How often do you call your DC in college?

[Anonymous]

I rarely call but we text almost every day.

[Anonymous]

We text all the time,but if it wants to be a conversation I call or ask them to call when free. They know my old lady fingers can't keep up on the text chat!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS talks to me or his step dad everyday. If it’s guy stuff - cars, girls, working out, travel, medical, or financial, he calls his step dad. If it’s school, classes, grades, interviews, siblings, or financial, he calls me. We text most days as well.

DS seeks our opinion on things and seems to generally enjoy our conversations. My parents were AWOL when I was in college and I really struggled. They had no idea and didn’t seem to care.

DS has a 3.95 GPA, many friends, and participates in activities. It doesn’t seem to be holding him back by maintaining a close relationship with his family.

People forget that phone calls actually used to cost $$$s back when we went to school. Relative to median wages, they were expensive as well.

My only point is that I bet more of our parents would have called/been more involved if contacting your kid was free...vs. every call might be $5 - $10 a pop.

DP. Eh, I don't know about that. The mentality was more hands off. Probably goes back to Dr. Spock.
We're Gen X, we foraged in the woods on our own at age 5. Also, there science plans and calling cards, and it wasn't that bad for a few minutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS talks to me or his step dad everyday. If it’s guy stuff - cars, girls, working out, travel, medical, or financial, he calls his step dad. If it’s school, classes, grades, interviews, siblings, or financial, he calls me. We text most days as well.

DS seeks our opinion on things and seems to generally enjoy our conversations. My parents were AWOL when I was in college and I really struggled. They had no idea and didn’t seem to care.

DS has a 3.95 GPA, many friends, and participates in activities. It doesn’t seem to be holding him back by maintaining a close relationship with his family.

People forget that phone calls actually used to cost $$$s back when we went to school. Relative to median wages, they were expensive as well.

My only point is that I bet more of our parents would have called/been more involved if contacting your kid was free...vs. every call might be $5 - $10 a pop.

DP. Eh, I don't know about that. The mentality was more hands off. Probably goes back to Dr. Spock.
We're Gen X, we foraged in the woods on our own at age 5. Also, there science plans and calling cards, and it wasn't that bad for a few minutes.

My calls with my parents were more like proof of life calls and then one parent was always yelling at the other “it’s long distance”. So yes, it was less than 5 minutes on average vs as long as you want nowadays…not much time for more than proving you are alive and seem fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS talks to me or his step dad everyday. If it’s guy stuff - cars, girls, working out, travel, medical, or financial, he calls his step dad. If it’s school, classes, grades, interviews, siblings, or financial, he calls me. We text most days as well.

DS seeks our opinion on things and seems to generally enjoy our conversations. My parents were AWOL when I was in college and I really struggled. They had no idea and didn’t seem to care.

DS has a 3.95 GPA, many friends, and participates in activities. It doesn’t seem to be holding him back by maintaining a close relationship with his family.

People forget that phone calls actually used to cost $$$s back when we went to school. Relative to median wages, they were expensive as well.

My only point is that I bet more of our parents would have called/been more involved if contacting your kid was free...vs. every call might be $5 - $10 a pop.

DP. Eh, I don't know about that. The mentality was more hands off. Probably goes back to Dr. Spock.
We're Gen X, we foraged in the woods on our own at age 5. Also, there science plans and calling cards, and it wasn't that bad for a few minutes.

That was supposed to read MCI not science! Autocorrect doesn't remember...

[Anonymous]

My parents had a personal 1-800 number for me to call them. They cancelled it when they discovered my uncle, who was an actual millionaire, had been using it to call them ;p (this was after I left school)

[Anonymous]

We FaceTime every Sunday. I used to call home every Sunday so it’s the same concept. Kiddo occasionally texts during the week.

[Anonymous]

I don’t call, I let them call when they have time. I do text often.

[Anonymous]

Our college senior calls/texts sporadically, but knows we are here if needed. We rarely call unless there is something we need them to know. I will send a funny meme or dog picture periodically if we haven't heard anything in awhile. They recently admitted that during freshman year they didn't call and were glad we didn't have a set schedule or requirement b/c it made them homesick when they talked with us and sometimes it was just too much to handle the first semester.
All kids are different and have different needs...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a daughter and she calls all the time and gets upset that I never call her!

Same!! But it’s only been a week.

[Anonymous]

Just called because DD called yesterday and said why don’t you call. Has been there a week and we’ve texted a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a daughter and she calls all the time and gets upset that I never call her!

Same!! But it’s only been a week.

Same!!! I was trying to give her space. Lol!!!

[Anonymous]

I have a freshman. We’ve been talking once a week, on Sundays. I text him pretty much every day (my Wordle at least, some days a note as well) and he responds once or twice during the week.
Our Sunday evening conversations last an hour or so, which I think is actually too long, but DS gives me a pretty complete rundown of his week. I think over time the calls will get shorter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, I talk to her so darn much. It's actually crazy how much I hear from her. I had to tell her yesterday to please go to dad with her problems because I just couldn't hack it anymore.

That said, she's already been through an ER visit, a horrific roommate situation and then move, we've been sourcing stuff from the community for her new room (like fridge/microwave, TV, etc) so I have to connect her to them from 8 hours away and then yesterday she said she was very sick (likely sinus infection, but also something in her throat). Then, at the end of the day, she called to say she lost her ID. After paying $50, she of course got the email that her original ID had been found. Sonuva ;P

OMG, the drama, y'all - I need a break

She doesn't sound ready to be off to college. She needs to clean up her own messes.

That sounds like covid.

What was the "horrific roommate situation?"

I had her test for covid (negative) and also told her to have the Health Services test for strep as I know that is going around her school and her program. They looked at her and told her she was right, most likely sinus infection.

Roommate situation? Her now former roommates told her they were moving out, then I found out from the other moms (their moms, people - this situation was insane) their daughters' BS nonsense complaints about my child. Problems that absolutely could have been fixed by a sit down with the RA or even just a LITTLE communication by their kids with mine. The 2 others knew each other ahead of time and brought my kid in after meeting at orientation. My poor kid was so upset when they told her they wanted to move but gave her ZERO explanation as to why, she spun out a little. The situation got out of hand VERY quickly. I mean honestly, the entire thing went down over about 12 hours. My child spoke with the mental health person in student health but NO ONE from residence life was involved until my child went to the RD when these little snots just iced her out, still with ZERO explanation as to what was happening. By about midnight, a plan was already in place to move my daughter out. She's annoyed that SHE had to move when they were the ones who acted poorly, but she is currently living in a double with no roommate. Much nicer space and no roommate kicking my child out of her room the day after she was in the ER until 2 am so that roomie could have a quickie (daughter told me that little tidbit later)

Look, my kid is adjusting to being away from home. She trusts us and tells us a lot. It will get better. She is working on growing. She's had some crazy situations within just a few weeks. I have had some crazy stuff going on personally (including being rearended driving home from work on Monday), so by Tuesday, I was personally overwhelmed by everything. Yesterday and today are better. Yesterday she spoke with her father a couple times and gave me a break. Today we have been texting about packages that are coming her way, including her meds that the stupid mail-order pharmacy screwed up after I spent hours of my life making SURE they could mail them to her at school and giving them the school address that then arrived to our HOME address.

How about you stop judging by just one post on the internet and give kids away from home for the first time the benefit of the doubt?

Sound like you all have a lot going on. Was your daughter the issue with the roomate drama?

What meds?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, I talk to her so darn much. It's actually crazy how much I hear from her. I had to tell her yesterday to please go to dad with her problems because I just couldn't hack it anymore.

That said, she's already been through an ER visit, a horrific roommate situation and then move, we've been sourcing stuff from the community for her new room (like fridge/microwave, TV, etc) so I have to connect her to them from 8 hours away and then yesterday she said she was very sick (likely sinus infection, but also something in her throat). Then, at the end of the day, she called to say she lost her ID. After paying $50, she of course got the email that her original ID had been found. Sonuva ;P

OMG, the drama, y'all - I need a break

She doesn't sound ready to be off to college. She needs to clean up her own messes.

That sounds like covid.

What was the "horrific roommate situation?"

I had her test for covid (negative) and also told her to have the Health Services test for strep as I know that is going around her school and her program. They looked at her and told her she was right, most likely sinus infection.

Roommate situation? Her now former roommates told her they were moving out, then I found out from the other moms (their moms, people - this situation was insane) their daughters' BS nonsense complaints about my child. Problems that absolutely could have been fixed by a sit down with the RA or even just a LITTLE communication by their kids with mine. The 2 others knew each other ahead of time and brought my kid in after meeting at orientation. My poor kid was so upset when they told her they wanted to move but gave her ZERO explanation as to why, she spun out a little. The situation got out of hand VERY quickly. I mean honestly, the entire thing went down over about 12 hours. My child spoke with the mental health person in student health but NO ONE from residence life was involved until my child went to the RD when these little snots just iced her out, still with ZERO explanation as to what was happening. By about midnight, a plan was already in place to move my daughter out. She's annoyed that SHE had to move when they were the ones who acted poorly, but she is currently living in a double with no roommate. Much nicer space and no roommate kicking my child out of her room the day after she was in the ER until 2 am so that roomie could have a quickie (daughter told me that little tidbit later)

Look, my kid is adjusting to being away from home. She trusts us and tells us a lot. It will get better. She is working on growing. She's had some crazy situations within just a few weeks. I have had some crazy stuff going on personally (including being rearended driving home from work on Monday), so by Tuesday, I was personally overwhelmed by everything. Yesterday and today are better. Yesterday she spoke with her father a couple times and gave me a break. Today we have been texting about packages that are coming her way, including her meds that the stupid mail-order pharmacy screwed up after I spent hours of my life making SURE they could mail them to her at school and giving them the school address that then arrived to our HOME address.

How about you stop judging by just one post on the internet and give kids away from home for the first time the benefit of the doubt?

Sound like you all have a lot going on. Was your daughter the issue with the roomate drama?

What meds?

"their daughters' BS nonsense complaints about my child."

No details here?