scene that the moms of boys are completely left out of. My kids have their few best friends and I see those moms but we never get together in big groups the way the girls seem to.

There's also no "girl mom" or "boy dad" identity, it's a thing specific to opposite gender parents, and mostly women not men; self-conscious "girl dads" are way less common than "boy moms." I'm not sure what that says about people that identify this way (I don't and I'm a dad of one girl, so I COULD), but I think it's more than just "one of each is ideal."

There is absolutely a girl mom and boy dad identity. Why do you think folks are soo excited when they get a kid of the same gender. Guys act like they’ve won the lottery when they find out they’re having a boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and a girl and I absolutely hate the term. I also hate “girl mom.” People are individuals, not their gender.

+1. It's so weird to me to act like gender is the defining characteristic of your child. I'm a dad, and my daughter is basically exactly like I was when I was her age. That matters so much more than that she's a girl.

+2

[Anonymous]

"I'm shook"

[Anonymous]

“I’m triggered”

[Anonymous]

So many generalizations. All moms/women. All dads/men. Do you really think of people this way? Makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Mom of boys,” you’re fine.

“BOY MOM,” you are annoying and think your son does literally no wrong.

“He’s all boy,” I will punch you in the tit.

I never thought boy mom meant this. I live with two boys and a husband. I thought boy mom meant getting used to gross toilets, hands down pants, etc. Now that my older kid is well into puberty I'm really feeling the gender differences.

[Anonymous]

"Hubby."

The Venn diagram of the people who use "boy mom" and "hubby" are a circle.