Why was I so angry about this?
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Anonymous
+1 And I will never stop calling it out. |
Anonymous
Stop living life, your husband is a liability and doesn’t care for his kids. |
Anonymous
This x a million. My kids are now in college but this was my life. I had to fight like a dog to get my DH to fully parent with me. It was exhausting but less exhausting than doing EVERYTHING |
Anonymous
Current DMVer here who literally grew up ski racing in Colorado. You need to chill. The judgement isn’t necessary. Falls happen and risk is certainly inherent in the sport, but it’s just not the mine field you’re making it out to be. I literally fell down the Headwall as a child and it was…fine. Most falls are usually…fine. Trust me that your kids will never get better unless they’re challenged. And falls happen when they’re challenged. OP, I’m glad your child is ok. I get these things can feel scary. I remember being in a few sticky situations on skis over the years, and I look back now in my 40s and am like…man those were the days! This will help build confidence in her ability if you frame it the right way. |
Anonymous
| Rent Force Majeure tonight. It will help you figure out what you’re feeling. |
Anonymous
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You're angry because that sucks, big time. I'm sorry.
Skiing parents take turns being with the youngest/unexperienced child. Unless you are not as into skiing and prefer the easier runs, then that parent takes the younger kids. Bottom line is that both parents are equally responsible. Maybe DH is supervising older kids on more difficult trails? If that's not the case, then I think you need to work out a system with DH where you alternate runs. That doesn't eliminate what you went through, though. That will always be a possibility when skiing with kids - hopefully it will happen when DH is on duty next time, but it could just as easily be you. |
Anonymous
Colorado ski racer poster here. Totally agree and I am telling my husband about how lame this poster is too. Some lame lady in Bethesda wants everyone to know she spent New Years AND Martin Luther King Jr. day in Colorado! SMH. |
Anonymous
With this kind of dad, it will arise in other contexts as well, and probably has. |
Anonymous
| A DH here. Sometimes you just need to let little Billy fall and get back up. He’s a big boy that’s needs his big boy pants. Also, as a model DH, I’d be trying to show my little Billy how to look cool skiing. Can’t do that from the rear. ⛷️😎 |
Anonymous
Billy will grow up thinking his father is an a-hole. |
Anonymous
And it doesn't look cool. It looks like a-hole behavior. |
Anonymous
| I never skied with my parents. I always skied with an instructor |
Anonymous
| The world is a hard place. No time like the present for little Billy to learn about it. |
Anonymous
This is nonsense. We live in a ski town, and my 5-year-old has been skiing blacks for over a year, and so do all his friends. Their local program includes lots of moguls and black diamonds, and the ski instructor leads them and waits for them to sort out their crashes (unless, of course, they are injured, then he hikes back up and helps them). When we ski with kids, I've always been the default back skier, though and I am a better skier than DH. I have a harder time watching them struggle, whereas he wants them to be tough and problem-solvers. I'm good with it, but if you only have a limited amount of days a year, I understand your frustration. The answer could be ski school or at least a couple of hours in a lesson so you can go do adult skiing. |
Anonymous
Right just zoom down the mountain looking super cool while your kid is on the ground. We definitely don’t all feel terrible for your wife. |