13 yo daughter’s bday party

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Why are so many ok with their kids having toktok?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you have a craft focused birthday party - get like construction paper in different colors and crayons/scissors/markers. They have like craft in a box sets at Michael’s.

For a 13 year old????

Why are you so unhinged by this suggestion? Every teenage girl loves to make crafts.

You don’t know 13 yr old girls. Construction paper and crayons is a shit recommendation. Just stop.

+1 Yes. 13 year olds no longer use construction paper and crayons to do crafts. That is something a kindergartner would do. Loom bracelets and necklaces? Maybe.

My DD is turning 13 this year. She has not touched a crayon in years. They are trying to be mini adults now. I think they might like to plan their own party at this age but limits would have to be set on the cost and the activities.

Parents shouldn't let them be mini adults.

Parents should lock their girls in a tower and climb their hair to visit daily.

Children don't grow up if you protect them forever.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you have a craft focused birthday party - get like construction paper in different colors and crayons/scissors/markers. They have like craft in a box sets at Michael’s.

For a 13 year old????

Why are you so unhinged by this suggestion? Every teenage girl loves to make crafts.

You don’t know 13 yr old girls. Construction paper and crayons is a shit recommendation. Just stop.

I am neither of these two people talking to each other. Wow , one person asks for recommendation and one volunteers one, gets criticized and attacked. They should be thanked. I would love paper and crayons to the person who said “shit recommendation” so I can hand you a craft with text reading that first word 😂

Get over yourself. You’re not that interesting and 13 yr olds don’t want to cut construction paper and draw with markers for some stupid craft. There is such a thing as a bad idea.

I'm getting such a clueless dad vibe from this one.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you have a craft focused birthday party - get like construction paper in different colors and crayons/scissors/markers. They have like craft in a box sets at Michael’s.

For a 13 year old????

Why are you so unhinged by this suggestion? Every teenage girl loves to make crafts.

You don’t know 13 yr old girls. Construction paper and crayons is a shit recommendation. Just stop.

+1 Yes. 13 year olds no longer use construction paper and crayons to do crafts. That is something a kindergartner would do. Loom bracelets and necklaces? Maybe.

My DD is turning 13 this year. She has not touched a crayon in years. They are trying to be mini adults now. I think they might like to plan their own party at this age but limits would have to be set on the cost and the activities.

Parents shouldn't let them be mini adults.

Parents should lock their girls in a tower and climb their hair to visit daily.

Children don't grow up if you protect them forever.

Do they need to grow up so quickly though? Of course they'll grow up, but shouldn't act like mini adults at 13. Interesting that you're ok with that.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you have a craft focused birthday party - get like construction paper in different colors and crayons/scissors/markers. They have like craft in a box sets at Michael’s.

For a 13 year old????

Why are you so unhinged by this suggestion? Every teenage girl loves to make crafts.

You don’t know 13 yr old girls. Construction paper and crayons is a shit recommendation. Just stop.

I am neither of these two people talking to each other. Wow , one person asks for recommendation and one volunteers one, gets criticized and attacked. They should be thanked. I would love paper and crayons to the person who said “shit recommendation” so I can hand you a craft with text reading that first word 😂

Get over yourself. You’re not that interesting and 13 yr olds don’t want to cut construction paper and draw with markers for some stupid craft. There is such a thing as a bad idea.

I'm getting such a clueless dad vibe from this one.

the doubling down on it is so weird, too

[Anonymous]

I’d do a spa day. But I think 13 year olds roaming around is totally fine, during the day? Especially if there is somewhere specific they can walk to like boba tea, Starbucks, ice cream etc

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you have a craft focused birthday party - get like construction paper in different colors and crayons/scissors/markers. They have like craft in a box sets at Michael’s.

For a 13 year old????

Why are you so unhinged by this suggestion? Every teenage girl loves to make crafts.

You don’t know 13 yr old girls. Construction paper and crayons is a shit recommendation. Just stop.

+1 Yes. 13 year olds no longer use construction paper and crayons to do crafts. That is something a kindergartner would do. Loom bracelets and necklaces? Maybe.

My DD is turning 13 this year. She has not touched a crayon in years. They are trying to be mini adults now. I think they might like to plan their own party at this age but limits would have to be set on the cost and the activities.

Parents shouldn't let them be mini adults.

There is a whole spectrum between preschool crafts and adult parties. It doesn’t have to be one or the other.

Why are you hating on a craft party? Girls love that sort of thing!

All crafts are not the same. Obviously. Come on. Making their own snow globes, bracelets, jewelry, bags, or just about anything else is better than construction paper and markers. That’s just a bad idea. Get over it.

You are just so unimaginative. The girls can make anything with paper, crayons, markers, glue, etc.

Ok you do that for your next teen party in 10 years when your baby grows up.

I’ve done these types of parties for my girls and their friends and it’s been a hit.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are so many ok with their kids having toktok?

Good Q.

Allowing TikTok is negligent parenting.

[Anonymous]

The suggestions thus far reek of cisheterosexism.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t need to plan activities at this age. Give them some space, feed them, let your kid put on a movie. They’ll just want to hang out. Don’t be surprised if a couple peel off to read or whatever if the commotion gets overwhelming.

Nobody goes off to read at a birthday party as guests do not bring their own books.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t need to plan activities at this age. Give them some space, feed them, let your kid put on a movie. They’ll just want to hang out. Don’t be surprised if a couple peel off to read or whatever if the commotion gets overwhelming.

Nobody goes off to read at a birthday party as guests do not bring their own books.

Or the commotion gets overwhelming? It’s all a lot of chaos and noise. They have no idea how loud they are but nobody sequesters themselves to read in the middle of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you have a craft focused birthday party - get like construction paper in different colors and crayons/scissors/markers. They have like craft in a box sets at Michael’s.

For a 13 year old????

Why are you so unhinged by this suggestion? Every teenage girl loves to make crafts.

You don’t know 13 yr old girls. Construction paper and crayons is a shit recommendation. Just stop.

+1 Yes. 13 year olds no longer use construction paper and crayons to do crafts. That is something a kindergartner would do. Loom bracelets and necklaces? Maybe.

My DD is turning 13 this year. She has not touched a crayon in years. They are trying to be mini adults now. I think they might like to plan their own party at this age but limits would have to be set on the cost and the activities.

Parents shouldn't let them be mini adults.

There is a whole spectrum between preschool crafts and adult parties. It doesn’t have to be one or the other.

Why are you hating on a craft party? Girls love that sort of thing!

All crafts are not the same. Obviously. Come on. Making their own snow globes, bracelets, jewelry, bags, or just about anything else is better than construction paper and markers. That’s just a bad idea. Get over it.

You are just so unimaginative. The girls can make anything with paper, crayons, markers, glue, etc.

Ok you do that for your next teen party in 10 years when your baby grows up.

I’ve done these types of parties for my girls and their friends and it’s been a hit.

Uh huh, sure. You had parties for teens with scissors, construction paper and glue sticks. Tell me another one.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are so many ok with their kids having toktok?

Good Q.

Allowing TikTok is negligent parenting.

Most middle schoolers that my kid knows don’t actually have TikTok. But the most popular dances show up on someone’s YouTube. And then they teach other. Even kids with virtually no tech is sixth grade are learning TikTok dances from friends.

[Anonymous]

My daughter is having 9 girls over for a sleepover for her 13bday party next weekend. Some things on the agenda are a piñata (we did that last year and it was a big hit) and a sundae bar.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is having 9 girls over for a sleepover for her 13bday party next weekend. Some things on the agenda are a piñata (we did that last year and it was a big hit) and a sundae bar.

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We had something similar - we did crafts together and then had cake and pizza.