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[Anonymous]

You are fat. And it's disgusting.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry I can be so shitty sometimes. You are truly the best thing that has ever happened to me. Sometimes I honestly don't know why you love me so much, but I am so grateful. I love you insanely and I know I don't always show it. Thank you for understanding me, believing in me, loving me, making me feel beautiful, and telling me what a great parent I am. If you weren't brought up so well I know it would be hard to resist temptation as everyone who meets you adores you. I wish I could stomach giving you more BJs. I wish I could swallow, just once.

Please clip your nosehairs regularly.

[Anonymous]

I would like to have sex more than once a year. I know you think that we don't have sex because I have gained weight. If you are honest with yourself, you know that we had sex at best once a month when I was a size 6. You should thank christ while you are kneeling on glass for my extra weight. Without it, I would either be having sex with someone else or you would be single. I am 20 pounds down, you are running out of time.

[Anonymous]

"How is it's you're married to my husband? Maybe that's why he can't complete a task. Mine will unload a dishwasher but for some reason leave the pots and pans on the counter. Sweep the floor but leave the broom and dustpan out. He once told me he'd done three loads of laundry and I came home to find #1 in the washer, #2 in the dryer, #3 unfolded in a basket. ("Honey, that's not DOING laundry, that's STARTING laundry.") He'll say he cleaned the bathroom, but he didn't do the tub, or maybe the toilet. Last weekend he didn't feed the kids breakfast because I didn't tell him to. Some days it feels like I'm just following him around, finishing things. "

HA! I find this thread a little bit depressing but my husband seems to be of this ilk, as well, down to the not feeding DS his breakfast. I think many of us women are the planners of the family. My husband can't go to the store to get something without calling me 5 or 6 times to ask detailed questions to the extent that I feel like I should have just gone myself. I see feedback on these boards all the time that maybe husbands are like this because the wives are too controlling, and maybe that can be the case, but literally, if I don't give instructions, he doesn't know what to do. When left to his own devices, he calls me to ask or does nothing. Don't get me wrong, he'll sit there and play with the baby and can deal with tantrums better than I can, etc, so this isn't just an open ended complaint. In other words, I love my husband and recognize his strengths. But it DOES get so frustrating to be the cruise director all the time. Today we were out and I didn't have good finger food for DS, who is still eating a mixture of purees and some finger foods. So I asked DH to run into a coffee shop and get a muffin. This is not something we do regularly but I wanted DS to have finger food. DH calls me and starts reading off the different muffins to me. So I say "you know what he can eat -- just get something as healthy as you can." So DH comes out with something with nuts, raisins, you name it inside. I guess it's my fault for not doing it myself or listening to the menu. But c'mon, he doesn't realize that a baby can't have nuts? If I don't spoonfeed him information and tasks, he doesn't do things or does them wrong. I hate saying that out loud, so I don't. I say it hear instead. It reminds me of the scene in Mr. Mom: "You don't feed a baby chili!" I guess if my husband were left to his own devices he wouldn't lean on me as the knowledge base as much, but it really does frustrate me that he doesn't take more initiative to learn and make meaningful input to our decisions on things like this. Yes, meaningful things like a muffin.

[Anonymous]

I love you, you truely are my best friend and I love the life we have together. We are partners in everyway. However, would it kill you to put the dishes in the sink? Or maybe scrape them off? And just because I do dishes every night doesn't make me OCD, it makes me clean.

[Anonymous]

That's truly frightening. Perhaps life insurance trumps long-term care.

Anonymous wrote:While the drama in your life is legitimate, I wish there were a little room for MY drama. I would like to be taken care of from time to time, instead of always taking care of others. Your unending negativity, no matter how justified, is killing any chance at a future together. Your constant one-upping of my issues (yes, yours ARE bigger, but mine are real too) makes me think violent thoughts.

[Anonymous]

I am going to outlive you. I am going to be in charge of your funeral and most of your estate.

I CAN'T WAIT.

[Anonymous]

I know you are having an affair. But if it means I don't have to sleep with you, I don't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would like to have sex more than once a year. I know you think that we don't have sex because I have gained weight. If you are honest with yourself, you know that we had sex at best once a month when I was a size 6. You should thank christ while you are kneeling on glass for my extra weight. Without it, I would either be having sex with someone else or you would be single. I am 20 pounds down, you are running out of time.

So you are getting thin to find another man who likes you when you are thin. Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

Don't act so surprised, I told you I was leaving. I tried to work it out. I told you if you ignored me long enough I'd eventually go away, but you couldn't be bothered, so...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know you are having an affair. But if it means I don't have to sleep with you, I don't care.

wow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am going to outlive you. I am going to be in charge of your funeral and most of your estate.

I CAN'T WAIT.

Most depressing post on the thread. In 40 years after you are dead and don't need your money anymore, it will all be mine. That's sweet revenge! I'm sure he'll care.

[Anonymous]

Assuming he makes it 40 more years.

[Anonymous]

Whatever gets you through the night.

[Anonymous]

This thread makes me realize that whatever squabbles I have with my DH (and I recognize him in several of these), they are minor in the grand scheme of things. Geez.