7 yo who hurts parent to express anger

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP said he is not hitting her, he is digging his chin into her when he is hugging her.

… which means he’s deliberately doing it to hurt her, not hitting out of frustration or anger.

You don’t understand ADHD and proprioception.

[Anonymous]

OP, I don’t want to scare you, but the fact that at 7 your son is retaliating with violence to normal parenting requests or directions is concerning. This could signal that he is at risk of a Cluster B diagnosis in the future. You need to find skilled therapists because if that’s what is happening, early intervention can make a tremendous impact.

Whatever is going on, responding with violence to normal limits is a serious problem. The sooner you get good help, the better.

[Anonymous]

Kid just "accidentally on purpose" hurts someone, habitually? Thinks it's cool, pretends it didn't happen?
Kid will end up in jail.
Think about doing that to a smaller child. Pet. Own child. Date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don’t want to scare you, but the fact that at 7 your son is retaliating with violence to normal parenting requests or directions is concerning. This could signal that he is at risk of a Cluster B diagnosis in the future. You need to find skilled therapists because if that’s what is happening, early intervention can make a tremendous impact.

Whatever is going on, responding with violence to normal limits is a serious problem. The sooner you get good help, the better.

If you aren’t trying to scare her, you should stop posting alarmist things.

In the unlikely event this was true, interventions wouldn’t work. But it’s unlikely that child is a psychopath.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don’t want to scare you, but the fact that at 7 your son is retaliating with violence to normal parenting requests or directions is concerning. This could signal that he is at risk of a Cluster B diagnosis in the future. You need to find skilled therapists because if that’s what is happening, early intervention can make a tremendous impact.

Whatever is going on, responding with violence to normal limits is a serious problem. The sooner you get good help, the better.

If you aren’t trying to scare her, you should stop posting alarmist things.

In the unlikely event this was true, interventions wouldn’t work. But it’s unlikely that child is a psychopath.

I dunno, the kid I know of who beats up on his mom is kind of disturbing to watch. I don’t think he is a psychopath but he certainly seems to be getting the idea that it’s ok to hurt women when they won’t hit back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don’t want to scare you, but the fact that at 7 your son is retaliating with violence to normal parenting requests or directions is concerning. This could signal that he is at risk of a Cluster B diagnosis in the future. You need to find skilled therapists because if that’s what is happening, early intervention can make a tremendous impact.

Whatever is going on, responding with violence to normal limits is a serious problem. The sooner you get good help, the better.

If you aren’t trying to scare her, you should stop posting alarmist things.

In the unlikely event this was true, interventions wouldn’t work. But it’s unlikely that child is a psychopath.

You are incorrect. Although for a long time the thinking was that Cluster B disorders were untreatable, we now know that isn’t the case, especially with early intervention. Cluster B encompasses multiple diagnoses, not just psychopathy. But even psychopathy can be mitigated, or perhaps averted. The important facts here are not so much the label as that recognizing the seriousness of the problem and addressing it with a well qualified therapy team is critical.

You sound like the type that would ignore big red flags and shrug them off. When a child of 7 reacts to normal limits with violence, something is wrong. The sooner it’s addressed the better the outcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don’t want to scare you, but the fact that at 7 your son is retaliating with violence to normal parenting requests or directions is concerning. This could signal that he is at risk of a Cluster B diagnosis in the future. You need to find skilled therapists because if that’s what is happening, early intervention can make a tremendous impact.

Whatever is going on, responding with violence to normal limits is a serious problem. The sooner you get good help, the better.

If you aren’t trying to scare her, you should stop posting alarmist things.

In the unlikely event this was true, interventions wouldn’t work. But it’s unlikely that child is a psychopath.

You are incorrect. Although for a long time the thinking was that Cluster B disorders were untreatable, we now know that isn’t the case, especially with early intervention. Cluster B encompasses multiple diagnoses, not just psychopathy. But even psychopathy can be mitigated, or perhaps averted. The important facts here are not so much the label as that recognizing the seriousness of the problem and addressing it with a well qualified therapy team is critical.

You sound like the type that would ignore big red flags and shrug them off. When a child of 7 reacts to normal limits with violence, something is wrong. The sooner it’s addressed the better the outcome.

Nope. I worked hard with my kid to redirect that energy. It took time but he’s well past that now. Earlier I advocated for mild restraint and clear limits on any physical aggression.

You are jumping to the worst case scenario and I think you’re being mean on purpose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don’t want to scare you, but the fact that at 7 your son is retaliating with violence to normal parenting requests or directions is concerning. This could signal that he is at risk of a Cluster B diagnosis in the future. You need to find skilled therapists because if that’s what is happening, early intervention can make a tremendous impact.

Whatever is going on, responding with violence to normal limits is a serious problem. The sooner you get good help, the better.

If you aren’t trying to scare her, you should stop posting alarmist things.

In the unlikely event this was true, interventions wouldn’t work. But it’s unlikely that child is a psychopath.

You are incorrect. Although for a long time the thinking was that Cluster B disorders were untreatable, we now know that isn’t the case, especially with early intervention. Cluster B encompasses multiple diagnoses, not just psychopathy. But even psychopathy can be mitigated, or perhaps averted. The important facts here are not so much the label as that recognizing the seriousness of the problem and addressing it with a well qualified therapy team is critical.

You sound like the type that would ignore big red flags and shrug them off. When a child of 7 reacts to normal limits with violence, something is wrong. The sooner it’s addressed the better the outcome.

Nope. I worked hard with my kid to redirect that energy. It took time but he’s well past that now. Earlier I advocated for mild restraint and clear limits on any physical aggression.

You are jumping to the worst case scenario and I think you’re being mean on purpose.

I’m not being mean at all. I think OP needs help with this problem and I hope for a good outcome for her family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don’t want to scare you, but the fact that at 7 your son is retaliating with violence to normal parenting requests or directions is concerning. This could signal that he is at risk of a Cluster B diagnosis in the future. You need to find skilled therapists because if that’s what is happening, early intervention can make a tremendous impact.

Whatever is going on, responding with violence to normal limits is a serious problem. The sooner you get good help, the better.

If you aren’t trying to scare her, you should stop posting alarmist things.

In the unlikely event this was true, interventions wouldn’t work. But it’s unlikely that child is a psychopath.

You are incorrect. Although for a long time the thinking was that Cluster B disorders were untreatable, we now know that isn’t the case, especially with early intervention. Cluster B encompasses multiple diagnoses, not just psychopathy. But even psychopathy can be mitigated, or perhaps averted. The important facts here are not so much the label as that recognizing the seriousness of the problem and addressing it with a well qualified therapy team is critical.

You sound like the type that would ignore big red flags and shrug them off. When a child of 7 reacts to normal limits with violence, something is wrong. The sooner it’s addressed the better the outcome.

Nope. I worked hard with my kid to redirect that energy. It took time but he’s well past that now. Earlier I advocated for mild restraint and clear limits on any physical aggression.

You are jumping to the worst case scenario and I think you’re being mean on purpose.

DP. There’s a reason people react strongly to this - because it’s disturbing to see a kid that knows better deliberately hurting his mother and the mother failing to discipline. It’s a kind of social censure that arises quite instinctively because we all want this kind of antisocial behavior nipped in the bud.