I think my BFF is having her DD baby shower today and didn’t invite me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the shower is for the DD and her friends, not the mom’s friends.

This, it is probably a situation where the person hosting has limited space and DD wants to maximize space for her friends. Your BFF didn’t tell you bc it’s not her choice and she didn’t want to hurt your feelings.

[Anonymous]

Both my mom and Mil have a lot of close friends. Only my friends and family were invited to the shower. My MIL threw me a shower even and it was only for their family.

I’m not sure that parents friends are invited to showers. That reeks of a gift grab to me.

[Anonymous]

And there just happened to be a butt dial?
Sounds trollish to me, OP...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And there just happened to be a butt dial?
Sounds trollish to me, OP...

+1 And what person the age of a grandmother uses the word BFF. Go away troll.

[Anonymous]

Baby showers are the most boring parties ever invented. I get upset when I have to go to one, not when I don’t!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It would seem strange that you are having zero issues with your best friend and yet aren't invited to a shower. Perhaps you misheard or are assuming wrong.

Honestly, we have zero issues. We spoke just this week and she didn’t mention having any other big plans this weekend. They were clearly speaking about a baby shower, and I clearly heard her DD. Of course it could be someone else’s shower, but what are the chances?

Why would you expect to be invited her daughter's shower? It's her daughter, not yours. And it's not your friend's shower. I guess it wouldn't bother me but then my best friend has boys. I'm sure I'd invite her to my daughters' showers but I wouldn't be upset if she didn't come. Her mom did come to mine but we've always been close.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the shower is for the DD and her friends, not the mom’s friends.

+1 I would not want have wanted my mom's friends at my shower!

My mom lived across the country when I was pregnant and we were somewhat estranged at the time so she didn't come to my shower. My MIL hosted the shower at her house although my friends did the work for it and she invited her "best friend" whom I had never met. It was MIL's house so of course she could invite who she wanted to but I would preferred a woman I didn't know at all not be present at my shower.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the shower is for the DD and her friends, not the mom’s friends.

+1 I would not want have wanted my mom's friends at my shower!

My shower was 90% my mom's friends, 10% mine, the rich aunties are the ones who give the best gifts!

I definitely had my mom’s friends at my shower, both wedding and baby. I think this is pretty normal and typical.

Of my four closest friends who have children, two of us had friends of parents at showers and two of us did not. So it may be normal and typical in your circles but it is definitely not the case everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the guest list is made by the pregnant girl. it is not a l ist of all the mom's friends, necessarily.

are you close to the pregnant girl?

i wouldn't worry too much about it.

Hope it isn't a girl! Did you mean woman?

Baby showers are boring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Baby showers are the most boring parties ever invented. I get upset when I have to go to one, not when I don’t!

Me too!

[Anonymous]

If you really have zero issues with this friend, why not just tell her what you told us? You'll get a much better answer that way.

[Anonymous]

I can’t remember any times that I’ve been to a baby shower where the Grandma-to-be had her friends there.

Agree that “BFF buttdial” sounds pretty trollish.

[Anonymous]

I would just have a discussion about it with your bff. Why be all anxious about it - just use your words.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Couldn’t be that the shower is for her daughter and not her?

Actually, the shower is for the daughter and not OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And there just happened to be a butt dial?
Sounds trollish to me, OP...

+1 And what person the age of a grandmother uses the word BFF. Go away troll.

Uh, I am 47 and I have friends who have been grandparents for years.