DD refusing to go to homecoming

[Anonymous]

you can't make her (unless you bodily force her into a dress and shove her into the car) and why would you even want to? you have the opportunity to be the mom who listens to her kid and respects her choice (and gets to save a few hundred to boot!) and you are choosing the exact opposite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are the WORST kind of mom.

This makes no sense to me. What in the original post indicates a terrible mother? Maybe a bit pushy and overbearing, but geez, lighten up.

Trying to force a teenager who had a falling out with a group of friends to attend homecoming WHERE THEY WILL ALL BE and she will have to see them and face them is seriously out of a bad teen movie it's so atrociously clueless. So much so I think this post is a troll.

+1. This feels made up to me too. The key part of the story is that she had a falling out with her friend group. How is she doing? Using the time to get to know others? Lonely? Not that she’s not
Going to homecoming.

[Anonymous]

Has OP showed back up in humility yet?

[Anonymous]

I didn’t attend a single homecoming dance during high school. I had no interest. I’m an introvert and have never really enjoyed there types of events.

I had freinds in HS and had a fine high school experience. I’ve also grown up to lead a full life—job, happy marriage and kids.

People overhype the high school dances and rituals. There is a sense that these are “glory days” and a sense that if you don’t partake you miss out on something critical.

If this is not important to your daughter, let it go. It’s one evening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God let her stay home

Sadly sounds like if stays home will be with a parent sighing how awful it is that DD is missing homecoming- Blech!

[Anonymous]

I never went and never wanted to. I’m fine and don’t regret it. Leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

Can you imagine peaking in high school? Because it sounds like this is what happened to you, OP!

Hope for better things for your children.

[Anonymous]

never went to HC
Just fine

[Anonymous]

Let her protect her heart in this case. She doesn’t want to see her old friends together and be reminded of that. I’m sure she went the last 2 years so she’s already experienced homecoming.

[Anonymous]

I never went to homecoming. I am a happy, successful woman.

Leave her alone. Her friend group just collapses and you’re adding insult to injury .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has OP showed back up in humility yet?

No, she is stuck in a 1950s time warp with curlers in her hair wondering if Bobby is going to ask her to go steady or pick Mary Sue instead!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you can't make her (unless you bodily force her into a dress and shove her into the car) and why would you even want to? you have the opportunity to be the mom who listens to her kid and respects her choice (and gets to save a few hundred to boot!) and you are choosing the exact opposite.

It's such a money grab on top of being a lame old fashioned school ritual.

[Anonymous]

She doesn’t want to go and be snubbed by her old friends. Plan something fun or nice to do with her that evening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Prom > Homecoming

No, that doesn’t matter either. Replace it and the responses will be the same. My HS didn’t have HC and I regret going to any proms because it was a bad time and a lot of money. DH didn’t go to any of that with no regrets.

Our oldest is at the end of HS and has chosen so far to not attend any dances. We don’t push. We don’t know what our younger children will do but we don’t give pressure either way.

[Anonymous]

But if Larla doesn’t go mom can’t post pictures to insta.