Young Professional DD Self Harm Event

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The issue is not this guy, per se, OP. It's whatever has gone awry in your DD's sense of self that she chose him and in response to being cheated on, chose a dramatic gesture that could have ended her life. He does not fit at all with the rest of her choices but represents something very stark about how she truly sees herself in the world.

Does she have some abuse or trauma history? Assault or bullying?

Thank you for your post. I believe it is insightful and likely accurate.

I am not aware of abuse or trauma.

[Anonymous]

OP, is your daughter attractive? Does she attract male interest? Is she overweight? She might need some help in this area. She seems to be falling short in her romantic life.

Her boyfriend looks like an unscrupulous user. She likely felt for him because she felt she had no better options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, is your daughter attractive? Does she attract male interest? Is she overweight? She might need some help in this area. She seems to be falling short in her romantic life.

Her boyfriend looks like an unscrupulous user. She likely felt for him because she felt she had no better options.

My DD is attractive.

She goes to the gym and dresses well.

I know of one unrequited crush but I remember being young and that was a normal part of growing up.

When my DW did question her interest in this young man she did tell my wife he’s the only one that asked. It pained me to hear this. Her college days were interrupted by Covid and they did meet during the shutdown.

As I was unaware of her relationship I often wondered why my DD was not attracting romantic interest. I actually wondered if she was a unintentionally intimidating the young men - she is attractive, top 1% of HS class, 99 percentile SATs - she actually sets quite a high bar.

She did have a rough college admission cycle. Not unlike a lot of other high stat kids - she had the stats for the Ivies but unfortunately she was shut out and attended our State’s flagship and was part of the honors cohort. I often wondered if that hit her hard. We have neighbors whose children have been accepted to the HYP Ivies without my DD’s academic credentials - for the most part they have been athletes - which again did not sit well with my DD.

But to honestly answer your question - my DD is objectively attractive, regularly attends the gym, and cares for her appearance.

[Anonymous]

is she shy? clearly she needs a man in his life. maybe help setting her up?

college is not important any more, she seems to have a better job than many ivy grads. no need to dwell on that.