Dating market frustrating me

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you fat though? Tell us your BMI and we'll tell you what's really going on.

I don't think Asian men would be into her if she was fat.

An incel would be into any female physique.

Most single Asian men fit the incel stereotype. Maybe there’s something to this.

I think Asian men have the highest marriage rates out of any ethnicity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. In still pictures I look like a blonde sorority girl, but I’m actually very technical/quantitative and my interests and hobbies are very “nerdy tech guy” and not at all “pilates and tennis PTA mom”. My demeanor and vibe isn’t feminine and nurturing at all. The huge mismatch between who people expect me to be based on appearance and who I actually am is kind of distressing because some men will abruptly lose interest once they figure it out and the men who might actually be into it won’t bother to approach me. I honestly have no idea how to present myself in a way that would fix that, because I’m a pretty conventional person and anything edgy would feel like a costume, like I’m not going out dressed like girl with the dragon tattoo.

I’m a pta mom who has 3 tennis kids. I don’t play tennis but I have the physique. I really don’t think guys look for this. They meet a woman and either find her or attractive or not. Single women are so odd over analyzing this.

I live in an affluent neighborhood and there are many different types of women who all look very different. I do think most of the women are well educated, not fat and above average looking. DH noticed that our more affluent neighborhood has not fat people. Our country club has no fat people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you fat though? Tell us your BMI and we'll tell you what's really going on.

I don't think Asian men would be into her if she was fat.

An incel would be into any female physique.

Most single Asian men fit the incel stereotype. Maybe there’s something to this.

I think Asian men have the highest marriage rates out of any ethnicity

There are so many different types of Asians and within the different Asians, there are many levels of SES. Asians can be extremely classist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you fat though? Tell us your BMI and we'll tell you what's really going on.

I don't think Asian men would be into her if she was fat.

An incel would be into any female physique.

Most single Asian men fit the incel stereotype. Maybe there’s something to this.

I think Asian men have the highest marriage rates out of any ethnicity

It’s true. Asian couples stay together, make the most money and successful kids.

I’m a white guy and the best gf I had post divorce was an Asian woman. She was active and athletic. Too bad she had to move for her job.

Dating white girls is the worst. Most are entitled and think they deserve Nobel peace prizes because they sue a BLM supporter tag in their social media profile.

I tend to be attracted to Asian and Latin women the most. My gf is from Peru and she’s amazing and feminine. A 10/10 and younger than me and still in her 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get into skiing or snowboarding. Total sausage fest and these guys all have money. It’s an expensive hobby. And many of the guys won’t get involved with a woman if she’s not into the sport. A guy who skies 50+ days per year will pick skiing over a non-skiing woman 99% of the time.

Get thee to a ski resort this upcoming winter.

I'm not sure a guy who skis 50 days a year would make a good father...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you fat though? Tell us your BMI and we'll tell you what's really going on.

I don't think Asian men would be into her if she was fat.

An incel would be into any female physique.

Most single Asian men fit the incel stereotype. Maybe there’s something to this.

I think Asian men have the highest marriage rates out of any ethnicity

It’s true. Asian couples stay together, make the most money and successful kids.

I’m a white guy and the best gf I had post divorce was an Asian woman. She was active and athletic. Too bad she had to move for her job.

Dating white girls is the worst. Most are entitled and think they deserve Nobel peace prizes because they sue a BLM supporter tag in their social media profile.

I tend to be attracted to Asian and Latin women the most. My gf is from Peru and she’s amazing and feminine. A 10/10 and younger than me and still in her 20s.

Is "my gf" what you call the picture you drew on your hand, or a chatbot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you fat though? Tell us your BMI and we'll tell you what's really going on.

I don't think Asian men would be into her if she was fat.

An incel would be into any female physique.

Most single Asian men fit the incel stereotype. Maybe there’s something to this.

I think Asian men have the highest marriage rates out of any ethnicity

It’s true. Asian couples stay together, make the most money and successful kids.

I’m a white guy and the best gf I had post divorce was an Asian woman. She was active and athletic. Too bad she had to move for her job.

Dating white girls is the worst. Most are entitled and think they deserve Nobel peace prizes because they sue a BLM supporter tag in their social media profile.

I tend to be attracted to Asian and Latin women the most. My gf is from Peru and she’s amazing and feminine. A 10/10 and younger than me and still in her 20s.

Is "my gf" what you call the picture you drew on your hand, or a chatbot?

DP here, but when I saw their post, I was pretty sure at least one angry/jealous DCUM woman would come on here and ridicule them. I was not wrong!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you fat though? Tell us your BMI and we'll tell you what's really going on.

I don't think Asian men would be into her if she was fat.

An incel would be into any female physique.

Most single Asian men fit the incel stereotype. Maybe there’s something to this.

I think Asian men have the highest marriage rates out of any ethnicity

It’s true. Asian couples stay together, make the most money and successful kids.

I’m a white guy and the best gf I had post divorce was an Asian woman. She was active and athletic. Too bad she had to move for her job.

Dating white girls is the worst. Most are entitled and think they deserve Nobel peace prizes because they sue a BLM supporter tag in their social media profile.

I tend to be attracted to Asian and Latin women the most. My gf is from Peru and she’s amazing and feminine. A 10/10 and younger than me and still in her 20s.

Yea good luck as a Black dude with a girl form SA.


They are racist as hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you fat though? Tell us your BMI and we'll tell you what's really going on.

I don't think Asian men would be into her if she was fat.

An incel would be into any female physique.

Most single Asian men fit the incel stereotype. Maybe there’s something to this.

I think Asian men have the highest marriage rates out of any ethnicity

It’s true. Asian couples stay together, make the most money and successful kids.

I’m a white guy and the best gf I had post divorce was an Asian woman. She was active and athletic. Too bad she had to move for her job.

Dating white girls is the worst. Most are entitled and think they deserve Nobel peace prizes because they sue a BLM supporter tag in their social media profile.

I tend to be attracted to Asian and Latin women the most. My gf is from Peru and she’s amazing and feminine. A 10/10 and younger than me and still in her 20s.

Yea good luck as a Black dude with a girl form SA.


They are racist as hell.

A lot of other places are racist as hell. Go to Europe. Spain was really racist. I’m not a black guy but was traveling with a team of guys and a few were black guys. The locals there were racist AF and made very racist gestures.

I did some work with some guys in a Caribbean country and had a Korean-American with us who was American…they all called him Chinaman. Guy was just as American as the rest of us but they didn’t see it that way.

I don’t see this kind of stuff in most of the US, UK and Canada. Not saying it doesn’t happen but honestly I have to really get unlucky and see it. And as many times as I have travelled and done work in those countries I’m telling you I just don’t see it happening.

As for dating someone from SA, my brother is marrying a Colombian woman. She seems great but is from an area that has a lot of Afro-Colombians. She’s not but a lot there are, so it isn’t ah issue for her. I’ve never been to SA myself so not sure what it’s like but I do know Central Americans don’t like each other very much. Or do they like Panamanians or Colombians. Odd how that works.

As for me personally I tend to date Asian women with Korean or Vietnamese backgrounds. It seems to be who is attracted to me. If their parents are “traditional” (I.e racist) you can see issues there. But a lot of my generation and younger don’t tend to be like that. And to be honest I like the fact they’re not into a bunch of “social” activism like women from certain groups here are. I also dated a woman from Bulgaria and that was a whole different thing, but at least she was really good looking, just stressed me out with her nonsense sometimes

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. In still pictures I look like a blonde sorority girl, but I’m actually very technical/quantitative and my interests and hobbies are very “nerdy tech guy” and not at all “pilates and tennis PTA mom”. My demeanor and vibe isn’t feminine and nurturing at all. The huge mismatch between who people expect me to be based on appearance and who I actually am is kind of distressing because some men will abruptly lose interest once they figure it out and the men who might actually be into it won’t bother to approach me. I honestly have no idea how to present myself in a way that would fix that, because I’m a pretty conventional person and anything edgy would feel like a costume, like I’m not going out dressed like girl with the dragon tattoo.

Just put on a tee-shirt with the Linux penguin. It's not complicated.

Or the BSD devil if you’re really wanting to give off the “too cool for too cool for school” vibe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I seem to attract introverted, “nerdy” men.

What exactly is wrong with an introverted nerd? If you take the time to get to know him, you might find that he is a good man of substance who may not outwardly advertise himself, but "still waters run deep", and they might take better care of you in the long term.

Nerds are simply people who care so deeply about something that they will devote a substantial part of their life digging into it. If you can attract his attention, you will find that once he starts caring about you he will devote a substantial part of his life digging deep into you.

Introverts only talk when they have something meaningful to say, while extroverts are constantly yapping about nothing in particular just to hear themselves talk. Introverts are lacking in the social skills that extroverts acquire so easily, so you might have to expend some effort to break through the protective barrier that they have erected around themselves, but many women who have done so will tell you that they would never trade in their "nerd" for a more outgoing guy.

[Anonymous]

I think that it’s a numbers game: for every marriageable, marriage-minded, eligible men there have to be at least ten similarly eligible women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I seem to attract introverted, “nerdy” men.

What exactly is wrong with an introverted nerd? If you take the time to get to know him, you might find that he is a good man of substance who may not outwardly advertise himself, but "still waters run deep", and they might take better care of you in the long term.

Nerds are simply people who care so deeply about something that they will devote a substantial part of their life digging into it. If you can attract his attention, you will find that once he starts caring about you he will devote a substantial part of his life digging deep into you.

Introverts only talk when they have something meaningful to say, while extroverts are constantly yapping about nothing in particular just to hear themselves talk. Introverts are lacking in the social skills that extroverts acquire so easily, so you might have to expend some effort to break through the protective barrier that they have erected around themselves, but many women who have done so will tell you that they would never trade in their "nerd" for a more outgoing guy.

Right, so, "contempt for extroverts" would be a good reason to not date introverts, for instance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that it’s a numbers game: for every marriageable, marriage-minded, eligible men there have to be at least ten similarly eligible women.

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Right, so, "contempt for extroverts" would be a good reason to not date introverts, for instance.

Date whomever you want, but if you reject a guy for being introverted, you just might be missing out on your perfect match.