Holiday cards are the worst

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re not going to be able to avoid children in public. It will be simpler to learn to deal with your disappointment and anger. I have children but had to give up my big career entirely, and all around me I see people who are thriving in their big careers. They’re not doing it to mock me.

You have children. Are you just trying to rub that in OP’s face?

[Anonymous]

Good grief. You people have no compassion. Op is feeling a lot of pain. Stop commenting on this thread if you have nothing kind to offer.

[Anonymous]

Good grief. You people have no compassion. Op is feeling a lot of pain. Stop commenting on this thread if you have nothing kind to offer.

No. She's literally complaining about the existence of families, as if people who have children are actively trying to hurt her. This is not a healthy or reasonable perspective. She needs to go to therapy to learn the skills to put things into perspective and deal with her emotions as an adult.

[Anonymous]

OP I hope you keep this in mind if/when you have children. Do not send out cards with family pictures. Do not post family pictures on Facebook. You'll just be inflicting pain on others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Good grief. You people have no compassion. Op is feeling a lot of pain. Stop commenting on this thread if you have nothing kind to offer.

No. She's literally complaining about the existence of families, as if people who have children are actively trying to hurt her. This is not a healthy or reasonable perspective. She needs to go to therapy to learn the skills to put things into perspective and deal with her emotions as an adult.

No, she isn’t. She’s complaining about the holiday cards that, rather than focusing on offering good wishes to the recipient, focus on telling the recipient how perfect their family is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good grief. You people have no compassion. Op is feeling a lot of pain. Stop commenting on this thread if you have nothing kind to offer.

+1. She was anonymously venting on the Infertility forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re not going to be able to avoid children in public. It will be simpler to learn to deal with your disappointment and anger. I have children but had to give up my big career entirely, and all around me I see people who are thriving in their big careers. They’re not doing it to mock me.

You have children. Are you just trying to rub that in OP’s face?

Exactly. Why are you commenting on this thread?

[Anonymous]

OP, if you feel the need for support then I suggest joining one of the Resolve groups. You won’t find these trolls there.

[Anonymous]

No, she isn’t. She’s complaining about the holiday cards that, rather than focusing on offering good wishes to the recipient, focus on telling the recipient how perfect their family is.

But they're not claiming to have perfect families. Maybe they spent years and tens of thousands of dollars to achieve their dream of having a family. Maybe they have lots of friends and family members who are truly happy to see photos of them. Maybe they had a shitastic year but took one great family photo and are trying to make the best of a tough situation. You have no idea what's going on in people's lives, so maybe give them the benefit of the doubt that if they spent time and money to send you a holiday card that they aren't trying to hurt you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

No, she isn’t. She’s complaining about the holiday cards that, rather than focusing on offering good wishes to the recipient, focus on telling the recipient how perfect their family is.

But they're not claiming to have perfect families. Maybe they spent years and tens of thousands of dollars to achieve their dream of having a family. Maybe they have lots of friends and family members who are truly happy to see photos of them. Maybe they had a shitastic year but took one great family photo and are trying to make the best of a tough situation. You have no idea what's going on in people's lives, so maybe give them the benefit of the doubt that if they spent time and money to send you a holiday card that they aren't trying to hurt you.

You seem way too invested in this.

[Anonymous]

Been there OP. Best wishes to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t open them and don’t display them.

Best wishes!

+1

FFS, why would you torture yourself this way?

[Anonymous]

You seem way too invested in this.

You seem unable to see beyond the end of your own nose. People who send Christmas cards are not doing it to be hurtful. Anyone who cannot understand this could use a few sessions with a therapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You seem way too invested in this.

You seem unable to see beyond the end of your own nose. People who send Christmas cards are not doing it to be hurtful. Anyone who cannot understand this could use a few sessions with a therapist.

GO AWAY

Have the day you deserve

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People say it a lot, but OP needs therapy to reverse her destructive worldview.

Therapy might help, but OP is just venting. OP, I give you permission to not open the cards!