Vent: Well-adjusted socially does not equal "villain"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how the title relates to the post (of which I read about 1.5 paragraphs).

OP is likely one of the posters who trivialized bulliying ("everyone is a bully sometimes") a few days ago, and is now back with the story of her own popular and nice kid and her mean friend.

Yes, OP, well adjusted doesn't equal villain. Far from it. And bullies will sometimes use victimhood as an instrument of torture. However, successful bullies as usually fairly popular. You can't ostracize others if you are yourself ostracized. You need others to join in or, at least, stand by, while you pursue your goal.

[Anonymous]

^^ talking about girl bullies. Loner bogy can be bullies because their bullying is often physically based.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I stopped reading and what I read I have no idea what I read. Makes me think OP is her DD!
Complete utter senseless rubbish.

Me too. OP's DD is the greatest thing since alice bread and some other kid is poo-poo garbage? Well good for you OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked ChatGPT to answer your queries so i didn't have to read it:

Advice for DD:

Set Boundaries:
DD should have an open conversation with Larla about how her actions make her feel.
Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining a healthy friendship.
Choose Friends Wisely:
DD can evaluate whether Larla’s behavior aligns with the kind of friend she wants.
True friends respect each other’s feelings and don’t spread rumors.
Empathy and Kindness:
Encourage DD to be empathetic but assertive.
She can acknowledge Larla’s feelings without compromising her own well-being.
Avoid Contributing to Gossip:
DD should refrain from participating in negative discussions about Larla.
Instead, she can focus on building positive connections with other friends.

Remember that friendships evolve, and it’s essential for DD to prioritize her emotional well-being. As a parent, continue supporting her and guiding her through these social dynamics.

Amazing. Why should anyone pay a therapist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pick-me is terrible language to use and an awful label to give girls and women. It comes from the Female Dating Strategy which is a horrible sexist movement that has been banned on many platforms.

OK but it is still a thing, and I don't find it sexist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked ChatGPT to answer your queries so i didn't have to read it:

Advice for DD:

Set Boundaries:
DD should have an open conversation with Larla about how her actions make her feel.
Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining a healthy friendship.
Choose Friends Wisely:
DD can evaluate whether Larla’s behavior aligns with the kind of friend she wants.
True friends respect each other’s feelings and don’t spread rumors.
Empathy and Kindness:
Encourage DD to be empathetic but assertive.
She can acknowledge Larla’s feelings without compromising her own well-being.
Avoid Contributing to Gossip:
DD should refrain from participating in negative discussions about Larla.
Instead, she can focus on building positive connections with other friends.

Remember that friendships evolve, and it’s essential for DD to prioritize her emotional well-being. As a parent, continue supporting her and guiding her through these social dynamics.

I'm dying. ChatGPT did such a good job.

[Anonymous]

OP sounds like a pick-me

[Anonymous]

OP, your post is long, but I feel sympathy for you and understand why you're frustrated. Growing up, I was never a victim, but I definitely witnessed such behavior and it sounds kind a common theme among teens. One of my friends was obsessed with tearing down a third friend behind her back. Larla may have low self-esteem and one unproductive way to handle that is to tear down someone else in a passive-aggressive way. It's easy for other parents to dismiss your concerns if they have never had a kid be a target. I think ChatGPT hit the nail on the head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked ChatGPT to answer your queries so i didn't have to read it:

Advice for DD:

Set Boundaries:
DD should have an open conversation with Larla about how her actions make her feel.
Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining a healthy friendship.
Choose Friends Wisely:
DD can evaluate whether Larla’s behavior aligns with the kind of friend she wants.
True friends respect each other’s feelings and don’t spread rumors.
Empathy and Kindness:
Encourage DD to be empathetic but assertive.
She can acknowledge Larla’s feelings without compromising her own well-being.
Avoid Contributing to Gossip:
DD should refrain from participating in negative discussions about Larla.

Is this really ChatGPT? You are my hero. In a million years, I wouldn't have thought of doing that.
Instead, she can focus on building positive connections with other friends.

Remember that friendships evolve, and it’s essential for DD to prioritize her emotional well-being. As a parent, continue supporting her and guiding her through these social dynamics.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Just wanted to thank those of you who read my post and responded kindly. A lot of helpful information, in between the criticism!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked ChatGPT to answer your queries so i didn't have to read it:

Advice for DD:

Set Boundaries:
DD should have an open conversation with Larla about how her actions make her feel.
Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining a healthy friendship.
Choose Friends Wisely:
DD can evaluate whether Larla’s behavior aligns with the kind of friend she wants.
True friends respect each other’s feelings and don’t spread rumors.
Empathy and Kindness:
Encourage DD to be empathetic but assertive.
She can acknowledge Larla’s feelings without compromising her own well-being.
Avoid Contributing to Gossip:
DD should refrain from participating in negative discussions about Larla.
Instead, she can focus on building positive connections with other friends.

Remember that friendships evolve, and it’s essential for DD to prioritize her emotional well-being. As a parent, continue supporting her and guiding her through these social dynamics.

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pick-me is terrible language to use and an awful label to give girls and women. It comes from the Female Dating Strategy which is a horrible sexist movement that has been banned on many platforms.

OK but it is still a thing, and I don't find it sexist.

Pick-me may not be sexist but it is a put-down. It's like all the other insults people on this board use to describe children outside their own child's social circle. Calling a child a pick-me is like calling them a slut or dimwit or mean girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All I read was your kid is mean. Yes you do something about it or is she just like you?

+1