Ladies, wound you reach out first?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PS-- watching you on social media means nothing. If it is an Instagram story, they just scroll to the next person you are following.

I check to see if an ex is still alive occasionally because he was an alcoholic, but we haven't spoken in 2 years and I have no desire to get together again, or even text a hello.

He glanced over my dating profile

Means nothing.

OP here - yes I do think it means nothing. The guy is certainly very spoilt by female attention. That was one of the reasons I didn’t want to jump into that trap, even though he thought I was a beauty, took me out etc. I’m not desperate - getting quality dates, screening people etc. It’s not the end of the world - he can text, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He wanted sex. You did not. He has not reached out for more than that. This is not going anywhere. Move on.

This! A guy interested in you is not going to drop you because you didn’t sleep with him right away (or even a month into things). Guaranteed, OP. Take it from this 45 year old happily married woman who lived it up until her early 30s. No man worth your time is going to leave if you don’t offer sex on his timetable.

OP here - I decided not to follow up. I don’t get any satisfaction from ONS, usually takes a month to build it up physically with a partner who is attentive etc.

The fact he didn’t reach out since mid Feb tells me he thinks something is not right for LTR, or his circumstances still don’t allow a LTR.

If he texts me himself (which takes a few seconds), I’ll seize the opportunity and certainly will sleep with him the first evening I see him again.

You were seeing someone else if he checked your profile and saw pictures of you with the other guy would he reach out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He wanted sex. You did not. He has not reached out for more than that. This is not going anywhere. Move on.

This! A guy interested in you is not going to drop you because you didn’t sleep with him right away (or even a month into things). Guaranteed, OP. Take it from this 45 year old happily married woman who lived it up until her early 30s. No man worth your time is going to leave if you don’t offer sex on his timetable.

OP here - I decided not to follow up. I don’t get any satisfaction from ONS, usually takes a month to build it up physically with a partner who is attentive etc.

The fact he didn’t reach out since mid Feb tells me he thinks something is not right for LTR, or his circumstances still don’t allow a LTR.

If he texts me himself (which takes a few seconds), I’ll seize the opportunity and certainly will sleep with him the first evening I see him again.

You were seeing someone else if he checked your profile and saw pictures of you with the other guy would he reach out?

He checked my dating profile, which doesn't have any pictures with other guy(s). I also don't post any "dating updates" on Facebook. I didn't date anyone exclusively or slept with anyone after he had left for the trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^Ugh — do men really fade if you say you only want sex in the context of a relationship/ exclusive situation?

Any guy who steps away if I say that is welcome to go. Someone who really likes me is not going to leave.

+1

I wholeheartedly have to agree. 👍🏽

[Anonymous]

Another reminder on how why do I get the feeling there will always be any quality in courtship or in the way relationships are formed between the two sexes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another reminder on how why do I get the feeling there will always be any quality in courtship or in the way relationships are formed between the two sexes

What

[Anonymous]

OP, did you reach out? We need an update.