Beach house with nephew

[Anonymous]

I would have punished this kid at the first mistake. I would enforce bedtime, confiscate electronics at night and hide all my chargers and devices. Punish for jump scare. Etc.

You seem scared of your sister, but you shouldn’t be. Parent that little brat!

[Anonymous]

tire him out. get them all exercise. morning sunrise at the beach, walk to ice cream shop. make him so tired he behaves and goes to bed early

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:tire him out. get them all exercise. morning sunrise at the beach, walk to ice cream shop. make him so tired he behaves and goes to bed early

Careful with that - some kids behave worse when they're tired and they get hyper because they are pushing themselves to fight the tiredness.

[Anonymous]

So the surprise was you expected the 15 and 11 year old but got just the 11 year old? Probably a huge blessing honestly. If the surprise was you expected your sister and her husband to come with their kids and instead got just one kid- that’s insane. I’d have left the day I planned on leaving!! “Oh he is flying in tomorrow? Alone? Well we are leaving today. I can’t take an extra child with no parents. Tell mom to cancel the flight”

[Anonymous]

You and spousr should be laying down the law. Why are you not when your own children were taught how to behave? I'm not buying that a vegetarian would add real sausage to a meal when there are nonmeat sausage substitutes. This thread sounds either exaggerated or fake.

[Anonymous]

I don't believe this scenario AT ALL. Sibling's family has plans to go to a beach house for a week then cancels but expects other sibling to fly their children out so they can go. One child refuses to go so OP agrees to have just the one nephew join them. In what universe?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't believe this scenario AT ALL. Sibling's family has plans to go to a beach house for a week then cancels but expects other sibling to fly their children out so they can go. One child refuses to go so OP agrees to have just the one nephew join them. In what universe?

If true, combined with nephews acting out, sounds like the kids did not want to come without their parents but parents wanted child care. 15yo begged out of it but 11yo still had to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We rented a beach house with my sister’s family for the week. My sister and her husband changed their mind about going and we’re going to fly their kids to our house to go with us. Their older son (age 15) talked them into letting him stay home to play with his friends, so we have their younger son, age 11 with us.

My kids are 8 (DS) and 10 (DD). My nephew keeps teasing my daughter that she has spiders and bees on her back.

My nephew has a phone, but didn’t bring his charger, so I let him use mine. Nephew somehow broke my charger. I got the car charger and let him use it last night, then plugged mine in this morning. Nephew got up, unplugged my phone, which was at 38%, and plugged his back in. Between 8 pm and 8 am he’d worn down all his battery.

Nephew keeps making late-night phone calls to friends and last night woke us all up with his loud conversation.

I’m not sure how many rules I can give Nephew. My sister said he should go to bed by 11 pm, but my kids go to bed at 8 pm, and I go to bed at 10 pm.

Nephew likes to jump out at me and scare me. Last night he did it while I was taking lasagna out of the oven. I dropped the lasagna on the floor, but most of it stayed in the dish. Nephew thought it was hilarious.

My family eats mostly vegetables, but I know my nephew doesn’t. My sister often comments that she weighs over 250 pounds. So, one night I made sausages with onions and peppers. Nephew ate only the sausages. My kids ate the peppers and onions and complained that the sausages were too greasy and made their stomachs feel weird. I made a blueberry-brioche bread pudding for breakfast this morning and Nephew wrinkled his nose, saying, “Gross! What is that!”

I don’t think it’s fair for my sister to just dump her son on me for the week. We were already paying 75% of the beach house cost because my sister doesn’t make as much - and my mom paid his 25%. I just think this arrangement isn’t great.

Looking for tips on getting through the rest of the week with Nephew. How much can I tell him to leave my DD alone, how much can I expect him to eat our food, or do I need to keep adjusting to his food tastes and still listen to his rude comments?

Take him to McDonald's and "accidentally" leave him there.
Rig a phone charger so that it shocks him or burns up his phone when he tries to us it.
Get a snake from local pet store, put in his bed at night, and have your daughter wake him up saying "there's a snake in your bed!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We rented a beach house with my sister’s family for the week. My sister and her husband changed their mind about going and we’re going to fly their kids to our house to go with us. Their older son (age 15) talked them into letting him stay home to play with his friends, so we have their younger son, age 11 with us.

My kids are 8 (DS) and 10 (DD). My nephew keeps teasing my daughter that she has spiders and bees on her back.

My nephew has a phone, but didn’t bring his charger, so I let him use mine. Nephew somehow broke my charger. I got the car charger and let him use it last night, then plugged mine in this morning. Nephew got up, unplugged my phone, which was at 38%, and plugged his back in. Between 8 pm and 8 am he’d worn down all his battery.

Nephew keeps making late-night phone calls to friends and last night woke us all up with his loud conversation.

I’m not sure how many rules I can give Nephew. My sister said he should go to bed by 11 pm, but my kids go to bed at 8 pm, and I go to bed at 10 pm.

Nephew likes to jump out at me and scare me. Last night he did it while I was taking lasagna out of the oven. I dropped the lasagna on the floor, but most of it stayed in the dish. Nephew thought it was hilarious.

My family eats mostly vegetables, but I know my nephew doesn’t. My sister often comments that she weighs over 250 pounds. So, one night I made sausages with onions and peppers. Nephew ate only the sausages. My kids ate the peppers and onions and complained that the sausages were too greasy and made their stomachs feel weird. I made a blueberry-brioche bread pudding for breakfast this morning and Nephew wrinkled his nose, saying, “Gross! What is that!”

I don’t think it’s fair for my sister to just dump her son on me for the week. We were already paying 75% of the beach house cost because my sister doesn’t make as much - and my mom paid his 25%. I just think this arrangement isn’t great.

Looking for tips on getting through the rest of the week with Nephew. How much can I tell him to leave my DD alone, how much can I expect him to eat our food, or do I need to keep adjusting to his food tastes and still listen to his rude comments?

Take him to McDonald's and "accidentally" leave him there.
Rig a phone charger so that it shocks him or burns up his phone when he tries to us it.
Get a snake from local pet store, put in his bed at night, and have your daughter wake him up saying "there's a snake in your bed!"

Seriously, remove the battery out of his phone when he's not looking.
It will drive him nuts at to why his phone will not charge.

[Anonymous]

This all on you OP. Just say no and your house. Your rules. Make him never want to come back

[Anonymous]

OP here. I had a couple good interactions with Nephew.

1. I asked him what vegetable he’d like for dinner and he requested broccoli! I can do broccoli!

2. Nephew has a cut and 8 stitches on his hand from water skiing last week. His bandage fell off, so he asked me for help getting a new one. I put on some ointment and bandaged it up. He exclaimed, “Wow! You take such good care of me! Thank you!”

So, I think there’s hope for this trip to go okay.

[Anonymous]

You need to act like an adult. Simply tell your nephew to cut it out. lf he can't behave send him home. It really is that simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I had a couple good interactions with Nephew.

1. I asked him what vegetable he’d like for dinner and he requested broccoli! I can do broccoli!

2. Nephew has a cut and 8 stitches on his hand from water skiing last week. His bandage fell off, so he asked me for help getting a new one. I put on some ointment and bandaged it up. He exclaimed, “Wow! You take such good care of me! Thank you!”

So, I think there’s hope for this trip to go okay.

Yay for good interactions! Given the behavior and the story it sure sounds like no one’s taking care of him at home. Just make sure to give him the boundaries too.

[Anonymous]

A kid is a kid. Inform him of a few basic rules that you expect him to follow and enforce.

I would be upset with the sister and not the nephew in this scenario. A vacation with sister’s family is quite different from adding her preteen on your vacation. Those things need to be discussed in advance not sprung on you without you having any day in it.

[Anonymous]

You take the charger into your room at night to charge your phone. If he runs through his charge, he does without it the rest of the night. You tell him to stop scaring you and DD each time STERNLY. This is not hard.