Why are women so triggered about men dating younger?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women and men don't think about age the same way. And men and women don't think about height the same way.

A woman goes out with a man and learns that she's eye to eye with him. She's less interested than she would be if he were 4-5 inches taller. The man doesn't mind.

A man goes out on a date and learns the woman is the same age (34). He's less interested than he would be if she were a few years younger. The woman doesn't mind they're the same age.

Maybe this will help women understand how men view things.

Height affects how the person looks relative yourself. But age is relative: it doesn't always affect the looks. Some older women look very youthful, and younger women can look like they are 50. So if the man was initially attracted before knowing her age, it's totally unreasonable to get frustrated that she's actually older than he thought.

I met a guy once at a bar. He was mid 40s, but looked like early 50s to me. He thought I was mid 30s and got visibly frustrated when I told my actual age (one year older than him). I think that's shallow because if he was attracted enough to send me a drink, his upset later is largely caused by the social stigma about men dating older women.

He was trying to act shocked at your age to flatter you -- not surprised you didn't know this. He knew you weren't "mid 30s" lol.

Well, I guess then he didn’t need to hit on me at the bar?

[Anonymous]

My female AP was considerably older than me. I guess females here won't judge me for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My female AP was considerably older than me. I guess females here won't judge me for that.

Men have to affair down that is not new.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My female AP was considerably older than me. I guess females here won't judge me for that.

Men have to affair down that is not new.

Not down. I could have younger ones easily, but she was better in many ways.

[Anonymous]

Because they are insecure and feel entitled to the desire of men

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Anonymous wrote:Because there is a lot of negativity towards older women coming from those same men. Read this forum: post menopausal, low L, crazy, cat lady etc. As if they forgotten that they used to admire and married those same women 20 years ago. It sucks when out of a sudden half of humanity considers you second sort citizen just because you aged. Men feel like they are invincible, can offload inconvenient old wife AND the kids and start completely anew. And they brag about it.

Women are still economically less privileged, and age discrimination post 40 is real at workplace. Many end up devoting their best years to families only to be kicked to the curb by employers, husbands, and out of a sudden become invisible.

Younger women rush get their slice of this pie, and often bully ex wives on this forum and with their partners. A of it is economical completion for men’s resources (which they often accumulated with direct support and huge sacrifices of the first wives).

The government should pay US mothers to have kids because women are still unprotected class in this country.

I am a man and I completely agree with everything you said.

NP. Thank you. I am married to a man like you and I hope your kind is actually the majority.

To OP’s question, the only large age difference relationship I have had the chance to observe closely is a friend of mine who married a man 25 years her senior. He was a hot shot in international politics (some DCUM posters would surely know his name), married her when she was 22 and he 47. He cheated on her constantly, including while she was giving birth to their second and third children. Now he’s late 60s and has health issues, and the rest of her youthful years will be spent caring for him. She looks like Jennifer Lopez without exaggerating, literally has an ivy PhD, is an incredibly kind friend and devoted mom. I feel awful for her, and she has never had the courage to leave because of the kids. Maybe she will now but I’ve given up talking to her about it.

When I hear of age gap relationships like this, it makes me very sad. Maybe some are “true love” but the majority is just users taking advantage of young women.

JLo with the Ivy League PhD didn’t have options her own age? You make it sound like this “happened” to her. Doesn’t she have agency and bear some responsibility for her life choices?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because there is a lot of negativity towards older women coming from those same men. Read this forum: post menopausal, low L, crazy, cat lady etc. As if they forgotten that they used to admire and married those same women 20 years ago. It sucks when out of a sudden half of humanity considers you second sort citizen just because you aged. Men feel like they are invincible, can offload inconvenient old wife AND the kids and start completely anew. And they brag about it.

Women are still economically less privileged, and age discrimination post 40 is real at workplace. Many end up devoting their best years to families only to be kicked to the curb by employers, husbands, and out of a sudden become invisible.

Younger women rush get their slice of this pie, and often bully ex wives on this forum and with their partners. A of it is economical completion for men’s resources (which they often accumulated with direct support and huge sacrifices of the first wives).

The government should pay US mothers to have kids because women are still unprotected class in this country.

I am a man and I completely agree with everything you said.

NP. Thank you. I am married to a man like you and I hope your kind is actually the majority.

To OP’s question, the only large age difference relationship I have had the chance to observe closely is a friend of mine who married a man 25 years her senior. He was a hot shot in international politics (some DCUM posters would surely know his name), married her when she was 22 and he 47. He cheated on her constantly, including while she was giving birth to their second and third children. Now he’s late 60s and has health issues, and the rest of her youthful years will be spent caring for him. She looks like Jennifer Lopez without exaggerating, literally has an ivy PhD, is an incredibly kind friend and devoted mom. I feel awful for her, and she has never had the courage to leave because of the kids. Maybe she will now but I’ve given up talking to her about it.

When I hear of age gap relationships like this, it makes me very sad. Maybe some are “true love” but the majority is just users taking advantage of young women.

JLo with the Ivy League PhD didn’t have options her own age? You make it sound like this “happened” to her. Doesn’t she have agency and bear some responsibility for her life choices?

+1. A lot of these younger women are just looking for a sugar daddy. "Hotshot in international politics" gave it away. Plus, if she's another JLo who still looks great into her 50s, she still has plenty of time to date/remarry after he dies and she inherits all his money since she's set for life.