I think my BFF is having her DD baby shower today and didn’t invite me

[Anonymous]

My BFF only DD is pregnant and she’s been really cagey about whether or not they are having a baby shower for her. She’s due around Thanksgiving and still haven’t mentioned a shower. It was a couple weeks ago when out for coffee with my friend that I asked again what they were doing, and she was firm that they weren’t doing a shower.

Just now I was butt dialed and heard my friend and her daughter in what could only be described as them actively and currently decorating some space for a baby shower, with them clearly speaking orders to others in the background. I am ashamed to say I eavesdropped for a couple minutes and then hung up.

I am so upset and hurt, but more importantly, I don’t know what to do!

[Anonymous]

It would seem strange that you are having zero issues with your best friend and yet aren't invited to a shower. Perhaps you misheard or are assuming wrong.

[Anonymous]

There isn’t anything for you to do. Even if you’re right; it’s not up to your friend. Just continue to be a good friend and stop trying to have a bigger role. How close are you to your parent’s friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It would seem strange that you are having zero issues with your best friend and yet aren't invited to a shower. Perhaps you misheard or are assuming wrong.

Honestly, we have zero issues. We spoke just this week and she didn’t mention having any other big plans this weekend. They were clearly speaking about a baby shower, and I clearly heard her DD. Of course it could be someone else’s shower, but what are the chances?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It would seem strange that you are having zero issues with your best friend and yet aren't invited to a shower. Perhaps you misheard or are assuming wrong.

Honestly, we have zero issues. We spoke just this week and she didn’t mention having any other big plans this weekend. They were clearly speaking about a baby shower, and I clearly heard her DD. Of course it could be someone else’s shower, but what are the chances?

I would think the chances of that are much higher than your best friend leaving you out of a baby shower.

[Anonymous]

Maybe the shower is for the DD and her friends, not the mom’s friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My BFF only DD is pregnant and she’s been really cagey about whether or not they are having a baby shower for her. She’s due around Thanksgiving and still haven’t mentioned a shower. It was a couple weeks ago when out for coffee with my friend that I asked again what they were doing, and she was firm that they weren’t doing a shower.

Just now I was butt dialed and heard my friend and her daughter in what could only be described as them actively and currently decorating some space for a baby shower, with them clearly speaking orders to others in the background. I am ashamed to say I eavesdropped for a couple minutes and then hung up.

I am so upset and hurt, but more importantly, I don’t know what to do!

Congratulations! You just saved $100 on a gift you are not gifting now.

[Anonymous]

I know it hurts because you want to be a part of the celebration, but let it go. Maybe her DD insisted on a really small party - I’ve been to really small ones, like 8-10 of the closest friends.
Your friend is not mentioning it because she knows you would be there in a minute & she doesn’t want you to feel bad - so your friend is trying to be respectful of your feelings. Just let it go & enjoy seeing each other next time you get together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the shower is for the DD and her friends, not the mom’s friends.

+1 I would not want have wanted my mom's friends at my shower!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It would seem strange that you are having zero issues with your best friend and yet aren't invited to a shower. Perhaps you misheard or are assuming wrong.

Honestly, we have zero issues. We spoke just this week and she didn’t mention having any other big plans this weekend. They were clearly speaking about a baby shower, and I clearly heard her DD. Of course it could be someone else’s shower, but what are the chances?

I would think the chances of that are much higher than your best friend leaving you out of a baby shower.

I think maybe this person is OP's BFF, but OP is not their BFF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the shower is for the DD and her friends, not the mom’s friends.

This. Or maybe it's just family - maybe the husband's family is hosting just for their extended family members. You have no idea, OP. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It would seem strange that you are having zero issues with your best friend and yet aren't invited to a shower. Perhaps you misheard or are assuming wrong.

Honestly, we have zero issues. We spoke just this week and she didn’t mention having any other big plans this weekend. They were clearly speaking about a baby shower, and I clearly heard her DD. Of course it could be someone else’s shower, but what are the chances?

I would think the chances of that are much higher than your best friend leaving you out of a baby shower.

“We are setting up in Suite B. Jane is already in there.” And grandma speaking about Jane’s pregnancy and who is coming? Ugh. This just stinks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the shower is for the DD and her friends, not the mom’s friends.

+1 I would not want have wanted my mom's friends at my shower!

My shower was 90% my mom's friends, 10% mine, the rich aunties are the ones who give the best gifts!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My BFF only DD is pregnant and she’s been really cagey about whether or not they are having a baby shower for her. She’s due around Thanksgiving and still haven’t mentioned a shower. It was a couple weeks ago when out for coffee with my friend that I asked again what they were doing, and she was firm that they weren’t doing a shower.

Just now I was butt dialed and heard my friend and her daughter in what could only be described as them actively and currently decorating some space for a baby shower, with them clearly speaking orders to others in the background. I am ashamed to say I eavesdropped for a couple minutes and then hung up.

I am so upset and hurt, but more importantly, I don’t know what to do!

Congratulations! You just saved $100 on a gift you are not gifting now.

Ha! True!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know it hurts because you want to be a part of the celebration, but let it go. Maybe her DD insisted on a really small party - I’ve been to really small ones, like 8-10 of the closest friends.
Your friend is not mentioning it because she knows you would be there in a minute & she doesn’t want you to feel bad - so your friend is trying to be respectful of your feelings. Just let it go & enjoy seeing each other next time you get together.

I’m sure you’re right. But yes, I can’t help that it hurts!