DD betrayed by friends—Should I let her stay home?

[Anonymous]

This is where I'd take the blame for my kid. If you're confident your daughter doesn't want to go, text the other mom back some versions, "Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry...somehow it didn't make it onto my calendar and I mixed up and double booked us for this afternoon, so DD won't be able to make it after all I really apologize, and I hope it goes great!"

Will the other mom be annoyed? Likely. but it doesn't sound like you and she are going to be helping coordinate a lot of joint plans going forward anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the commitment though? It matters.

+1.

+2

[Anonymous]

Is OP going to come back and say what commitment is? As others posted, it absolutely matters. If commitments is to help paint friends room, that is very different than if commitment is to make sandwiches at homeless shelter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is where I'd take the blame for my kid. If you're confident your daughter doesn't want to go, text the other mom back some versions, "Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry...somehow it didn't make it onto my calendar and I mixed up and double booked us for this afternoon, so DD won't be able to make it after all I really apologize, and I hope it goes great!"

Will the other mom be annoyed? Likely. but it doesn't sound like you and she are going to be helping coordinate a lot of joint plans going forward anyway.

I would not make my daughter go and I also would not respond until after the event. Your daughter should manage this as she sees fit. She can totally drop the ball or make up an excuse. If I were her, I would make up a migraine or something. You “were at an event and didn’t look at your phone until later.” No need for you to get involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is OP going to come back and say what commitment is? As others posted, it absolutely matters. If commitments is to help paint friends room, that is very different than if commitment is to make sandwiches at homeless shelter.

She did. You just didn’t like the answer.

[Anonymous]

Thanks everyone. I let her stay home. And we had a conversation about the whole thing and man, girls can be so cruel! After our talk, I don’t feel bad at all. Of course, it’s one side of the story, but I still feel the same even if only 10% of her side is true.

[Anonymous]

Tell the other mom that you don’t think her child has communicated any details to yours so you assumed the plan had fallen through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is OP going to come back and say what commitment is? As others posted, it absolutely matters. If commitments is to help paint friends room, that is very different than if commitment is to make sandwiches at homeless shelter.

She did. You just didn’t like the answer.

Nope. Not that didn’t like answer. Did not see OP answer. If it was somewhere in the posts then of course on me for missing. Rest of my answer above still stands.