This is probably the last year DD will believe in Santa. How do I make it special?

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t. I told each of my kids about Santa in the spring of second grade.

They appreciated that I told them the truth and didn’t try to turn a special thing for little kids into an increasingly elaborate series of lies. It made them feel mature to know.

I think it was a good approach since they still had Santa fun as babies.

Why Tf would you do this you wench

Chill TF out. Jewish children end up just fine.

A Jewish kid ruined it for my child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t. I told each of my kids about Santa in the spring of second grade.

They appreciated that I told them the truth and didn’t try to turn a special thing for little kids into an increasingly elaborate series of lies. It made them feel mature to know.

I think it was a good approach since they still had Santa fun as babies.

Why Tf would you do this you wench

Chill TF out. Jewish children end up just fine.

A Jewish kid ruined it for my child.

LOL GOOD.

[Anonymous]

The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves. Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves. Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.

And? Who does it hurt for fourth graders to believe in magic? I never told my kids any “elaborate lies,” and answered their questions with things like, “hmm, what do you think?” Most kids will gradually figure it out over time, but many still like to play along and pretend. I certainly never told my parents I knew, but at some point of course they knew I did. But it was still fun.

[Anonymous]

My kids do not care much if Santa exist for real life or not They care more about to receive gifts at Christmas.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you need to do anything extra special, just keep up the same traditions you already do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We never pretended Santa was real. But we still do it and enjoy it. It’s a game. Pageantry. Theater. It’s fun.

How do you do this?

I didn't grow up with Santa, weird religious cult.

I don;t have anything against Santa as a fun tradition, but I do take issue with a lot of the things surrounding him specifically as it relates to other children, ie spent a lot of time working with kids and schools and how confused some kids were that Santa didn't do or bring things to their house despite them being very good, I don't want to contribute to that. I also don't want it to be something I have to tell them about

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We never pretended Santa was real. But we still do it and enjoy it. It’s a game. Pageantry. Theater. It’s fun.

How do you do this?

I didn't grow up with Santa, weird religious cult.

I don;t have anything against Santa as a fun tradition, but I do take issue with a lot of the things surrounding him specifically as it relates to other children, ie spent a lot of time working with kids and schools and how confused some kids were that Santa didn't do or bring things to their house despite them being very good, I don't want to contribute to that. I also don't want it to be something I have to tell them about

You do you. But others aren’t going to deprive their kids in solidarity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves. Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.

And? Who does it hurt for fourth graders to believe in magic? I never told my kids any “elaborate lies,” and answered their questions with things like, “hmm, what do you think?” Most kids will gradually figure it out over time, but many still like to play along and pretend. I certainly never told my parents I knew, but at some point of course they knew I did. But it was still fun.

This is similar to what my parents did and what I have done. We are a “if you don’t believe you don’t receive” family. Instead of this big sad moment of finding out Santa is not “real,” there’s just a gradual transition. Everyone still enjoys the rituals, cookies and notes for Santa, magic carrots and oats for the reindeer. It’s very sweet to find that your YA or teen has filled a stocking or snuck a Santa gift for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves. Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.

And? Who does it hurt for fourth graders to believe in magic? I never told my kids any “elaborate lies,” and answered their questions with things like, “hmm, what do you think?” Most kids will gradually figure it out over time, but many still like to play along and pretend. I certainly never told my parents I knew, but at some point of course they knew I did. But it was still fun.

This is similar to what my parents did and what I have done. We are a “if you don’t believe you don’t receive” family. Instead of this big sad moment of finding out Santa is not “real,” there’s just a gradual transition. Everyone still enjoys the rituals, cookies and notes for Santa, magic carrots and oats for the reindeer. It’s very sweet to find that your YA or teen has filled a stocking or snuck a Santa gift for you.

Same in our family. All the kids have fond Santa memories.

[Anonymous]

My teens love Christmas because of our traditions. We pick out a tree and decorate it, we go ice skating and walk through light display. We hang our stockings on Christmas Eve and they wake to find them at the foot of their beds. I actually don’t know when they found out officially about Santa. I agree with a pp that it’s a gradual process and I also agree that you don’t have to go over the top just because it might be the last year. Just do your normal things and enjoy the joy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t. I told each of my kids about Santa in the spring of second grade.

They appreciated that I told them the truth and didn’t try to turn a special thing for little kids into an increasingly elaborate series of lies. It made them feel mature to know.

I think it was a good approach since they still had Santa fun as babies.

Why Tf would you do this you wench

Chill TF out. Jewish children end up just fine.

A Jewish kid ruined it for my child.

A Christian kid ruined it for my kid at 4! Holly! I still remember her ..Kids are young adults now but Santa still comes...we believe in the magic of giving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves. Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.

And? Who does it hurt for fourth graders to believe in magic? I never told my kids any “elaborate lies,” and answered their questions with things like, “hmm, what do you think?” Most kids will gradually figure it out over time, but many still like to play along and pretend. I certainly never told my parents I knew, but at some point of course they knew I did. But it was still fun.

This is similar to what my parents did and what I have done. We are a “if you don’t believe you don’t receive” family. Instead of this big sad moment of finding out Santa is not “real,” there’s just a gradual transition. Everyone still enjoys the rituals, cookies and notes for Santa, magic carrots and oats for the reindeer. It’s very sweet to find that your YA or teen has filled a stocking or snuck a Santa gift for you.

Same in our family. All the kids have fond Santa memories.

This is us too. They have definitely figured it out but we still do all the same things. Photos, notes, cookies, etc. They love it. We love it. It still feels special and magical. I was raised the same way, getting stockings and gifts from “Santa” in college. Wouldn’t have it any other way and I don’t think they would either. They participate in creating the magic too now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t. I told each of my kids about Santa in the spring of second grade.

They appreciated that I told them the truth and didn’t try to turn a special thing for little kids into an increasingly elaborate series of lies. It made them feel mature to know.

I think it was a good approach since they still had Santa fun as babies.

Why Tf would you do this you wench

Chill TF out. Jewish children end up just fine.

A Jewish kid ruined it for my child.

LOL GOOD.

Why are you so hostile? You are talking to strangers and you are glad for their disappointment? What's wrong with people and why is everyone so angry?

[Anonymous]

I love the parents who think their kid is absolutely brilliant…yet they still believe in Santa, the Easter bunny and tooth fairy at 10.