Holiday gifts for 11 year old girl

[Anonymous]

I think the issue here is that my children don't go to an expensive DC private school, we don't live in Bethesda/Potomac/Chevy Chase/Arlington/McLean.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love the parents of 6th graders chiming in like my kid doesn’t even know what these things are, what are you all allowing your kids to have, etc., meanwhile a year from now they will be making the very same suggestions they are judging.

Maybe, maybe not. I never cared about the popular brands of my youth. Not all kids are into that stuff.

I mean that’s the whole point of the responses. The answers will be kid-specific. Not every 11 year old will be into the tween uniform, but at the same time not every 11 year old will be into the more individualized suggestions on this thread. The bottom line is no one should be judging the interests of a tween girl if they don’t align with what your tween would be interested in.

So many of these responses are very clearly the moms wanting their girls to be cool, though. It's very obvious.

Some girls are cool 🤷🏼‍♀️. There’s no prize for being dorky and friendless.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love the parents of 6th graders chiming in like my kid doesn’t even know what these things are, what are you all allowing your kids to have, etc., meanwhile a year from now they will be making the very same suggestions they are judging.

Maybe, maybe not. I never cared about the popular brands of my youth. Not all kids are into that stuff.

I mean that’s the whole point of the responses. The answers will be kid-specific. Not every 11 year old will be into the tween uniform, but at the same time not every 11 year old will be into the more individualized suggestions on this thread. The bottom line is no one should be judging the interests of a tween girl if they don’t align with what your tween would be interested in.

So many of these responses are very clearly the moms wanting their girls to be cool, though. It's very obvious.

Growing up my mom actively encouraged me to dress differently than everyone else (in what she liked, not in a way that was interesting for it's own sake) and be straight up immature on the theory that behavior like that was more "innocent." Maybe it was slightly better than trying to force me into being cool, but the pendulum can definitely swing too much in the other direction.

There's nothing wrong with either letting your kid go with some trends or even pointing kids to trends they might like. Trust me when I say it's not fun to be the weird kid in middle school, unless that's a choice the kid herself is consciously making.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love the parents of 6th graders chiming in like my kid doesn’t even know what these things are, what are you all allowing your kids to have, etc., meanwhile a year from now they will be making the very same suggestions they are judging.

Maybe, maybe not. I never cared about the popular brands of my youth. Not all kids are into that stuff.

I mean that’s the whole point of the responses. The answers will be kid-specific. Not every 11 year old will be into the tween uniform, but at the same time not every 11 year old will be into the more individualized suggestions on this thread. The bottom line is no one should be judging the interests of a tween girl if they don’t align with what your tween would be interested in.

So many of these responses are very clearly the moms wanting their girls to be cool, though. It's very obvious.

I don’t think so. Some of the lists with the brands are just what a good portion of MS aged kids want/request. Now whether those kids are making the requests to seem “cool” or because they actually want the items is a different question. I have twin 12 year olds and one “likes” everything on those brand lists and the other likes some but not all and leans more into the sporty items (Nike hoodies instead of a pink palm puff hoodie for example). I do not care either way. They are 12, old enough to make their own present choices.

[Anonymous]

This was my 11 yr old DD's list

-iphone and personalized case
-Bubble skincare
-Swiftly tech shirt from Lululemon
-Jellycats
-Owala water bottle in rose quartz
-Kendra Scott hot pink heart necklace and matching heart earrings
-Neon name sign for bedroom
-wide leg sweatpants (brand not noted on this one)
-Lego botanical set
-New ice skating bag and other figure skating items (she figure skates)
-fancy acrylic markers
-tickets to broadway shows

Dream big, kiddo

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love the parents of 6th graders chiming in like my kid doesn’t even know what these things are, what are you all allowing your kids to have, etc., meanwhile a year from now they will be making the very same suggestions they are judging.

Maybe, maybe not. I never cared about the popular brands of my youth. Not all kids are into that stuff.

I mean that’s the whole point of the responses. The answers will be kid-specific. Not every 11 year old will be into the tween uniform, but at the same time not every 11 year old will be into the more individualized suggestions on this thread. The bottom line is no one should be judging the interests of a tween girl if they don’t align with what your tween would be interested in.

So many of these responses are very clearly the moms wanting their girls to be cool, though. It's very obvious.

I don't think so, and I'm one of the PPs who said my kid wouldn't care about half of it. I also disagree with those who said all girls will eventually want it.

Kids are different, as they should be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love the parents of 6th graders chiming in like my kid doesn’t even know what these things are, what are you all allowing your kids to have, etc., meanwhile a year from now they will be making the very same suggestions they are judging.

Maybe, maybe not. I never cared about the popular brands of my youth. Not all kids are into that stuff.

I mean that’s the whole point of the responses. The answers will be kid-specific. Not every 11 year old will be into the tween uniform, but at the same time not every 11 year old will be into the more individualized suggestions on this thread. The bottom line is no one should be judging the interests of a tween girl if they don’t align with what your tween would be interested in.

So many of these responses are very clearly the moms wanting their girls to be cool, though. It's very obvious.

Some girls are cool 🤷🏼‍♀️. There’s no prize for being dorky and friendless.

Wow. Are you 12? You don’t need to be “cool” to have friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love the parents of 6th graders chiming in like my kid doesn’t even know what these things are, what are you all allowing your kids to have, etc., meanwhile a year from now they will be making the very same suggestions they are judging.

Maybe, maybe not. I never cared about the popular brands of my youth. Not all kids are into that stuff.

I mean that’s the whole point of the responses. The answers will be kid-specific. Not every 11 year old will be into the tween uniform, but at the same time not every 11 year old will be into the more individualized suggestions on this thread. The bottom line is no one should be judging the interests of a tween girl if they don’t align with what your tween would be interested in.

So many of these responses are very clearly the moms wanting their girls to be cool, though. It's very obvious.

Some girls are cool 🤷🏼‍♀️. There’s no prize for being dorky and friendless.

Yup. Most of those girls are nasty B’s just like their mothers. Yours is, I’m sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was my 11 yr old DD's list

-iphone and personalized case
-Bubble skincare
-Swiftly tech shirt from Lululemon
-Jellycats
-Owala water bottle in rose quartz
-Kendra Scott hot pink heart necklace and matching heart earrings
-Neon name sign for bedroom
-wide leg sweatpants (brand not noted on this one)
-Lego botanical set
-New ice skating bag and other figure skating items (she figure skates)
-fancy acrylic markers
-tickets to broadway shows

Dream big, kiddo

Wow out of all of this my 11 year old has asked for the phone and Owala. She already has an Owala because I really like mine and knew she would do and there is no phone in her immediate future. I’m grateful that she is not brand obsessed (yet).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was my 11 yr old DD's list

-iphone and personalized case
-Bubble skincare
-Swiftly tech shirt from Lululemon
-Jellycats
-Owala water bottle in rose quartz
-Kendra Scott hot pink heart necklace and matching heart earrings
-Neon name sign for bedroom
-wide leg sweatpants (brand not noted on this one)
-Lego botanical set
-New ice skating bag and other figure skating items (she figure skates)
-fancy acrylic markers
-tickets to broadway shows

Dream big, kiddo

Wow out of all of this my 11 year old has asked for the phone and Owala. She already has an Owala because I really like mine and knew she would do and there is no phone in her immediate future. I’m grateful that she is not brand obsessed (yet).

This is my 11 yr old you seems to have all figured out. She's a great kid -- she is kind and easy-going and loves/does well in school (including making it into the selective advanced math track that started this year in our district). She loves figure skating, performing in her youth theater company, and writing/illustrating stories (as you can maybe glean from the list). Those things, along with school, occupy easily 90% of her time and mental energy. She doesn't sit around thinking about her appearance all day. But she is starting to think about it a bit more (which I think is normal) ... and yeah, she included trendy items b/c that is really all she knows in the skincare/fashion arena. If it wasn't clear, it's a wish list, and she's only getting fraction of the requests. Sometimes I think these people who are all like, "my kids don't really ask for much, blah, blah, blah..." have kids who generally get most of what they want whenever throughout the year, and that's why they don't "want" anything come the holidays. We really don't buy our kids "stuff" except on their birthdays and winter holidays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love the parents of 6th graders chiming in like my kid doesn’t even know what these things are, what are you all allowing your kids to have, etc., meanwhile a year from now they will be making the very same suggestions they are judging.

Maybe, maybe not. I never cared about the popular brands of my youth. Not all kids are into that stuff.

I mean that’s the whole point of the responses. The answers will be kid-specific. Not every 11 year old will be into the tween uniform, but at the same time not every 11 year old will be into the more individualized suggestions on this thread. The bottom line is no one should be judging the interests of a tween girl if they don’t align with what your tween would be interested in.

So many of these responses are very clearly the moms wanting their girls to be cool, though. It's very obvious.

Some girls are cool 🤷🏼‍♀️. There’s no prize for being dorky and friendless.

Please stop calling tween girls dorky. It is really immature and says way more about you than them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:White Fox hoodie, Lululemon shorts, Sol de Janeiro, electric skateboard, Apple watch, Bluetooth lighted vanity mirror, Sabrina Carpenter t-shirt or posters for her room, belt bag, bathrobe, Uggs, bubble name necklace, heated blanket (or any blanket), oversized Nike hoodie, Nike socks, Nike pro shorts, Kendra Scott necklace.

Thank you! This is helpful! Does this count for 15 year old girls too? My bf has a 15 yo, and this is my first time shopping for her. I'm clueless since my kids are younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:White Fox hoodie, Lululemon shorts, Sol de Janeiro, electric skateboard, Apple watch, Bluetooth lighted vanity mirror, Sabrina Carpenter t-shirt or posters for her room, belt bag, bathrobe, Uggs, bubble name necklace, heated blanket (or any blanket), oversized Nike hoodie, Nike socks, Nike pro shorts, Kendra Scott necklace.

Thank you! This is helpful! Does this count for 15 year old girls too? My bf has a 15 yo, and this is my first time shopping for her. I'm clueless since my kids are younger.

Every kid is different. Mine is more into "alternative" stuff.

[Anonymous]

Oooh I love these threads. Howza bout...


Bop-it
Lululemon belt bag
Apples to Apples game
Experience (Build a Bear?)
Golf clubs / skateboard
Piano keyboard (something related to hobby)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:White Fox hoodie, Lululemon shorts, Sol de Janeiro, electric skateboard, Apple watch, Bluetooth lighted vanity mirror, Sabrina Carpenter t-shirt or posters for her room, belt bag, bathrobe, Uggs, bubble name necklace, heated blanket (or any blanket), oversized Nike hoodie, Nike socks, Nike pro shorts, Kendra Scott necklace.

You're doing something wrong, PP. No kid should be this brand obsessed.