I think my BFF is having her DD baby shower today and didn’t invite me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll.

That’s what I think too.

NP

[Anonymous]

the guest list is made by the pregnant girl. it is not a l ist of all the mom's friends, necessarily.

are you close to the pregnant girl?

i wouldn't worry too much about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the guest list is made by the pregnant girl. it is not a l ist of all the mom's friends, necessarily.

are you close to the pregnant girl?

i wouldn't worry too much about it.

This is weird to me though if OP and the mom are best friends. I invited my mom's 4 closest friends to my baby shower.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the guest list is made by the pregnant girl. it is not a l ist of all the mom's friends, necessarily.

are you close to the pregnant girl?

i wouldn't worry too much about it.

This is weird to me though if OP and the mom are best friends. I invited my mom's 4 closest friends to my baby shower.

I did not. They are not my friends, and since I don't live at home anymore, I don't even really know them that well. I imagine it would be a little cliquey too. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

Why don’t you just confront your bff and tell her what you heard? Just be up front?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the guest list is made by the pregnant girl. it is not a l ist of all the mom's friends, necessarily.

are you close to the pregnant girl?

i wouldn't worry too much about it.

This is weird to me though if OP and the mom are best friends. I invited my mom's 4 closest friends to my baby shower.

I did not. They are not my friends, and since I don't live at home anymore, I don't even really know them that well. I imagine it would be a little cliquey too. No thanks.

I went to a shower like this once with a lot of the grandmother to be’s friends. It was mostly older people, not many friends of the mom to be. It was awkward and one of the older ladies even said “you can’t sit with us” when I was trying to find a place to sit because they were “saving a seat”. From that point on I just sent gifts to showers when the guest list did not have many bride/mother to be friends. No thanks, indeed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the guest list is made by the pregnant girl. it is not a l ist of all the mom's friends, necessarily.

are you close to the pregnant girl?

i wouldn't worry too much about it.

This is weird to me though if OP and the mom are best friends. I invited my mom's 4 closest friends to my baby shower.

I did not. They are not my friends, and since I don't live at home anymore, I don't even really know them that well. I imagine it would be a little cliquey too. No thanks.

I went to a shower like this once with a lot of the grandmother to be’s friends. It was mostly older people, not many friends of the mom to be. It was awkward and one of the older ladies even said “you can’t sit with us” when I was trying to find a place to sit because they were “saving a seat”. From that point on I just sent gifts to showers when the guest list did not have many bride/mother to be friends. No thanks, indeed.

This happened at my wedding! Not only did they ignore everyone, they brought out a deck of cards and never left the table.

[Anonymous]

It’s really tacky for a mom to be hosting a shower anyway. Good miss.

[Anonymous]

If she is not hosting, she is not the one inviting. Honestly you should not be asking her. You have been rude pushing this when you know she would not be the one in charge of this event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the guest list is made by the pregnant girl. it is not a l ist of all the mom's friends, necessarily.

are you close to the pregnant girl?

i wouldn't worry too much about it.

This is weird to me though if OP and the mom are best friends. I invited my mom's 4 closest friends to my baby shower.

I didn't. My shower was hosted by a friend and included friends, my sister and a few cousins. My mom was there but no one else in that generation (DH's mom died before we met).

[Anonymous]

I definitely get the "she didn't want to invite her mom's friends" thing. But then why wouldn't OPs friend just have told her that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I definitely get the "she didn't want to invite her mom's friends" thing. But then why wouldn't OPs friend just have told her that?

Because OP is aggressively pushy and needy, as evidenced by her original post? She probably would have called the DD and told her how hurt she was or something.

DD is having the baby. She set the list, and her mom tried to run polite interference. But OP is like a dog with a bone and can't let it go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the shower is for the DD and her friends, not the mom’s friends.

This. Or maybe it's just family - maybe the husband's family is hosting just for their extended family members. You have no idea, OP. Get over it.

All of this, and maybe your BFF knows you would over react like this and you would feel the need to be included even if the DD and or her friends or her fiancé's family had their own limited list. So she tried to hide it from you in hopes of avoiding it being weird when she had to say she couldn't invite you.

[Anonymous]

Maybe the DD said she didn't want her mom's friends at her baby shower. It really could be that simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I definitely get the "she didn't want to invite her mom's friends" thing. But then why wouldn't OPs friend just have told her that?

Some people REALLY just can't handle confrontation. Of any kind. And they shy away from anything that could lead to it. Or lead to someone else expressing Big Feelings.