If your marriage is a sham, do your friends know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you finally admit things, you will probably be shocked at how many people could tell. They are just being polite.

This happened to me. Toward the end, people would tell me to my face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My partner asked for a divorce a year ago. I asked to work on things, but she’s been very half hearted in her efforts (we are both women). We have almost no conflict, but also almost no connection—she’s an introvert who loves the outdoors so she spends lots of time alone. I think she’s just over me and the marriage.

I think we will likely end up divorced, but I really do want to make it work for our kid. I would hate to see her only 50% of her childhood. Ugh. For now, I feel like I’m delaying the inevitable so that I can have a few more months or years giving my kid a childhood in one home.

Most of my friends think we have a great relationship. They idealize the same sex marriage model because we really do split parenting and household stuff pretty equally.

I feel so lonely and dishonest with my friends because they don’t know about the biggest stressor in my life.

OP behave exactly like the women on this form do. Find an affair partner! I am sure they will chear you on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FYI - men don't talk about their marriages. That is solely a woman thing. None of my friends or family know that I'm in a dead marriage.

They do. If men are in a setting where they are talking about their personal problems, they will talk about their marriages as much as financial problems or problems with their kids or elderly parents. Men have feelings.

Not true. We don't talk about our marriages period even to closest friends. And when we randomly do we leave out so many details. Women on the other hand talk about their feeling their life to whoever listens and cares. And good for them because it makes the divorce process easier for them to cope with. Men and women deal with feelings differently. And that's okay we are different