Why are women so triggered about men dating younger?

[Anonymous]

Women are insecure about age, looks, beauty, etc the same way men get insecure when another man makes more money or has more than them. Jealousy is a natural human reaction on both sides.

[Anonymous]

I was 12 when older men started hitting on me and I find it disgusting and I guess I never shed the idea of what type of man you must be to be hitting on such a young person. And yes, I lump them.

As I think what “cake eater” men are and then bam they get cancer and the younger woman wants nothing to do with them and then they turn back towards their family for help and you’re like go **** yourself. You roll the dice and you seven’d out.

My mother-in-law lives in an over 55 community and every man who has a second wife who is younger … they gets abandoned once he is no longer capable. He leaves his wife at 55 for a 35 year old and at 70 or earlier if he gets sick he gets abandoned. You have to think he left his wife when she got “ passed her usefulness” and then he married someone who “ left him when he passed his usefulness “. Sure it’s karma, but who suffers, the children…. Again. And then the kids get stuck with this old man who abandon them and can’t care for them.

So am I mad for the first wife no I’m mad for the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's not a lot of public acknowledgment that when men marry women 20, 30 years younger, it's not good for society in general. It's not good for kids to have fathers that much older (for many reasons, including genetics). It's not good for the women who end up being widowed in their 50s. But mostly it's just not a good thing 1/2 of the population feels that their value as a person is so tied to something essentially meaningless.

We like to think that our value on the dating market should not be so heavily weighted in favor of something trivial.

I am surprised that conservatives don't call this out more often or talk about this. The fact that families in general suffer when there's such a disparity in ages, and that there are millions of older women who are all alone because they married old men. It benefits rich older men to marry young women but the whole female population pays a price when this becomes common.

Welcome to the world of men under 6 feet tall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 45 and don’t plan to marry the 22-27yo women I date and they don’t think that as well. This is short term fun and, yes, being friends.

I have dated many professional women close to my age in DC that work on Cap Hill or for the IMF or DOJ. Once someone from NSA. There is no difference as far as how much I spend dating/travel when I’m dating someone younger, so you can’t say they’re with me for my money. We have fun times and they say I treat them better than men their own age.

I don’t expect these relationships to last and no one is sad when we move on. Usually we stay friends.

The difference isn’t what you spend on them versus other women. It’s what they can get from you versus another men. Your reasoning skills are poor.

And that’s evened out by getting to sleep with young beautiful women (triggering other couples or the young waiter while out is simple a bonus).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Older women don’t like the competition, and greatly resent the shift in the balance of power as men become more desirable in the dating market with a little age.

If you look at many US cities stats, most women at 40-50 are not even interested in dating. Yes, men slightly outnumber women, but couple % gap is nothing when there dating males in that age group still outnumber dating females on OLD by a large margin. Attractive women in that age group who are in shape still have their pick of the litter. I’ve had long term relationships that emerged after 3-4 months of search on apps. Both of my friends who got divorced and actively dated their 40s are also now partnered with men in their own age group. Not 60+ men.
My dating quality also improved in 40s vs 20s, as so much unwanted attention from men who are only after a young P is avoided.

I dislike and avoid men who tell me they usually date younger, or are members of groups “older men younger women”. Most of them are just immature narcs who brag on dates about “deserving” younger; criticize ex wives; laughingly talk about Taylor Swift etc. I feel sorry for younger women who they date

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was 12 when older men started hitting on me and I find it disgusting and I guess I never shed the idea of what type of man you must be to be hitting on such a young person. And yes, I lump them.

As I think what “cake eater” men are and then bam they get cancer and the younger woman wants nothing to do with them and then they turn back towards their family for help and you’re like go **** yourself. You roll the dice and you seven’d out.

My mother-in-law lives in an over 55 community and every man who has a second wife who is younger … they gets abandoned once he is no longer capable. He leaves his wife at 55 for a 35 year old and at 70 or earlier if he gets sick he gets abandoned. You have to think he left his wife when she got “ passed her usefulness” and then he married someone who “ left him when he passed his usefulness “. Sure it’s karma, but who suffers, the children…. Again. And then the kids get stuck with this old man who abandon them and can’t care for them.

So am I mad for the first wife no I’m mad for the kids.

If the man is wealthy enough to provide for the younger wife in the will/life insurance they will stick around. If not - she’ll offload him on kids from prior marriage.
I’ve observed this tendency and lots of abandoned older (70+) men in DC. Usually these are educated but not particular wealthy guys: former nonprofits leads, federal retirees. If you go to any free embassy concert, you’ll see them. They were all in long term relationships in the past, but didn’t marry their partners so there was no economic motivation for her to stick around. Women at 60+ age group would rather enjoy their freedoms and travel on a small budget than taking care of a man for free. They’ll stick around only as long as he's able to travel together.
A guy I knew recently died in his early 70s: he never married or moved in with his partner . There was nobody to help at home when he had a strike. Kids buried him, the ex partner wasn’t even at funeral. She’s traveling the world and couldn’t care less

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's not a lot of public acknowledgment that when men marry women 20, 30 years younger, it's not good for society in general. It's not good for kids to have fathers that much older (for many reasons, including genetics). It's not good for the women who end up being widowed in their 50s. But mostly it's just not a good thing 1/2 of the population feels that their value as a person is so tied to something essentially meaningless.

We like to think that our value on the dating market should not be so heavily weighted in favor of something trivial.

I am surprised that conservatives don't call this out more often or talk about this. The fact that families in general suffer when there's such a disparity in ages, and that there are millions of older women who are all alone because they married old men. It benefits rich older men to marry young women but the whole female population pays a price when this becomes common.

Welcome to the world of men under 6 feet tall.

No, the 6 foot rule is imaginary. It only exists in the heads of men who want to believe their lack of success is due to their height when really it's other reasons. Look around, you'll see lots of short men-- sometimes very short-- successfully dating or married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 45 and don’t plan to marry the 22-27yo women I date and they don’t think that as well. This is short term fun and, yes, being friends.

I have dated many professional women close to my age in DC that work on Cap Hill or for the IMF or DOJ. Once someone from NSA. There is no difference as far as how much I spend dating/travel when I’m dating someone younger, so you can’t say they’re with me for my money. We have fun times and they say I treat them better than men their own age.

I don’t expect these relationships to last and no one is sad when we move on. Usually we stay friends.

The difference isn’t what you spend on them versus other women. It’s what they can get from you versus another men. Your reasoning skills are poor.

And that’s evened out by getting to sleep with young beautiful women (triggering other couples or the young waiter while out is simple a bonus).

I was responding to the PP who said this: “so you can’t say they’re with me for my money.”

You keep showing yourself as a very ugly person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was 12 when older men started hitting on me and I find it disgusting and I guess I never shed the idea of what type of man you must be to be hitting on such a young person. And yes, I lump them.

As I think what “cake eater” men are and then bam they get cancer and the younger woman wants nothing to do with them and then they turn back towards their family for help and you’re like go **** yourself. You roll the dice and you seven’d out.

My mother-in-law lives in an over 55 community and every man who has a second wife who is younger … they gets abandoned once he is no longer capable. He leaves his wife at 55 for a 35 year old and at 70 or earlier if he gets sick he gets abandoned. You have to think he left his wife when she got “ passed her usefulness” and then he married someone who “ left him when he passed his usefulness “. Sure it’s karma, but who suffers, the children…. Again. And then the kids get stuck with this old man who abandon them and can’t care for them.

So am I mad for the first wife no I’m mad for the kids.

All of this. And some of us are living it right now. See, we think about how people's actions affect others, and we think long-term. Give it a try sometime!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are women so triggered about men dating younger?

Older men brag about dating younger but there isn't much to it. It's often just midlife crisis. Yet women on here are so triggered by it. Stop feeling insecure about it. And in 99.9% of cases you wouldn't even date those older men anyways so why are you so triggered?

I guess it stems from all the predatory behavior we’ve seen/endured. I think it’s weird when there’s a really large age gap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was 12 when older men started hitting on me and I find it disgusting and I guess I never shed the idea of what type of man you must be to be hitting on such a young person. And yes, I lump them.

As I think what “cake eater” men are and then bam they get cancer and the younger woman wants nothing to do with them and then they turn back towards their family for help and you’re like go **** yourself. You roll the dice and you seven’d out.

My mother-in-law lives in an over 55 community and every man who has a second wife who is younger … they gets abandoned once he is no longer capable. He leaves his wife at 55 for a 35 year old and at 70 or earlier if he gets sick he gets abandoned. You have to think he left his wife when she got “ passed her usefulness” and then he married someone who “ left him when he passed his usefulness “. Sure it’s karma, but who suffers, the children…. Again. And then the kids get stuck with this old man who abandon them and can’t care for them.

So am I mad for the first wife no I’m mad for the kids.

All of this. And some of us are living it right now. See, we think about how people's actions affect others, and we think long-term. Give it a try sometime!

I’m a woman in my 40s, and constantly get hit by men in their late 50s-mid 60s. They are ALL interested in specifically official marriage. Nurse and purse. Almond to save him from a sudden strike, cook healthy, push his ass outside to walk etc. One guy was trying to sell the idea that I would be eligible for his social security after 10 years of marriage. LOL. I don’t even plan to draw my own SS it’s peanuts of what I’m making and will only increase my tax bill in retirement !
Men don’t realize how sophisticated women are in fact nowadays. We weigh in all relationships options rationally and avoid those who try to exploit our time, money and youthful energy

[Anonymous]

It's "triggering" because it just rubs in how foolish men really are.
I had to select new glucose meters for the hospital where I work. A few companies sent sales reps for me to meet with. One company sent a woman dressed in a full-on Lolita / Harajuku costume. I'm talking bow in the hair, white fishnets, frilly pink dress. She did not speak enough English to answer my questions about her product. I was frankly annoyed that this tactic must work often enough for this lady to have this job at this billion-dollar corporation! Can you imagine if I were a man and chose this product affecting millions of $$ and people's health based on this giggling chick?
After I rejected the product they sent ANOTHER sales rep who was a young Ben Affleck lookalike. He still didn't know anything about the product and I was not interested in chitchatting with this himbo. I guarantee that this tactic never works on women the way it does on men. Businesses are going to have to adapt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because I feel like the women are getting taken advantage of. And yes, most of us remember being in our 20s and getting the pervy attention of much older men.

It’s equivalent to bow a lot of men marry a foreign woman who will be subservient to them- cook for them, don’t talk back.

You could not be more wrong. This is one of the dumber copes that older women claim.

The younger, hotter person always has more power in the relationship.

Even one of the good guy simps above confirmed this when he says he tries to date older women who would be out of his league if they were the same age or younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because I feel like the women are getting taken advantage of. And yes, most of us remember being in our 20s and getting the pervy attention of much older men.

It’s equivalent to bow a lot of men marry a foreign woman who will be subservient to them- cook for them, don’t talk back.

You could not be more wrong. This is one of the dumber copes that older women claim.

The younger, hotter person always has more power in the relationship.

Even one of the good guy simps above confirmed this when he says he tries to date older women who would be out of his league if they were the same age or younger.

Right, so think long-term. She won't always be young and hot, but he'll probably stay rich. She's being taken advantage of because if she's fool enough to marry him, she's in for decades of caregiving and widowhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was 12 when older men started hitting on me and I find it disgusting and I guess I never shed the idea of what type of man you must be to be hitting on such a young person. And yes, I lump them.

As I think what “cake eater” men are and then bam they get cancer and the younger woman wants nothing to do with them and then they turn back towards their family for help and you’re like go **** yourself. You roll the dice and you seven’d out.

My mother-in-law lives in an over 55 community and every man who has a second wife who is younger … they gets abandoned once he is no longer capable. He leaves his wife at 55 for a 35 year old and at 70 or earlier if he gets sick he gets abandoned. You have to think he left his wife when she got “ passed her usefulness” and then he married someone who “ left him when he passed his usefulness “. Sure it’s karma, but who suffers, the children…. Again. And then the kids get stuck with this old man who abandon them and can’t care for them.

So am I mad for the first wife no I’m mad for the kids.

If the man is wealthy enough to provide for the younger wife in the will/life insurance they will stick around. If not - she’ll offload him on kids from prior marriage.
I’ve observed this tendency and lots of abandoned older (70+) men in DC. Usually these are educated but not particular wealthy guys: former nonprofits leads, federal retirees. If you go to any free embassy concert, you’ll see them. They were all in long term relationships in the past, but didn’t marry their partners so there was no economic motivation for her to stick around. Women at 60+ age group would rather enjoy their freedoms and travel on a small budget than taking care of a man for free. They’ll stick around only as long as he's able to travel together.
A guy I knew recently died in his early 70s: he never married or moved in with his partner . There was nobody to help at home when he had a strike. Kids buried him, the ex partner wasn’t even at funeral. She’s traveling the world and couldn’t care less

No, if they were stupid enough not to get a prenup the women walk away with half.

When an opportunist looks for an opportunity, they usually find another opportunist.