Please explain to me what a pick-me girl is

[Anonymous]

I just came across this and thought of dcum <3

https://www.buzzfeed.com/daniellaemanuel/pick-me-women-throw-under-bus

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just came across this and thought of dcum <3

https://www.buzzfeed.com/daniellaemanuel/pick-me-women-throw-under-bus

Yep! Pick me girls! Another that I seen recently on social media is the "I'm not a feminist, of course I can cook". Or some variation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just came across this and thought of dcum <3

https://www.buzzfeed.com/daniellaemanuel/pick-me-women-throw-under-bus

Yep! Pick me girls! Another that I seen recently on social media is the "I'm not a feminist, of course I can cook". Or some variation.

Ew, I dont even know what that means lol.

[Anonymous]

The lame singer Pink is the ultimate poster child for "Pick Me" girls. Ugh I cannot stand her, she disgusts me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some other examples from music (I actually like/d a lot of pick me music back in the day haha)

Misery Business
She's got a body like an hourglass, it's ticking like a clock
It's a matter of time before we all run out
When I thought he was mine, she caught him by the mouth
I waited eight long months, she finally set him free
I told him I couldn't lie, he was the only one for me
Two weeks and we had caught on fire
She's got it out for me, but I wear the biggest smile
Whoa, I never meant to brag
But I got him where I want him now
Whoa, it was never my intention to brag
To steal it all away from you now

She "stole" the guy from the hourglass hottie and is bragging about it.

Taylor Swift You Belong With Me is a pick me, Pussycat dolls "doncha wish your girlfriend was a freak like me", Avril Lavigne Sk8er boi and I dont like your girlfriend, Alanis Morisette You Otta Know.

If you read the lyrics you can get a sense of the comparison/putting down that makes someone a pick me.

The first of these might be 'pick me' but not the others - not even You Belong With Me and especially not You Oughta No. Longing for someone or anger that you were dumped does not make one a 'pick me' girl.

You Belong with Me is a pick-me anthem. The whole song is about how Taylor is perfect for this guy because she’s not like other girls, but she really gets him.

Nothing in those lyrics indicate that Taylor is 'not like other girls'. She's just not like the girl her love interest is with right now. Taylor compares/contrasts herself only with that girl but isn't judging her - only that she is the opposite of that girl and is a better fit for their shared love interest.

I've experienced this except the other way around. My DH (married 25+ years) is not someone who I would have dated in college. I would have partied with him but nothing more because he wasn't what I thought 'my type' was like. Turns out, 'my type' didn't get my humor, didn't like my music, was more high maintenance than I was (but they definitely looked good!), and just wasn't as easy to be with as my DH - very similar to Taylor's song. It took me a while to see that a guy like my DH was really what I was looking for. Definitely not a 'pick me' situation.

No, sorry, you're wrong. "She wears short skirts, I wear t-shirts; She wears high heels, I wear sneakers; I'm listening to the kind of music she doesn't like" is the epitome of Pick Me attitude. You don't get it and that's okay.

[Anonymous]

Any girl that is constantly doing anything for attention - the look at how wonderful I am girl.

The girl that has to post a dissertation with pics on her life daily - because otherwise how could we all tell you how wonderful you are or how you are doing it so much better than everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any girl that is constantly doing anything for attention - the look at how wonderful I am girl.

The girl that has to post a dissertation with pics on her life daily - because otherwise how could we all tell you how wonderful you are or how you are doing it so much better than everyone else.

Nope. Pick Me is much more specific than doing things for attention, even attention from men, even attention from a specific man or a specific subset of men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some other examples from music (I actually like/d a lot of pick me music back in the day haha)

Misery Business
She's got a body like an hourglass, it's ticking like a clock
It's a matter of time before we all run out
When I thought he was mine, she caught him by the mouth
I waited eight long months, she finally set him free
I told him I couldn't lie, he was the only one for me
Two weeks and we had caught on fire
She's got it out for me, but I wear the biggest smile
Whoa, I never meant to brag
But I got him where I want him now
Whoa, it was never my intention to brag
To steal it all away from you now

She "stole" the guy from the hourglass hottie and is bragging about it.

Taylor Swift You Belong With Me is a pick me, Pussycat dolls "doncha wish your girlfriend was a freak like me", Avril Lavigne Sk8er boi and I dont like your girlfriend, Alanis Morisette You Otta Know.

If you read the lyrics you can get a sense of the comparison/putting down that makes someone a pick me.

The first of these might be 'pick me' but not the others - not even You Belong With Me and especially not You Oughta No. Longing for someone or anger that you were dumped does not make one a 'pick me' girl.

You Belong with Me is a pick-me anthem. The whole song is about how Taylor is perfect for this guy because she’s not like other girls, but she really gets him.

Nothing in those lyrics indicate that Taylor is 'not like other girls'. She's just not like the girl her love interest is with right now. Taylor compares/contrasts herself only with that girl but isn't judging her - only that she is the opposite of that girl and is a better fit for their shared love interest.

I've experienced this except the other way around. My DH (married 25+ years) is not someone who I would have dated in college. I would have partied with him but nothing more because he wasn't what I thought 'my type' was like. Turns out, 'my type' didn't get my humor, didn't like my music, was more high maintenance than I was (but they definitely looked good!), and just wasn't as easy to be with as my DH - very similar to Taylor's song. It took me a while to see that a guy like my DH was really what I was looking for. Definitely not a 'pick me' situation.

No, sorry, you're wrong. "She wears short skirts, I wear t-shirts; She wears high heels, I wear sneakers; I'm listening to the kind of music she doesn't like" is the epitome of Pick Me attitude. You don't get it and that's okay.

Yes.
PP is allowed to her opinion, but the song is definitely a well known pick me anthem.

[Anonymous]

Commenters are conflating Pick Me with Not Like Other Girls

[Anonymous]

Pick Me's are desperate and degrade themselves to attract male attention. They wear push up bras and have hobbies like porn and beer.

Not Like Other Girls are insecure and insult popular women for doing normal, reasonable, attractive things. "You Belongs With Me" is a female incel anthem woman who won't take action to attract a man, and sit at home reading romance novels.

[Anonymous]

Soft girls are wannabe trophy wives.

[Anonymous]

Per my 11yo
It’s the girl who when someone needs a volunteer in class or similar she’s always got her hand up “ pick me” … thinks she’s special
All the time and wants the attention. It’s not a compliment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Commenters are conflating Pick Me with Not Like Other Girls

What is the difference? I always thought that "Not like other Girls" was the (or one of the) defining features of Pick Mes. "Pick me because I'm not like other girls."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some other examples from music (I actually like/d a lot of pick me music back in the day haha)

Misery Business
She's got a body like an hourglass, it's ticking like a clock
It's a matter of time before we all run out
When I thought he was mine, she caught him by the mouth
I waited eight long months, she finally set him free
I told him I couldn't lie, he was the only one for me
Two weeks and we had caught on fire
She's got it out for me, but I wear the biggest smile
Whoa, I never meant to brag
But I got him where I want him now
Whoa, it was never my intention to brag
To steal it all away from you now

She "stole" the guy from the hourglass hottie and is bragging about it.

Taylor Swift You Belong With Me is a pick me, Pussycat dolls "doncha wish your girlfriend was a freak like me", Avril Lavigne Sk8er boi and I dont like your girlfriend, Alanis Morisette You Otta Know.

If you read the lyrics you can get a sense of the comparison/putting down that makes someone a pick me.

The first of these might be 'pick me' but not the others - not even You Belong With Me and especially not You Oughta No. Longing for someone or anger that you were dumped does not make one a 'pick me' girl.

You Belong with Me is a pick-me anthem. The whole song is about how Taylor is perfect for this guy because she’s not like other girls, but she really gets him.

Nothing in those lyrics indicate that Taylor is 'not like other girls'. She's just not like the girl her love interest is with right now. Taylor compares/contrasts herself only with that girl but isn't judging her - only that she is the opposite of that girl and is a better fit for their shared love interest.

I've experienced this except the other way around. My DH (married 25+ years) is not someone who I would have dated in college. I would have partied with him but nothing more because he wasn't what I thought 'my type' was like. Turns out, 'my type' didn't get my humor, didn't like my music, was more high maintenance than I was (but they definitely looked good!), and just wasn't as easy to be with as my DH - very similar to Taylor's song. It took me a while to see that a guy like my DH was really what I was looking for. Definitely not a 'pick me' situation.

No, sorry, you're wrong. "She wears short skirts, I wear t-shirts; She wears high heels, I wear sneakers; I'm listening to the kind of music she doesn't like" is the epitome of Pick Me attitude. You don't get it and that's okay.

DP and agree with this. Also if you've ever seen the video for this song, it's extra obvious that it's about tearing down the other girl (who, twist, is also played by Taylor in the video, in a brunette wig) because she is portrayed as this vapid, selfish, attention-seeking girl who is just using the guy, complete with evil glances over her shoulder to show you she's in on it. Not like the "good" Taylor who is wholesome and goofy, wears glasses, does her homework, and doesn't care about all that shallow BS the "bad" Taylor does.

And then the end of the video is literally the guy picking "good" Taylor over the "bad" Taylor, serving as wish fulfillment for pick-me girls everywhere. This goes straight to the psychology of pick-me girls, who don't just want to get the guy -- they want the guy to validate them by choosing them OVER some other woman who the pick-me girl has identified as her nemesis. It's about a man saying, "Actually, I don't even like girls like *that* -- you're better than she is." External validation, specifically from men, to help them get over childish competitions they've created in their own heads with other women in their lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The lame singer Pink is the ultimate poster child for "Pick Me" girls. Ugh I cannot stand her, she disgusts me.

Umm Pink is amazing so you’re wrong there. And even if I didn’t have that bias she is no way a pick me girl.