Adult sleepovers, why are they not fun for me?

[Anonymous]

Eh, we've done this a few times but not locally, within a 1-3 hour drive at a beach or other vacation house someone in the group owns. Everyone arrives in the evening, we go out to a local restaurant, come back to the house for games, drinks/etc. (optional) and bingwatching the latest, then get up and have brunch the next morning and all go home. It's a lot of fun as a 1x per year event. Can't imagine doing it more frequently and locally, but to each their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was something that one would do in 6th grade!

My besties and I have been doing this since 6th grade and still do/ late 40s.

You all share a bed? Mmkay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was something that one would do in 6th grade!

My besties and I have been doing this since 6th grade and still do/ late 40s.

You all share a bed? Mmkay.

Not the homeowner since we have husbands but since there’s only 3 bedrooms yes some of us share. 1 night no big deal. We stay up giggling like we did as teens. Good for the soul.

[Anonymous]

You and your friends sound incredibly immature. Wow.

[Anonymous]

A question about the bed sharing -- where is the DH in this scenario.

Like is it someone hosting 2-3 friends at her house and then she sleeps in her own bed with her DH and the rest of you crowd into the guest bed or is her DH out of town or sleeping in the guest room while you all share the master bed. I think this is weird. I could see a situation where you occasionally have one friend over and she sleeps in the guest room or on the couch (though I don't understand why someone with kids and a DH and a house of her own would choose to do that -- I don't meant to sound sentimental but I would miss my family sleeping over at a friends house when I was that close to my own house).

But I don't get the sleepover dynamic with shared beds when you are a married adult. I know my DH would not be cool with being booted to the couch or a guest room so I could sleep in a bed with my girlfriends. It's weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one does this.

Who else think this is some pervy guys fantasy here?

"After we take off our bras, we braid each other's hair!"

Why the comments about men when this is clearly all women posting about this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A question about the bed sharing -- where is the DH in this scenario.

Like is it someone hosting 2-3 friends at her house and then she sleeps in her own bed with her DH and the rest of you crowd into the guest bed or is her DH out of town or sleeping in the guest room while you all share the master bed. I think this is weird. I could see a situation where you occasionally have one friend over and she sleeps in the guest room or on the couch (though I don't understand why someone with kids and a DH and a house of her own would choose to do that -- I don't meant to sound sentimental but I would miss my family sleeping over at a friends house when I was that close to my own house).

But I don't get the sleepover dynamic with shared beds when you are a married adult. I know my DH would not be cool with being booted to the couch or a guest room so I could sleep in a bed with my girlfriends. It's weird.

I’m Not OP but when my friends and I do this, the host sleeps in their own bed with DH. The rest of us split the guestrooms and may have to share a bed with each other. It’s really not that big of a deal for one night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is weird and I have not heard of anyone doing this locally as an adult.

Same.

[Anonymous]

None of you go on girls trips and share a hotel room?

[Anonymous]

None of the women have kids? We do this once a year at a friends house who does NOT have kids and has lots of space. But definitely not monthly or at anyone else’s house.

[Anonymous]

My female friends (all in our 40s) would put 2 women in a king bed, but any other bed size is considered a single. 2 grown women are not sharing a queen. We’re all fine with sleeping in twins.

So it definitely depends on the beds. We’ve all realized no one wants to share a queen bed at this point in our lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My female friends (all in our 40s) would put 2 women in a king bed, but any other bed size is considered a single. 2 grown women are not sharing a queen. We’re all fine with sleeping in twins.

So it definitely depends on the beds. We’ve all realized no one wants to share a queen bed at this point in our lives.

We share a queen when needed but we’re petite so maybe that’s the difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My female friends (all in our 40s) would put 2 women in a king bed, but any other bed size is considered a single. 2 grown women are not sharing a queen. We’re all fine with sleeping in twins.

So it definitely depends on the beds. We’ve all realized no one wants to share a queen bed at this point in our lives.

Is once a year enough to keep your cycles in sync?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friends love spending the night together at one/another’s homes. This is often for fun, not drinking (half the group does not drink). They watch movies, play board games, eat, share a bed, and then go to brunch the next day. Majority of our group are moms, two are not which depending on the house could be quiet or not.

Maybe it’s squeezing into a crowded bed, but I just have not enjoyed these occasions. Depending on the home, some have dogs that also crawl into the bed or lick and slobber on you while sleeping or awake. Overall, I’ve never enjoyed sleepovers as an adult but do this for them. I wish I could have more fun, they all seem to love this.

Make friends with sane people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was something that one would do in 6th grade!

My besties and I have been doing this since 6th grade and still do/ late 40s.

Do you spoon each other?