This is probably the last year DD will believe in Santa. How do I make it special?

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Anonymous wrote:The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves. Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.

And? Who does it hurt for fourth graders to believe in magic? I never told my kids any “elaborate lies,” and answered their questions with things like, “hmm, what do you think?” Most kids will gradually figure it out over time, but many still like to play along and pretend. I certainly never told my parents I knew, but at some point of course they knew I did. But it was still fun.

This is similar to what my parents did and what I have done. We are a “if you don’t believe you don’t receive” family. Instead of this big sad moment of finding out Santa is not “real,” there’s just a gradual transition. Everyone still enjoys the rituals, cookies and notes for Santa, magic carrots and oats for the reindeer. It’s very sweet to find that your YA or teen has filled a stocking or snuck a Santa gift for you.

that's so messed up

I have a feeling you just want to be ugly, but to clarify, if you don’t believe, yiou don’t receive from Santa. You’re not excluded from anything and still receive gifts from everyone else. This has only happened once with a teen who noped out one year.

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Anonymous wrote:The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves. Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.

And? Who does it hurt for fourth graders to believe in magic? I never told my kids any “elaborate lies,” and answered their questions with things like, “hmm, what do you think?” Most kids will gradually figure it out over time, but many still like to play along and pretend. I certainly never told my parents I knew, but at some point of course they knew I did. But it was still fun.

This is similar to what my parents did and what I have done. We are a “if you don’t believe you don’t receive” family. Instead of this big sad moment of finding out Santa is not “real,” there’s just a gradual transition. Everyone still enjoys the rituals, cookies and notes for Santa, magic carrots and oats for the reindeer. It’s very sweet to find that your YA or teen has filled a stocking or snuck a Santa gift for you.

that's so messed up

I have a feeling you just want to be ugly, but to clarify, if you don’t believe, yiou don’t receive from Santa. You’re not excluded from anything and still receive gifts from everyone else. This has only happened once with a teen who noped out one year.

That still doesn't seem very fun and kind-spirited to me. But I didn't grow up with Santa my only knowledge of Santa is from TV and movies and it always seemed fun, the reality seems less so it seems toxic and competitive

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Anonymous wrote:OP. Well, DCUM, you never disappoint. I asked a question about Christmas, and not only did I not get any good answers, it devolved into antisemitic rants and arguing over whose kid is better LOL. Never change, y’all.

Anyway, so we decided to take a family trip out of state to where there will be snow (DD loves snow), stay in an AirBNB that has miniature horses, and do one of those Polar Express rides. Should be fun!

Enjoy

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Anonymous wrote:The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves. Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.

And? Who does it hurt for fourth graders to believe in magic? I never told my kids any “elaborate lies,” and answered their questions with things like, “hmm, what do you think?” Most kids will gradually figure it out over time, but many still like to play along and pretend. I certainly never told my parents I knew, but at some point of course they knew I did. But it was still fun.

This is similar to what my parents did and what I have done. We are a “if you don’t believe you don’t receive” family. Instead of this big sad moment of finding out Santa is not “real,” there’s just a gradual transition. Everyone still enjoys the rituals, cookies and notes for Santa, magic carrots and oats for the reindeer. It’s very sweet to find that your YA or teen has filled a stocking or snuck a Santa gift for you.

that's so messed up

DP. Not at all. If you don't believe in Santa, you don't get Santa gifts.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t. I told each of my kids about Santa in the spring of second grade.

They appreciated that I told them the truth and didn’t try to turn a special thing for little kids into an increasingly elaborate series of lies. It made them feel mature to know.

I think it was a good approach since they still had Santa fun as babies.

Why Tf would you do this you wench

Chill TF out. Jewish children end up just fine.

A Jewish kid ruined it for my child.

LOL GOOD.

Why are you so hostile? You are talking to strangers and you are glad for their disappointment? What's wrong with people and why is everyone so angry?

NP here but the person pp responded to deserved it for being racist.

Jews aren't a race.

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Anonymous wrote:The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves. Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.

And? Who does it hurt for fourth graders to believe in magic? I never told my kids any “elaborate lies,” and answered their questions with things like, “hmm, what do you think?” Most kids will gradually figure it out over time, but many still like to play along and pretend. I certainly never told my parents I knew, but at some point of course they knew I did. But it was still fun.

This is similar to what my parents did and what I have done. We are a “if you don’t believe you don’t receive” family. Instead of this big sad moment of finding out Santa is not “real,” there’s just a gradual transition. Everyone still enjoys the rituals, cookies and notes for Santa, magic carrots and oats for the reindeer. It’s very sweet to find that your YA or teen has filled a stocking or snuck a Santa gift for you.

that's so messed up

I have a feeling you just want to be ugly, but to clarify, if you don’t believe, yiou don’t receive from Santa. You’re not excluded from anything and still receive gifts from everyone else. This has only happened once with a teen who noped out one year.

That still doesn't seem very fun and kind-spirited to me. But I didn't grow up with Santa my only knowledge of Santa is from TV and movies and it always seemed fun, the reality seems less so it seems toxic and competitive

That's why you don't get it.

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Anonymous wrote:The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves. Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.

And? Who does it hurt for fourth graders to believe in magic? I never told my kids any “elaborate lies,” and answered their questions with things like, “hmm, what do you think?” Most kids will gradually figure it out over time, but many still like to play along and pretend. I certainly never told my parents I knew, but at some point of course they knew I did. But it was still fun.

This is similar to what my parents did and what I have done. We are a “if you don’t believe you don’t receive” family. Instead of this big sad moment of finding out Santa is not “real,” there’s just a gradual transition. Everyone still enjoys the rituals, cookies and notes for Santa, magic carrots and oats for the reindeer. It’s very sweet to find that your YA or teen has filled a stocking or snuck a Santa gift for you.

that's so messed up

I have a feeling you just want to be ugly, but to clarify, if you don’t believe, yiou don’t receive from Santa. You’re not excluded from anything and still receive gifts from everyone else. This has only happened once with a teen who noped out one year.

That still doesn't seem very fun and kind-spirited to me. But I didn't grow up with Santa my only knowledge of Santa is from TV and movies and it always seemed fun, the reality seems less so it seems toxic and competitive

There’s nothing toxic or competitive with Santa at our house. It’s ok not to post when you don’t know what you’re talking about.

WTF with the racist jerks? Go away and shut up.

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Anonymous wrote:The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves. Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.

And? Who does it hurt for fourth graders to believe in magic? I never told my kids any “elaborate lies,” and answered their questions with things like, “hmm, what do you think?” Most kids will gradually figure it out over time, but many still like to play along and pretend. I certainly never told my parents I knew, but at some point of course they knew I did. But it was still fun.

This is similar to what my parents did and what I have done. We are a “if you don’t believe you don’t receive” family. Instead of this big sad moment of finding out Santa is not “real,” there’s just a gradual transition. Everyone still enjoys the rituals, cookies and notes for Santa, magic carrots and oats for the reindeer. It’s very sweet to find that your YA or teen has filled a stocking or snuck a Santa gift for you.

that's so messed up

I have a feeling you just want to be ugly, but to clarify, if you don’t believe, yiou don’t receive from Santa. You’re not excluded from anything and still receive gifts from everyone else. This has only happened once with a teen who noped out one year.

That still doesn't seem very fun and kind-spirited to me. But I didn't grow up with Santa my only knowledge of Santa is from TV and movies and it always seemed fun, the reality seems less so it seems toxic and competitive

It sounds like the tag say from Mom & Dad instead of Santa and you think this is a huge problem or toxic and competitive? Really?

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Anonymous wrote:The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves. Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.

And? Who does it hurt for fourth graders to believe in magic? I never told my kids any “elaborate lies,” and answered their questions with things like, “hmm, what do you think?” Most kids will gradually figure it out over time, but many still like to play along and pretend. I certainly never told my parents I knew, but at some point of course they knew I did. But it was still fun.

This is similar to what my parents did and what I have done. We are a “if you don’t believe you don’t receive” family. Instead of this big sad moment of finding out Santa is not “real,” there’s just a gradual transition. Everyone still enjoys the rituals, cookies and notes for Santa, magic carrots and oats for the reindeer. It’s very sweet to find that your YA or teen has filled a stocking or snuck a Santa gift for you.

that's so messed up

I have a feeling you just want to be ugly, but to clarify, if you don’t believe, yiou don’t receive from Santa. You’re not excluded from anything and still receive gifts from everyone else. This has only happened once with a teen who noped out one year.

That still doesn't seem very fun and kind-spirited to me. But I didn't grow up with Santa my only knowledge of Santa is from TV and movies and it always seemed fun, the reality seems less so it seems toxic and competitive

It sounds like the tag say from Mom & Dad instead of Santa and you think this is a huge problem or toxic and competitive? Really?

Yes I do. It just seems mean, as have the other replies in this thread from people who do Santa

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Anonymous wrote:The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves. Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.

And? Who does it hurt for fourth graders to believe in magic? I never told my kids any “elaborate lies,” and answered their questions with things like, “hmm, what do you think?” Most kids will gradually figure it out over time, but many still like to play along and pretend. I certainly never told my parents I knew, but at some point of course they knew I did. But it was still fun.

This is similar to what my parents did and what I have done. We are a “if you don’t believe you don’t receive” family. Instead of this big sad moment of finding out Santa is not “real,” there’s just a gradual transition. Everyone still enjoys the rituals, cookies and notes for Santa, magic carrots and oats for the reindeer. It’s very sweet to find that your YA or teen has filled a stocking or snuck a Santa gift for you.

that's so messed up

I have a feeling you just want to be ugly, but to clarify, if you don’t believe, yiou don’t receive from Santa. You’re not excluded from anything and still receive gifts from everyone else. This has only happened once with a teen who noped out one year.

That still doesn't seem very fun and kind-spirited to me. But I didn't grow up with Santa my only knowledge of Santa is from TV and movies and it always seemed fun, the reality seems less so it seems toxic and competitive

There’s nothing toxic or competitive with Santa at our house. It’s ok not to post when you don’t know what you’re talking about.

WTF with the racist jerks? Go away and shut up.

'm not sure what I said that was racist but your comment is sort of what I mean about the whole Santa thing being, mean, competitive and toxic in real life and not at all like what is portrayed in TV and movies.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t. I told each of my kids about Santa in the spring of second grade.

They appreciated that I told them the truth and didn’t try to turn a special thing for little kids into an increasingly elaborate series of lies. It made them feel mature to know.

I think it was a good approach since they still had Santa fun as babies.

Why Tf would you do this you wench

Chill TF out. Jewish children end up just fine.

A Jewish kid ruined it for my child.

Those Jews

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Anonymous wrote:The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves. Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.

But yet you believe in sacred gods

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Anonymous wrote:I love the parents who think their kid is absolutely brilliant…yet they still believe in Santa, the Easter bunny and tooth fairy at 10.

And you believe in the lord

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Anonymous wrote:The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves. Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.

And? Who does it hurt for fourth graders to believe in magic? I never told my kids any “elaborate lies,” and answered their questions with things like, “hmm, what do you think?” Most kids will gradually figure it out over time, but many still like to play along and pretend. I certainly never told my parents I knew, but at some point of course they knew I did. But it was still fun.

This is similar to what my parents did and what I have done. We are a “if you don’t believe you don’t receive” family. Instead of this big sad moment of finding out Santa is not “real,” there’s just a gradual transition. Everyone still enjoys the rituals, cookies and notes for Santa, magic carrots and oats for the reindeer. It’s very sweet to find that your YA or teen has filled a stocking or snuck a Santa gift for you.

that's so messed up

I have a feeling you just want to be ugly, but to clarify, if you don’t believe, yiou don’t receive from Santa. You’re not excluded from anything and still receive gifts from everyone else. This has only happened once with a teen who noped out one year.

That still doesn't seem very fun and kind-spirited to me. But I didn't grow up with Santa my only knowledge of Santa is from TV and movies and it always seemed fun, the reality seems less so it seems toxic and competitive

There’s nothing toxic or competitive with Santa at our house. It’s ok not to post when you don’t know what you’re talking about.

WTF with the racist jerks? Go away and shut up.

'm not sure what I said that was racist but your comment is sort of what I mean about the whole Santa thing being, mean, competitive and toxic in real life and not at all like what is portrayed in TV and movies.

That was directed to the nasty racists in this thread. That’s why there was a space and a clear statement to them.

I don’t know why you have such strong opinions when you admit your only experience of Santa is television and movies. I love a good hospital show but I don’t make medical decisions based n Grey’s Anatomy.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t. I told each of my kids about Santa in the spring of second grade.

They appreciated that I told them the truth and didn’t try to turn a special thing for little kids into an increasingly elaborate series of lies. It made them feel mature to know.

I think it was a good approach since they still had Santa fun as babies.

Was this planned out? I think this usually is more organic as kids put two and two together and ask questions. Not a specific date and time.

We are Catholic. I told my kids the Easter Bunny was made up before their first communion. Didn’t want to send mixed messages. They connected the dots about Santa and asked and I told the truth because I’m not going to lie to them, and it’s time anyways.

We never made Santa a big deal to begin with, just the culture does and we let it slide until they asked directly.