Are all men horndogs?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband would be happy to have sex 1-2 times a week but I want it every day, multiple times if he can manage. It’s me, hi. I’m the horndog, it’s me.

That was me and then he stopped wanting sex at all.

Yes we went through that as well and a lot of drama (I didn't want to be sexless in my 30s), with a lot of marriage counseling we basically somehow returned to a point where he enjoys sex with me and wants it somewhat regularly. I know if I didn't make it easy and really enjoyable for HIM we would basically never have sex, so I make it extremely easy and enjoyable for him. He isn't bad, though, he gets me there every time as well.

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This is one extreme. I was married to the opposite extreme. No sex 7 out of 10 years—and I was in my 30s.

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Yeah wish my DH had a higher libido.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Trade ya. Mine has no interest.

Same here. He’s never showed consistent interest. It’s killed me emotionally. Slow painful death. Would rather be in your shoes.

Me three.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband would be happy to have sex 1-2 times a week but I want it every day, multiple times if he can manage. It’s me, hi. I’m the horndog, it’s me.

Me too! Female horndog here.

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Is it really that hard to lay on your back and spread your legs for 10 minutes if it makes your husband (who you say you love) happy? You make it sound like it's some gigantic chore. I don't always want it when DH does, but I rarely deny him. It's just not that big a deal to let him bend me over.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it really that hard to lay on your back and spread your legs for 10 minutes if it makes your husband (who you say you love) happy? You make it sound like it's some gigantic chore. I don't always want it when DH does, but I rarely deny him. It's just not that big a deal to let him bend me over.

I wish my wife thought the way you did. With us it only happens when she's in the mood (since she knows I'm always in the mood).

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Anonymous wrote:Happily married 40 year old woman here. I’ve been with my husband for 13 years, we have kids together and a great life. However, he literally wants to have sex every day and when we aren’t having sex I can tell he wants to or is thinking about it. Is this normal? Don’t get me wrong - I love him and all that, but with both of us working from home now for YEARS since the pandemic, I find it annoying. I wouldn’t have to deal with this if I was going into an office. There are so many things on my mind (big and small) and again, we have a good sex life, but are all guys like this? I’m starting to wonder if he needs a hobby or more stress in his life. His job is very low stress.

My husband is 59 and he's like this. I keep waiting for him to slow down, but...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it really that hard to lay on your back and spread your legs for 10 minutes if it makes your husband (who you say you love) happy? You make it sound like it's some gigantic chore. I don't always want it when DH does, but I rarely deny him. It's just not that big a deal to let him bend me over.

I agree with you. I am high libido but even if I’m not in the mood I’ll do it with DH and 99.9% of the time it’s great! I think possibly women don’t realize that desire changes after you have been with someone for a long time. You have to sort of get yourself worked up. My body no longer physically responds to DH the way it did while we were dating, nor will I o quite as fast, but once we get started, it’s just as good for me. The “old” feeling isn’t coming back but that’s ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it really that hard to lay on your back and spread your legs for 10 minutes if it makes your husband (who you say you love) happy? You make it sound like it's some gigantic chore. I don't always want it when DH does, but I rarely deny him. It's just not that big a deal to let him bend me over.

Actually. It is. Because when I lie on my back (or bend over) and spread my legs he knows I’m only doing it to make him happy. He wants me to be enthusiastic and horny and seductive and not to “fake it”. I wish I was a better actress but I’m not. So he’s disappointed and I feel stupid.

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Anonymous wrote:Married 15 years, also 40 with 4 school aged kids. My husband wants it every day but I lean into it and kind of like it. I’m so appreciative he’s taken good care of himself and is so good in bed! I’m so spoiled by him in this way.

I try to do my part by making sure to have lingerie he likes and having fun surprises for him sometimes like a suprise overnight in a hotel or buying a sex toy at the adult toy store and having him go to pick it up on his way home 😂 I want him to know I appreciate him.
I would rather be like this than a crabby old man who never wants it!

This post is actually written by a man!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is it really that hard to lay on your back and spread your legs for 10 minutes if it makes your husband (who you say you love) happy? You make it sound like it's some gigantic chore. I don't always want it when DH does, but I rarely deny him. It's just not that big a deal to let him bend me over.

Actually. It is. Because when I lie on my back (or bend over) and spread my legs he knows I’m only doing it to make him happy. He wants me to be enthusiastic and horny and seductive and not to “fake it”. I wish I was a better actress but I’m not. So he’s disappointed and I feel stupid.

A lot of this might be on your DH. Does he make it good for you? Does he know what gets you going? Sex is supposed to be fun and feel good. I feel like if you don’t want to do it, there has to be an underlying reason.

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Anonymous wrote:Happily married 40 year old woman here. I’ve been with my husband for 13 years, we have kids together and a great life. However, he literally wants to have sex every day and when we aren’t having sex I can tell he wants to or is thinking about it. Is this normal? Don’t get me wrong - I love him and all that, but with both of us working from home now for YEARS since the pandemic, I find it annoying. I wouldn’t have to deal with this if I was going into an office. There are so many things on my mind (big and small) and again, we have a good sex life, but are all guys like this? I’m starting to wonder if he needs a hobby or more stress in his life. His job is very low stress.

yeah, my husband would 100 percent have sex every day. Also in our 40s. I know that every night he always holds out hope... (we end up doing it a couple times a week).

I don't think there is anything wrong with him?

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Anonymous wrote:Is it really that hard to lay on your back and spread your legs for 10 minutes if it makes your husband (who you say you love) happy? You make it sound like it's some gigantic chore. I don't always want it when DH does, but I rarely deny him. It's just not that big a deal to let him bend me over.

Actually. It is. Because when I lie on my back (or bend over) and spread my legs he knows I’m only doing it to make him happy. He wants me to be enthusiastic and horny and seductive and not to “fake it”. I wish I was a better actress but I’m not. So he’s disappointed and I feel stupid.

Is he good at acting enthusiastic and interested when you want to talk about your feelings or gossip about people he doesn’t care about? This is the equivalent male skill.

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We have sex about once a month because of her low libido. I service myself daily to avoid resentment toward dw and anxiety.