“Too bad you only have boys”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The super sensitivity of some of you is beyond ludicrous.

The total lack of sensitivity from some people is really ludicrous to me.

The idea of anyone over the age of like 22 not understanding that fertility and family size and composition can be tender subjects and should be treated thoughtfully is embarrassing to me. It's like joking about someone having a special need or their race or their sobriety or their weight -- it's rude. These topics can be discussed and you can ask questions but you don't make flip comments like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The super sensitivity of some of you is beyond ludicrous.

The total lack of sensitivity from some people is really ludicrous to me.

The idea of anyone over the age of like 22 not understanding that fertility and family size and composition can be tender subjects and should be treated thoughtfully is embarrassing to me. It's like joking about someone having a special need or their race or their sobriety or their weight -- it's rude. These topics can be discussed and you can ask questions but you don't make flip comments like that.

This. Good lord.

[Anonymous]

Hit her with “sorry to see your daughter is growing up to be such a sl*t.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's awful OP.

People are such a$$holes.

This is funny, when I read OP’s post, my retort was “too bad you’re an a$$hole.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend recently said “too bad you only have boys. You should have had more kids so you could have a girl.”

Who says that???

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Too bad you're a c@nt. Is there any other response?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend recently said “too bad you only have boys. You should have had more kids so you could have a girl.”

Who says that???

A jerk. Don't waste time worrying about the opinion of a jerk.

[Anonymous]

We had a lot of difficulty conceiving and my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage. When I ended up pregnant with twins girls, I was so incredibly grateful and thrilled, even though I’d always pictured myself with sons. I felt lucky to be having any biological children at all. I was shocked by how many complete strangers would tell me I needed to try for a boy when they found out I was having two girls. I was pregnant with not one, but TWO babies, yet and people were saying I needed to have more kids. I don’t give a fig what anyone else thinks. I love the children I have and feel my family is complete and just right for me. People can be so oblivious and rude.

[Anonymous]

I have all sons and get these sort of comments ALL the time - you would be shocked how many grocery store clerks, random people in target, and, yes, acquaintances/"friends" say things about how I "should have" had a girl. My kids aren't babies - they hear you! I find the comments mildly annoying (and so wrong! I wouldn't change a thing about our family makeup!), but I get really upset that my sons have to hear this nonsense!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend recently said “too bad you only have boys. You should have had more kids so you could have a girl.”

Who says that???

Tell her you'd love more kids but you run the risk of having girls so decided against it. She's ignorant.

So by that comment you become just as ignorant as her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have all sons and get these sort of comments ALL the time - you would be shocked how many grocery store clerks, random people in target, and, yes, acquaintances/"friends" say things about how I "should have" had a girl. My kids aren't babies - they hear you! I find the comments mildly annoying (and so wrong! I wouldn't change a thing about our family makeup!), but I get really upset that my sons have to hear this nonsense!

Well, my girls had to hear the same thing except how wonderful boys are

[Anonymous]

My mom had all girls and I remember constantly hearing random people telling her she had to "try for that boy". Now I have two boys and get the same thing.
It HURTS because I would love to have another kid, boy or girl, but we truly can't afford it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom had all girls and I remember constantly hearing random people telling her she had to "try for that boy". Now I have two boys and get the same thing.
It HURTS because I would love to have another kid, boy or girl, but we truly can't afford it.

Stupid people say stupid things regardless of gender.

I am one of 3 sisters.
My oldest sister has a son and daughter.
My youngest sister has two boys.
I have two girls.
We all get comments. For my younger sister and I it's about too bad we don't have a son/ or daughter.
For my oldest sister people tell her it's too bad the daughter was older instead of a first born son. Stupidity never ends.
We all also had a hard time getting pregnant and were happy just to be able to have healthy.kids.

[Anonymous]

I have 2 girls and when they were little people said stuff like this all the time. I attribute it to 1) people being dumb busy bodies and 2) this sentiment that we get to pick and chose to optimize our life experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The super sensitivity of some of you is beyond ludicrous.

The total lack of sensitivity from some people is really ludicrous to me.

The idea of anyone over the age of like 22 not understanding that fertility and family size and composition can be tender subjects and should be treated thoughtfully is embarrassing to me. It's like joking about someone having a special need or their race or their sobriety or their weight -- it's rude. These topics can be discussed and you can ask questions but you don't make flip comments like that.

On the other hand, you must admit toxic masculinity is a major problem in America. And a difficult one for us to overcome.

So let’s not pretend it isn’t a specific problem raising these boys correctly. A problem girls simply would not and do not have.

[Anonymous]

Obviously it's a tactless thing to say. You're supposed to think those things quietly to yourself, but not say them out loud.