
Ugh. The smell would be awful. We have a kid who keeps having poop accidents in the 2s room and the whole room smells. Easy way to spread disease too. |
OP how are the diapers supposed to be changed? Wouldn’t a 5 year old feel embarrassed to come to school in diapers?
I think this is likely an outgrowth of the “gentle parenting” trend that advises “wait until the child shows signs of readiness.” While it’s true that most kids will on their own display interest in using the potty, some small percentage need to be taught. Another small percentage of parents may actually undermine potty training by being unable to handle any discomfort in their child. I know that without the “Oh Crap” method and the expectation that my child would be potty trained for public PK3, he probably would have been one of those kids who never learned until well into 4, maybe 5. |
I feel bad for the kids. Their parents are allowing anxiety to rule their lives and sending them to K in diapers will only make the anxiety worse. I have enough empathy for the kids to know that their parents failed them. I'm surprised the kids were deemed ready for kindergarten. |
Why is a 2 yr old having regular poop accidents not just wearing diapers? He isn't potty trained, which is actually okay, as he is two. You sound like someone who really should not be working in a daycare. But in any case, OP is is a kindergarten teacher, it's a totally different deal. It's reasonable for OP to balk at diapers in her classroom. It is not reasonable for you! It's your job. |
Exactly. You don’t accomodate child anxiety by keeping them in diapers until 5. |
Np. This whole thread is about kids without disabilities who are not potty trained in Kindergarten. You're talking about a different subject entirely. |
Yes- sorry, you’re right. The ones who first come to me and don’t know what the problem is are of course not lazy, they just don’t know. I’m speaking of the ones who know, but think it’s unnecessary to keep with the regimen or say they don’t like miralax because they’ve heard of side effects or they say it’s too much work to keep this up. Those parents are the ones with 11 year olds still having leaking stools and they are throwing their arms up wondering why. |
I had a late training kid (still trained at 3 but only just and it was a long, miserable slog that involved consulting specialists) so I guess I'm more inclined to be generous here.
Obviously diapers in K is a different deal but so many of these responses are making these harsh assumptions that I just do not think you can assume. When we were struggling with potty training, I know people judged us harshly, assumed we were lazy, assumed we were indulgent, etc. But I know this isn't the case because while we struggled mightily with potty training, our kid is conscientious, well-behaved, rarely watches screens, etc. Like we're doing great on a lot of parenting metrics. But for a variety of reasons, potty training was just tough for our family. Oh well. Nobody's perfect. For that reason, I'd extend grace to these families and keep an open mind. They might not be what you expect. Obviously diapers in K isn't great. Three in one grade is surprising. But there may be more to it than what you assume, and approaching these parents with the assumption they are terrible parents probably won't serve you long term working with these kids. |
I am a parent who trained my kids at 3 in a couple days, and a former preschool teacher so I know a lot of kids training timelines. The kids I know who had trouble with withholding and constipation all had parents who started early, and ran into difficulties. When they were struggling at 3, people often assumed the issue was leaving it till 3, but when we problem solved at school and they walked us through it was “well we first tried at 20 months . . .” My guess is the same would be true for some of these kids, while others have medical or developmental disabilities that aren’t diagnosed yet. |
Given that all three kids have 504’s someone has diagnosed them with a disability. |
+1 Gentle parenting advocates claim they are in favor of strong boundaries. And im sure some people are doing that. But in this screen-addled, processed food laden society, most parents are thinking they can’t discipline at all and are not doing so. I fell into this trap with my oldest so I get it. We need to swing back toward being more strict. That does not mean hitting or screaming, but it means shaping our kids behaviors much more firmly. There are broader issues here as the food supply is making children ill. Look at the rise in colon cancer! I’ve dealt with chronic constipation before after being trained for two years! It was so difficult. |
I posted up thread about how my kid trained just shy of 4 years old and it was a long and arduous experience, and I agree with this. We started training before 2 and in retrospect it was too early. We did Oh Crap and it went very badly and we assumed it was user error in our part, so we tried again. At that point our then 2.5 yrs old dug in her heels and decided she would never use the potty, and the next year and a half was mildly torturous. I absolutely wish I had not caved to pressure to potty train right at 2 and had been more relaxed about it. I think we made it harder than it needed to be by feeling time pressured and trying to force it. |
This fall’s kindergarteners were 1-2 when the school lockdown ended. This is not because of Covid. |
The person I replied to said that no one, disability or otherwise, should be allowed in a mainstream classroom unless they can use the bathroom independently. |
It was only pee and due to anxiety for me. You're right that poop would be very different. That's info we don't have and a good question---how many of those in diapers are in diapers for the occasional pee accident versus a kid regularly pooping. |