Why do people pick on and complain about fat/obese people so much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently got diagnosed with high blood pressure (which runs in my family, including my mother and grandmother who were skinny skinny people who didn't work at it at all, and were at the heart of all the condemnation in my family because they consider being overweight an intentional moral failure) so I really need to drop some weight because I don't like taking medications. So I'm back to really unhealthy eating patterns, eliminating entire categories of food from my diet and in such small quantities that I'm dropping 10 pounds a month, and here we go again..."Oh you're doing SO great! Wow you look great! Isn't it great to be so healthy? What did you do? I want to tell my sister so she can get skinny too". I haven't had anything that tasted good in months (because now even salt is off the table, along with sugar and wheat), I haven't been full in forever, and I get really woozy when I stand up too fast. But this is all for my "health", right guys?

Sounds like you're just eating like a normal thin person, TBH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of the really extreme anti-fat people comments are made by men who are basically upset that women aren’t out there looking aesthetically pleasing, to them, at all times. That’s it. The same people who complain about the dyed hair, facial piercings, tattoos, “unflattering” clothing, etc. And the pick me women who want to get attention and acceptance from that crowd. Normal people don’t really care honestly. Yes there’s the “obesity drives up everyone’s health insurance premiums etc.” excuses but let’s be honest … even if we in the US had a lower population obesity rate similar to countries in Western Europe, the crooked insurance companies would still find ways to screw us, and age/having an aging population drives up insurance and health care costs just as much if not more.

This is to some extent true and reasonable. Just like I wouldn't want Brutalist architecture in my city or rundown slums on my block, well, you get the idea.

Trash your body if you like, but it doesn't mean other people have to pretend you're beautiful.

FWIW, I have never met a man or woman of any size, shape, or ability whom I did not find beautiful if they were taking care of themselves to the best of their ability. It shines through.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I recently got diagnosed with high blood pressure (which runs in my family, including my mother and grandmother who were skinny skinny people who didn't work at it at all, and were at the heart of all the condemnation in my family because they consider being overweight an intentional moral failure) so I really need to drop some weight because I don't like taking medications. So I'm back to really unhealthy eating patterns, eliminating entire categories of food from my diet and in such small quantities that I'm dropping 10 pounds a month, and here we go again..."Oh you're doing SO great! Wow you look great! Isn't it great to be so healthy? What did you do? I want to tell my sister so she can get skinny too". I haven't had anything that tasted good in months (because now even salt is off the table, along with sugar and wheat), I haven't been full in forever, and I get really woozy when I stand up too fast. But this is all for my "health", right guys?

Sounds like you're just eating like a normal thin person, TBH.

Normal thin people do not eliminate entire categories of food. Surely you know that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been both, and I agree that it's eye opening. I was normal weight for my early/teen years, and never noticed anything. Then I gained weight due to a medical condition in my 20s. In my 30s, I suffered from anorexia to finally get the weigh monkey off my back (and don't say, oh you shouldn't have done that -- 'regular' just-eat-less-and-exercise-more methods didn't work due to my condition, so I had to literally starve myself). I can tell you that NOTHING that you do in life will be as well praised as losing the weight. Not my doctorate, not research work, not charitable work, nothing. The world opens up to you -- people treat you better and nicer, etc. They told me how 'healthy' I looked, even though I didn't, and my blood work was insanely bad.

After I had my child and didn't have time to obsessively starve myself any more and finally got enough calories in my system, the weight came back on to my set point (without crazy eating, just eating like a normal person), which is overweight. I recently got diagnosed with high blood pressure (which runs in my family, including my mother and grandmother who were skinny skinny people who didn't work at it at all, and were at the heart of all the condemnation in my family because they consider being overweight an intentional moral failure) so I really need to drop some weight because I don't like taking medications. So I'm back to really unhealthy eating patterns, eliminating entire categories of food from my diet and in such small quantities that I'm dropping 10 pounds a month, and here we go again..."Oh you're doing SO great! Wow you look great! Isn't it great to be so healthy? What did you do? I want to tell my sister so she can get skinny too". I haven't had anything that tasted good in months (because now even salt is off the table, along with sugar and wheat), I haven't been full in forever, and I get really woozy when I stand up too fast. But this is all for my "health", right guys?

But I'll be back in skinny world/skinny female reality again very soon, but now I see it for what it is.

Kind of weird that you take on your eating disorder is incredulity over compliments. You have to tune that out and focus on your health, especially because you are a parent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I recently got diagnosed with high blood pressure (which runs in my family, including my mother and grandmother who were skinny skinny people who didn't work at it at all, and were at the heart of all the condemnation in my family because they consider being overweight an intentional moral failure) so I really need to drop some weight because I don't like taking medications. So I'm back to really unhealthy eating patterns, eliminating entire categories of food from my diet and in such small quantities that I'm dropping 10 pounds a month, and here we go again..."Oh you're doing SO great! Wow you look great! Isn't it great to be so healthy? What did you do? I want to tell my sister so she can get skinny too". I haven't had anything that tasted good in months (because now even salt is off the table, along with sugar and wheat), I haven't been full in forever, and I get really woozy when I stand up too fast. But this is all for my "health", right guys?

Sounds like you're just eating like a normal thin person, TBH.

Normal thin people do not eliminate entire categories of food. Surely you know that?

Um...normal thin person here. I don't eat processed foods or candy. Pretty sure those aren't food groups, but rather empty calories.

[Anonymous]

I don't think anyone hates fat people. I do think fat people hate skinny people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think anyone hates fat people. I do think fat people hate skinny people.

^^This. Adele got in shape and was basically maligned as a traitor to the fats.

[Anonymous]

I don’t hate fat people. I feel sorry for them.

But I do hate when a fat person sits next to me on a plane and thinks it’s ok to lift the armrest so they have enough room. Or when their body flows over to my space - I don’t want to touch a stranger on public transportation.

I don’t like sleeping on mattresses in hotels that have a giant valley because of all the obese people who typically sleep on it.

I don’t like being hassled because I don’t like fast food, donuts, soda, etc and being told that I’m “no fun”.

I’m tired of size inflation because it’s impossible to buy clothes online. I used to be a medium and now I’m an extra small although I’m the same size as I was decades ago.

And I don’t like my health insurance premiums going up to cover the chronic diseases that obesity brings.

[Anonymous]

If people want to increase their risk for various health conditions; it’s on them. I do feel bad for people with true medical conditions that make it difficult to lose weight. I am currently about five pounds overweight and it’s tough to get it off even without a medical issue - so I don’t judge.

It does annoy me when I have to sit on a plane next to someone who doesn’t fit in a seat and their fat is getting into my space. But you have to be pretty overweight for that to happen, not just ‘plus sized’. Truly obese people, I don’t get it. Like how do you let it get to that point.

[Anonymous]

I judge parents with significantly overweight or obese kids. You are the parent; YOU control what they eat. Stop feeding them garbage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I recently got diagnosed with high blood pressure (which runs in my family, including my mother and grandmother who were skinny skinny people who didn't work at it at all, and were at the heart of all the condemnation in my family because they consider being overweight an intentional moral failure) so I really need to drop some weight because I don't like taking medications. So I'm back to really unhealthy eating patterns, eliminating entire categories of food from my diet and in such small quantities that I'm dropping 10 pounds a month, and here we go again..."Oh you're doing SO great! Wow you look great! Isn't it great to be so healthy? What did you do? I want to tell my sister so she can get skinny too". I haven't had anything that tasted good in months (because now even salt is off the table, along with sugar and wheat), I haven't been full in forever, and I get really woozy when I stand up too fast. But this is all for my "health", right guys?

Sounds like you're just eating like a normal thin person, TBH.

Normal thin people do not eliminate entire categories of food. Surely you know that?

Um...normal thin person here. I don't eat processed foods or candy. Pretty sure those aren't food groups, but rather empty calories.

Don't forget about vegetarians and vegans, totally bizarre and abnormal! And don't get me started on the millions of Jews and Muslims who don't eat shellfish or pork. Eating disorder much!?

[Anonymous]

What i don’t get is the judgement for taking Ozempic. If being fat is truly unhealthy and taxing to the health care system, why aren’t we embracing it as a solution?it seems to work better than anything else.

I’m a healthy weight through absolutely no fault of my own. Sure I exercise and move but it’s mostly because I just happen to possess the correct hungry and full signals, the right genes, and whatever brain chemistry that makes the “right” choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think anyone hates fat people. I do think fat people hate skinny people.

Haha. Gaslighting.

[Anonymous]

I'm late forties. I've been fighting depression and anxiety since my late 20's - which is when I steadily gained a lot of weight. Eating too much is a mental and physical coping mechanism for me. When you feel bad about yourself, how you look, how you feel in your own body and clothes most of the time, life is pretty miserable. Not making excuses or looking for a pity party. I have a lot to be grateful for, but I still can't shake the feeling of comfort I get from food when I am stressed - I guess like some who turn to alcohol or marijuana. I've been to counselors, psychologists, and on many medications for depression and anxiety - and I still am. But it seems that a certain level of depression is just inescapable for me... like there's a mental problem that medications can't fully fix.

I'm 6'1" and I've been as high as 360 lbs. My weight has fluctuated between 260-300 lbs the last decade. I've accepted that there are a lot of people that look at me with disgust, and that there ARE some people who have a strange visceral hatred (not just a dislike) of obese people. I will spend $$$ to fly first class if I must fly. I don't go to concerts or shows. I am used to children who have no filter calling me fat, a whale, and some just flat out asking me why I am so fat. Which I answer matter of fact saying I don't eat well or get enough exercise.

I am otherwise successful. I am married, I have two healthy kids and a high income even by DCUM standards. So you would think I could shake the addiction and do better for myself, and my family. But real depression is a serious problem - and I don't think most people can appreciate how it affects people. They think they can and do, relating it to their own moments of stress, anxiety and trials and tribulations in their lives. And they think that gives them the license to judge and ridicule fat people openly or discreetly. Which is unfortunate. But live isn't easy for most people. My problem is just one that's plainly visible for all to see.

[Anonymous]

OP: The simple answer — and I say that as someone who isn’t fat, with no fat people in the family — is that they are angry and miserable people. I cannot imagine writing what some of the PPs did. The person who said she didn’t want her kid to be friends with fat kids is horrifying, for instance. I’d rather not even have kids if that is the kind of thing I’m teaching them. Her house must be a place of emotional misery.