Why are women so triggered about men dating younger?

[Anonymous]

As a guy, I don’t want to date — I want to find my forever partner. And since women outlive men, the smart move is to find someone older. Particularly when you realize that older women who would be completely out of your league otherwise are attainable just because you are a few years younger than they are. So many men on DCUM believe (apparently) that there’s no such thing as an older woman superior to the younger women they traffic in.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because there is a lot of negativity towards older women coming from those same men. Read this forum: post menopausal, low L, crazy, cat lady etc. As if they forgotten that they used to admire and married those same women 20 years ago. It sucks when out of a sudden half of humanity considers you second sort citizen just because you aged. Men feel like they are invincible, can offload inconvenient old wife AND the kids and start completely anew. And they brag about it.

Women are still economically less privileged, and age discrimination post 40 is real at workplace. Many end up devoting their best years to families only to be kicked to the curb by employers, husbands, and out of a sudden become invisible.

Younger women rush get their slice of this pie, and often bully ex wives on this forum and with their partners. A of it is economical completion for men’s resources (which they often accumulated with direct support and huge sacrifices of the first wives).

The government should pay US mothers to have kids because women are still unprotected class in this country.

I am a man and I completely agree with everything you said.

But no, we don’t hate ex husbands or their new GFs/wives. It’s just telling to me that my exH was NOT the person I would like to spend my retirement with. It’s telling that he had no integrity and zero gratitude. So good luck to his new wife to take care of him when he’s old.

To these men - when you say that the new GF is hotter, better, kinder etc -wasn’t your first wife just the same in her 20s ? She also could have married an “established” older man when she was in her prime. But she chose you, back then a poor student/young professional, and entrusted her best years to have kids and build a life. So no, your new GF is just a calculative, cold piece of s..t who secretly despises and disrespects you for being a wallet and a chump.

This is so spot on.

One of my favorite things is when we go out and I can see the triggered reactions like these above.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because there is a lot of negativity towards older women coming from those same men. Read this forum: post menopausal, low L, crazy, cat lady etc. As if they forgotten that they used to admire and married those same women 20 years ago. It sucks when out of a sudden half of humanity considers you second sort citizen just because you aged. Men feel like they are invincible, can offload inconvenient old wife AND the kids and start completely anew. And they brag about it.

Women are still economically less privileged, and age discrimination post 40 is real at workplace. Many end up devoting their best years to families only to be kicked to the curb by employers, husbands, and out of a sudden become invisible.

Younger women rush get their slice of this pie, and often bully ex wives on this forum and with their partners. A of it is economical completion for men’s resources (which they often accumulated with direct support and huge sacrifices of the first wives).

The government should pay US mothers to have kids because women are still unprotected class in this country.

I am a man and I completely agree with everything you said.

NP. Thank you. I am married to a man like you and I hope your kind is actually the majority.

To OP’s question, the only large age difference relationship I have had the chance to observe closely is a friend of mine who married a man 25 years her senior. He was a hot shot in international politics (some DCUM posters would surely know his name), married her when she was 22 and he 47. He cheated on her constantly, including while she was giving birth to their second and third children. Now he’s late 60s and has health issues, and the rest of her youthful years will be spent caring for him. She looks like Jennifer Lopez without exaggerating, literally has an ivy PhD, is an incredibly kind friend and devoted mom. I feel awful for her, and she has never had the courage to leave because of the kids. Maybe she will now but I’ve given up talking to her about it.

When I hear of age gap relationships like this, it makes me very sad. Maybe some are “true love” but the majority is just users taking advantage of young women.

If she’s so great, why’d she marry a 25 years older man? Any woman who respected themselves and womankind in general would not do that.

She was 22, idealistic, and inexperienced, and he was very charming.

But thanks for proving my point and blaming the victim.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because there is a lot of negativity towards older women coming from those same men. Read this forum: post menopausal, low L, crazy, cat lady etc. As if they forgotten that they used to admire and married those same women 20 years ago. It sucks when out of a sudden half of humanity considers you second sort citizen just because you aged. Men feel like they are invincible, can offload inconvenient old wife AND the kids and start completely anew. And they brag about it.

Women are still economically less privileged, and age discrimination post 40 is real at workplace. Many end up devoting their best years to families only to be kicked to the curb by employers, husbands, and out of a sudden become invisible.

Younger women rush get their slice of this pie, and often bully ex wives on this forum and with their partners. A of it is economical completion for men’s resources (which they often accumulated with direct support and huge sacrifices of the first wives).

The government should pay US mothers to have kids because women are still unprotected class in this country.

I am a man and I completely agree with everything you said.

NP. Thank you. I am married to a man like you and I hope your kind is actually the majority.

To OP’s question, the only large age difference relationship I have had the chance to observe closely is a friend of mine who married a man 25 years her senior. He was a hot shot in international politics (some DCUM posters would surely know his name), married her when she was 22 and he 47. He cheated on her constantly, including while she was giving birth to their second and third children. Now he’s late 60s and has health issues, and the rest of her youthful years will be spent caring for him. She looks like Jennifer Lopez without exaggerating, literally has an ivy PhD, is an incredibly kind friend and devoted mom. I feel awful for her, and she has never had the courage to leave because of the kids. Maybe she will now but I’ve given up talking to her about it.

When I hear of age gap relationships like this, it makes me very sad. Maybe some are “true love” but the majority is just users taking advantage of young women.

If she’s so great, why’d she marry a 25 years older man? Any woman who respected themselves and womankind in general would not do that.

She was 22, idealistic, and inexperienced, and he was very charming.

But thanks for proving my point and blaming the victim.

Victim? She’s an adult who made and continues to make bad decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Because there is a lot of negativity towards older women coming from those same men. Read this forum: post menopausal, low L, crazy, cat lady etc. As if they forgotten that they used to admire and married those same women 20 years ago. It sucks when out of a sudden half of humanity considers you second sort citizen just because you aged. Men feel like they are invincible, can offload inconvenient old wife AND the kids and start completely anew. And they brag about it.

Women are still economically less privileged, and age discrimination post 40 is real at workplace. Many end up devoting their best years to families only to be kicked to the curb by employers, husbands, and out of a sudden become invisible.

Younger women rush get their slice of this pie, and often bully ex wives on this forum and with their partners. A of it is economical completion for men’s resources (which they often accumulated with direct support and huge sacrifices of the first wives).

The government should pay US mothers to have kids because women are still unprotected class in this country.

I am a man and I completely agree with everything you said.

But no, we don’t hate ex husbands or their new GFs/wives. It’s just telling to me that my exH was NOT the person I would like to spend my retirement with. It’s telling that he had no integrity and zero gratitude. So good luck to his new wife to take care of him when he’s old.

To these men - when you say that the new GF is hotter, better, kinder etc -wasn’t your first wife just the same in her 20s ? She also could have married an “established” older man when she was in her prime. But she chose you, back then a poor student/young professional, and entrusted her best years to have kids and build a life. So no, your new GF is just a calculative, cold piece of s..t who secretly despises and disrespects you for being a wallet and a chump.

This is so spot on.

One of my favorite things is when we go out and I can see the triggered reactions like these above.

Says a lot about you and none of it’s good.

[Anonymous]

Women can sense a man who wants to be with them just because they are a good ATM. Men are not. This is why stupid men always end up with women who will make them modify their will so they could be the primary beneficiary. Yet older men brag about dating much younger women who in most cases are in for their financial benefit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because there is a lot of negativity towards older women coming from those same men. Read this forum: post menopausal, low L, crazy, cat lady etc. As if they forgotten that they used to admire and married those same women 20 years ago. It sucks when out of a sudden half of humanity considers you second sort citizen just because you aged. Men feel like they are invincible, can offload inconvenient old wife AND the kids and start completely anew. And they brag about it.

Women are still economically less privileged, and age discrimination post 40 is real at workplace. Many end up devoting their best years to families only to be kicked to the curb by employers, husbands, and out of a sudden become invisible.

Younger women rush get their slice of this pie, and often bully ex wives on this forum and with their partners. A of it is economical completion for men’s resources (which they often accumulated with direct support and huge sacrifices of the first wives).

The government should pay US mothers to have kids because women are still unprotected class in this country.

I am a man and I completely agree with everything you said.

NP. Thank you. I am married to a man like you and I hope your kind is actually the majority.

To OP’s question, the only large age difference relationship I have had the chance to observe closely is a friend of mine who married a man 25 years her senior. He was a hot shot in international politics (some DCUM posters would surely know his name), married her when she was 22 and he 47. He cheated on her constantly, including while she was giving birth to their second and third children. Now he’s late 60s and has health issues, and the rest of her youthful years will be spent caring for him. She looks like Jennifer Lopez without exaggerating, literally has an ivy PhD, is an incredibly kind friend and devoted mom. I feel awful for her, and she has never had the courage to leave because of the kids. Maybe she will now but I’ve given up talking to her about it.

When I hear of age gap relationships like this, it makes me very sad. Maybe some are “true love” but the majority is just users taking advantage of young women.

I blame him. A 47 years old man should not marry a 22 years old woman. They are incompatible in almost every area. The men in my circles aren't stupid enough to remarry such much younger women and worse have kids with them. It's just insanity. Yes young women are beautiful. But it doesn't make older women less beautiful. Folks nobody will look youthful forever so it's really weird to compare the look of a 45 years old woman to that of a 25 years old woman. The same argument goes for men. I was looking at old pictures of my 25 years old self and I couldn't stop snoring the broad shoulders 6 pack smooth skin lol. I don't look horrible at 46 but it's not a fair comparison.

[Anonymous]

I’m 45 and don’t plan to marry the 22-27yo women I date and they don’t think that as well. This is short term fun and, yes, being friends.

I have dated many professional women close to my age in DC that work on Cap Hill or for the IMF or DOJ. Once someone from NSA. There is no difference as far as how much I spend dating/travel when I’m dating someone younger, so you can’t say they’re with me for my money. We have fun times and they say I treat them better than men their own age.

I don’t expect these relationships to last and no one is sad when we move on. Usually we stay friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because there is a lot of negativity towards older women coming from those same men. Read this forum: post menopausal, low L, crazy, cat lady etc. As if they forgotten that they used to admire and married those same women 20 years ago. It sucks when out of a sudden half of humanity considers you second sort citizen just because you aged. Men feel like they are invincible, can offload inconvenient old wife AND the kids and start completely anew. And they brag about it.

Women are still economically less privileged, and age discrimination post 40 is real at workplace. Many end up devoting their best years to families only to be kicked to the curb by employers, husbands, and out of a sudden become invisible.

Younger women rush get their slice of this pie, and often bully ex wives on this forum and with their partners. A of it is economical completion for men’s resources (which they often accumulated with direct support and huge sacrifices of the first wives).

The government should pay US mothers to have kids because women are still unprotected class in this country.

I am a man and I completely agree with everything you said.

NP. Thank you. I am married to a man like you and I hope your kind is actually the majority.

To OP’s question, the only large age difference relationship I have had the chance to observe closely is a friend of mine who married a man 25 years her senior. He was a hot shot in international politics (some DCUM posters would surely know his name), married her when she was 22 and he 47. He cheated on her constantly, including while she was giving birth to their second and third children. Now he’s late 60s and has health issues, and the rest of her youthful years will be spent caring for him. She looks like Jennifer Lopez without exaggerating, literally has an ivy PhD, is an incredibly kind friend and devoted mom. I feel awful for her, and she has never had the courage to leave because of the kids. Maybe she will now but I’ve given up talking to her about it.

When I hear of age gap relationships like this, it makes me very sad. Maybe some are “true love” but the majority is just users taking advantage of young women.

If she’s so great, why’d she marry a 25 years older man? Any woman who respected themselves and womankind in general would not do that.

She was a star effer getting exactly what she wanted.

She knew the deal. Had every opportunity available to her. And chose him. And continued to choose him because of the lifestyle and family he provided.

[Anonymous]

Because I feel like the women are getting taken advantage of. And yes, most of us remember being in our 20s and getting the pervy attention of much older men.

It’s equivalent to bow a lot of men marry a foreign woman who will be subservient to them- cook for them, don’t talk back.

[Anonymous]

This thread is an echo chamber of angry old women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 45 and don’t plan to marry the 22-27yo women I date and they don’t think that as well. This is short term fun and, yes, being friends.

I have dated many professional women close to my age in DC that work on Cap Hill or for the IMF or DOJ. Once someone from NSA. There is no difference as far as how much I spend dating/travel when I’m dating someone younger, so you can’t say they’re with me for my money. We have fun times and they say I treat them better than men their own age.

I don’t expect these relationships to last and no one is sad when we move on. Usually we stay friends.

The difference isn’t what you spend on them versus other women. It’s what they can get from you versus another men. Your reasoning skills are poor.

[Anonymous]

Are age gap relationships less controversial when the man & woman are equals in terms of looks/money? Say, a medium attractive young woman with a trust fund dating a good looking older man with a good career. Kind of takes away the argument that she is with him for $$ and he is with her for looks

[Anonymous]

Older women don’t like the competition, and greatly resent the shift in the balance of power as men become more desirable in the dating market with a little age.

[Anonymous]

Not triggered but I consider it a red flag.