Is it worse to lie about your age or how many people you slept with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know my age and never lie about it but I don’t know the number of guys I slept with. I’ve been married 35 years so my dating years is a real blur. I had a pretty wild life in the early 80s and I’ve done my best to forget a lot of it. My husband has never asked me about it though he knew two of the guys and I’m sure he would guess there were more. If he knew the real number I know he would be very surprised.

+1 I am right there with you. I am nearly 62 and find it difficult to explain 80s level promiscuity prior to AID- it was a different world.

[Anonymous]

The circumstances under which someone may lie about these 2 things would be very different. Dating apps ask for age. Not # of lovers. Under what circumstances is the latter question even appropriate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know my age and never lie about it but I don’t know the number of guys I slept with. I’ve been married 35 years so my dating years is a real blur. I had a pretty wild life in the early 80s and I’ve done my best to forget a lot of it. My husband has never asked me about it though he knew two of the guys and I’m sure he would guess there were more. If he knew the real number I know he would be very surprised.

+1 I am right there with you. I am nearly 62 and find it difficult to explain 80s level promiscuity prior to AID- it was a different world.

It’s totally understandable to people who like / love sex, have lived in cities (or traveled), and haven’t been in long term monogamous relationships for all of our adult years. Especially if you practice safer sex and have sex with people with whom can talk about sex and safer practices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It may not be relevant to you, but it is very relevant to the majority of men searching for a partner.

No, it is not. I was married a long time. Our numbers never came up with him or any other man. (It was low).

I have never asked a man either.

It is irrelevant. Free of STDs is relevant. Not the number. It takes only one person to get an STD.

First, you are not a man, and your experience with them appears to be based on your experience with your ex-husband. He might not have carried about your numbers because he was/is a cuck, and it was not relevant to him.

Who cares if you ever asked a man about his body count? The statement you copied concerns men caring about a woman's body count. You need to understand what you read before posting.

Good men don’t ask or care.

[Anonymous]

Good men don’t ask or care.

They do both. If you have had sex with a lot of men, own it. But do not act like it does not matter.

Having sex with someone is the most intimate act two people can share. A woman shows a man how much value she places on herself, the relationship, and the man when she sleeps with him.

How can a woman tell a man he is "special" to her when she has shared herself with 30, 40, or 50 other men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

DP.Me and all my male serious partners, including my husband, have high counts which hasn't been a secret to any of us.

I'm aware that some men care, I just don't think it's my job to keep my count low to avoid offending some dude.

It is way more than "some men" who care.

What job do you have that made your body count high?

I don't know if it's some or more. My point is that thus hasn't been a problem for the type of men I want. And why is my profession relevant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Good men don’t ask or care.

They do both. If you have had sex with a lot of men, own it. But do not act like it does not matter.

Having sex with someone is the most intimate act two people can share. A woman shows a man how much value she places on herself, the relationship, and the man when she sleeps with him.

How can a woman tell a man he is "special" to her when she has shared herself with 30, 40, or 50 other men?

How can a man tell a woman she's special when he slept around?

[Anonymous]

How can a man tell a woman she's special when he slept around?

He cannot. Next?

[Anonymous]

I don't know if it's some or more. My point is that thus hasn't been a problem for the type of men I want. And why is my profession relevant?

Go back and read your post at 15:46.

In that post, you said it was not your job to keep your body count low to avoid offending some men. Your statement begs the question.

Whatever your profession, you need to do a better job proofreading your posts. For example, your post should read, "My point is that this hasn't been a problem...". You would have been better served by spending more time in class (and less time entertaining) during your college years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Good men don’t ask or care.

They do both. If you have had sex with a lot of men, own it. But do not act like it does not matter.

Having sex with someone is the most intimate act two people can share. A woman shows a man how much value she places on herself, the relationship, and the man when she sleeps with him.

How can a woman tell a man he is "special" to her when she has shared herself with 30, 40, or 50 other men?

How can a man tell a woman she's special when he slept around?

Maybe a woman doesn’t have sex just for love … and also - 50 men is still a very small percentage of the men that an adult woman meets over her lifetime. That’s just one a year for an average lifetime if you start having sex at 20 or 25.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I don't know if it's some or more. My point is that thus hasn't been a problem for the type of men I want. And why is my profession relevant?

Go back and read your post at 15:46.

In that post, you said it was not your job to keep your body count low to avoid offending some men. Your statement begs the question.

Whatever your profession, you need to do a better job proofreading your posts. For example, your post should read, "My point is that this hasn't been a problem...". You would have been better served by spending more time in class (and less time entertaining) during your college years.

Maybe you should learn to ask questions in a way that they're relevant to the topic at hand. Your question doesn't make any sense given the context within i used the word "job".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Good men don’t ask or care.

They do both. If you have had sex with a lot of men, own it. But do not act like it does not matter.

Having sex with someone is the most intimate act two people can share. A woman shows a man how much value she places on herself, the relationship, and the man when she sleeps with him.

How can a woman tell a man he is "special" to her when she has shared herself with 30, 40, or 50 other men?

How can a man tell a woman she's special when he slept around?

Maybe a woman doesn’t have sex just for love … and also - 50 men is still a very small percentage of the men that an adult woman meets over her lifetime. That’s just one a year for an average lifetime if you start having sex at 20 or 25.

I'm not the one expecting women to save themselves for men.

[Anonymous]

Maybe a woman doesn’t have sex just for love … and also - 50 men is still a very small percentage of the men that an adult woman meets over her lifetime. That’s just one a year for an average lifetime if you start having sex at 20 or 25.

Using the parameters in your example, a woman who started having sex at 20 and had one partner a year until she was 70 is reasonable. I do not see why she would feel the need to lie about how many men she was with during her lifetime.

A woman who started at 20 and who was at 50 partners by the time she was 30 (or 25) seems more likely to downplay her number. 50 men is a small number measured against 50 years, but not against 10 years (or five years.)

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should learn to ask questions in a way that they're relevant to the topic at hand. Your question doesn't make any sense given the context within i used the word "job".

Your imagination and lack of writing ability are limiting you.

In your reply, you took the word "job" to mean "employment," when in your original post, you used it to mean "a goal" (e.g., It is not my goal to keep my body count low when...). Using the word "job" as a synonym for goal, when asked what your job is (if it is not keeping your body count low), you could have responded with: my job is 1) finding a partner to care about, 2) enjoying life, or 3) simply loving men.

The way I used the word "job" in my reply allowed you to respond in kind. Do not do us both a disservice by responding that you did not have time to think about it. You took all the time you needed to respond, but you just did not do as thorough a job as you could have.

[Anonymous]

I'm not the one expecting women to save themselves for men.

No one is expecting anything. However, it would be nice if women (and men) focused on sex as something unique only to be shared with someone they loved.